My ex never cooked or did any household chores. I did it all, most men these days are very self sufficient. It would have been nice to have help , especially when I was working two full-time jobs and had to come home cook clean and get ready for the next shift , but I'm used to women who don't do any work at all.
"Work is what men do" as my sister always says.
That was a long time ago, I stayed single ever since. I have little motivation to go back to that life.
@slartybartfast damn lol such women mhhhhh
It doesnāt hurt, but thatās not really true to me. In fact I do most of all the cooking all the time lol. But the way to my heart, is just attention and affection. Showing signs of love, feeling validated, touch, romance, etc.
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u Doesn't matter to me because I can cook as well as or better than most women, but my girlfriend prefers her Chinese cooking (which is very good) so we have all the bases covered. As soon as I read the title of the post, I started hearing that old song about "can she bake a cherry pie, Billy Boy, Billy Boy?"
So can I, in fact, I rather do the cooking. It's not so much as a love to cook, I just like the confidence that comes from being able to make almost any dish a person would want and do it well. With this said though, I consider any person male or female that refuses to cook, or sticks to microwave snacks to simply be lazy. As a female, if I start to notice you do this I will start to pull away from you!
I can cook okay, no Julia childs or anything but it'll be good and edible lolBut my husband really enjoyed cooking, so he did most of the cooking till the last year of his life
I can cook ok. I just donāt like to and I avoid it when I can.
Iām pretty good at cooking.
Does it matter if a person canāt cook? No, I wouldnāt not date someone because they canāt cook but I hope the know Iāll teach them. I do think itās bad a person doesnāt know how to coolā¦ Iāll just wonder what the hell theyāve been eating.
My ex didnāt know how to cook, he said he didnāt but overcooking beef so it rubbery, buying premade pasta sausage and overcooking pasta isnāt itā¦ once showed him how easy it is to make pasta sauce from scratch and he was like āokay calm down Gordon Ramsayā for literally making a homemade sauceā¦😂 so please, man or woman, learn how to frickin cook
I'm glad you can cook cause it definitely matters
I made my way into his stomach with my cooking ability... But unfortunately not his heart.
So that tells me that he had already decide that we were not compatible long before we ate.
Simple thing is this.
A man looking to commit will look for the positives in a woman and see if he can work with that. we as women do the same.
Sometimes relationships are chemical sometimes they logical and practical.
Sex and all those other things can actually be worked on...
Think about it. If a man and woman can be happy in an arranged marriage the hook up culture Is Shite!
there's no key except respect, trust openness and clear communication oh and some level of resilience.
There are NO EXCUSES if you are a woman who can't cook. I'm a 20 yo in college and I can cook. Don't mean to brag, but I am good at it actually, and I'm self-taught. I live on my own without roommates, so if I don't cook then I will not have the chance to eat. It's called being an adult. You have to put in effort to actually improve, and girls need to stop thinking that it's "cute" being a girl that can't cook.
If I can do it, anyone can.
I think today we don't really need woman to cook the life have totally changed the mindset the way people thinking is just different maybe some men their heart in their stomach but not All. I think today's smart men would never be with modern woman they have zero skills and full of ego and they bring nothing to the table. I cook my meals washing my clothes and all other things. I always wanted peaceful loyal woman but couldn't find one most are irritated and broken inside and barley can do her things
I learned to cook at my grandmothers knee, doing pastries/sponge cakes by the time I was 7, stews and casseroles by 10, full meals by 12, My class was the last in Secondary School to do Home Economics in the late 70's,
Every woman that I've had a relationship with has had to have at least the same skills in the kitchen as I have, and I'm in no way up to professional standards.
Cooking for and sitting down to eat with people is a way of getting to know them that is a set of skills that most younger women either have forgotten or have never been taught them.
u I know how to cook, but Iām not able to cook anymore. 9/10 of the time I faint or pass out in front of a stove 😬 health conditions arenāt fun. But I still manage to get relationships reasonably easily.
What do you mean?
Thatās private but it makes me get heat stroke really easily, aswell as make my blood pressure drop fast. So if Iām standing still for too long I collapse, or if Iām standing over a hot stove for more than a few minutes I get dizzy and can collapse if I donāt walk away.
Just an old wives tale, food is not the way to a mans heart if it were men wouldn't cheat, or stray, or divorce. Idc if they do, but honestly such a silly quote to live by, if that were the case every ugly betty that cooks would be taken.
But yes, I can cook.
Women expect a man to know 50+ things from plumbing to fixing cars, electrical stuff, changing door locks... installing random appliances and whatever. So it's not too much for a guy to ask a woman to get off her azz & cook him a meal.
When it comes to serious relationships then her ability to do something more than look good matters so it depend on the relationship. And what the guy is looking for.
I can cook and would just teach her, itās fun learning together and well spanking her with a wooden spoon kinda appeals to me lol.
i have found people tend to have certain go to meal types and mainly do variations on them, which is fine but itās nice bushing limits.
In my experience guys don't really care as long as she is above a base standard of proficiency at cooking. As in she can cook decent meals. She doesn't have to be amazing or anything but that is a plus. That's also how I feel about guys cooking so it makes sense.
It's not a must, but there is a huge added level of attraction when she can actually cook, the better the meal the more attractive it is.
But even if she's not a cook I won't just walk out the door.
Granted I'm repulsed by lazy and complacent people, I'm not looking to date a daddy's girl princess or a cardi B wanna B, the girl I feel attracted to must have a certain level of self reliance and decency
It is an added bonus but it isn't what makes a man fall in love with you.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/74iaylRXq7k1. Hold him accountable (especially important)
2. Listen to him
3. Speak life into him. (See my post here)
4. Support him (Losers who leech excluded).
I saw this video *after* I did these four things with my partner instinctively. The video is dead on as I am living this in my current relationship.
I can also throw down in the kitchen. 👩ā🍳
I can cook a little bit myself. But I need a woman that can cook. She wouldn't have to cook every day. I like the idea of coming home bent and broken to a wife who is exhausted and the both of us going on a little take-out date. I just hate cooking after working a 9, 10, 11 or 12 hour shift. It's literally the last thing I want to do.
It's an advantage for sure. I do expect her to be able to produce food. But I am not picky with what I cook, so I wouldn't with what she cooks as long there isn't complains involved it's fine. If she expects to eat out every day she is certainly off the list.
That's a very outdated saying.
Guys nowadays are better cooks than women, except we are STILL terrible at leaving the kitchen looking like a cyclone has just run through it.
If you can't cook dinner it's not a big deal but you should be trading a chore or something for his time cooking.
For example if you depend on him for cooking he should be able to depend on you for doing laundry.
Showing value for your partner's time is huge.
True men do love good cooking. The antisapation of a good meal will make most men excited. Its a skill men have too. So its not just a womans job to cook. But yes good cooking can add to mans emotional connection to his woman. But the true way to a mans heart is to show him heart. Love him be supportive of him and if he is much of a man he will do the same for you.
Going to the store now every one take it easy talk to you all later 😄
When her visa application was pending, I taught myself how to cook. Mostly I did "wok fried" stuff like chicken/peppers/onions/carrots to kind of condition my appetite. Although I am not the "chef" of what she makes now, I'm the "cook". I cut vegetables and meats to size. She also asks me to test what she makes and spice it, if it needs it.
I can also make a killer Italian Spaghetti that can bring Sicilians to tears.
I think it's a preference, but to me personally I find it very attractive when a woman knows how to cook and enjoys cooking for her loved ones. I think it's a little sad that fewer women know how to cook now. I enjoy cooking and am pretty good at it and I want a woman who is too.
Iāve personally have experienced it really depends on the man. Some men love to cook and donāt mind that you canāt and some men canāt cook and perfer a partner that can. And then there are the ones who can and donāt mind you canāt yāall can learn together or just live off take out together 😅
I am not fantastic, haha I couldnt even boil eggs until last year, very embarrassing but I have been learning!
It's kinda funny. My ex- husband was a cook in the Navy when we were both young. Yet, at home I did all of the cooking and baking 🤔
I can cook and my last man definitely enjoyed it but it doesn't make someone stay haha
The statement isn't that true in my experience lol
It was definitely a bonus tho lmao
A good meal will feed me for day but some good company that will always laugh at my cheesy jokes will keep me happy for longer than that day
People will hate me for this but idc hehehe
Its very attractive if a girl can cook very well or at least tries her best (even if she can't cook). I find it very unattractive if a girl doesn't make any effort and doesn't want to cook at all ever. Saying things like "ahh it should be 50/50 always". I say to that no, men and women.. they are not the same. Just cook for me and i'll work my ass of to pay the bille and get you what you want
Unlike many women, we guys are generally not that picky about the food. Just feed us and things will be great.
I can cook and would not mind cooking for my partner as long as they help with the clean up. If the pandemic has forced me to do anything it has been to be a level 2 to 3 chef when it comes to cooking because our wallets die!
I can cook okaym and it's not overly important the only thing for me that's important is that I wouldn't say be cooking every meal at least by myself.
If she would help that would be okay with me. I just think it would be tiring cooking all meals.
m I would prefer she does but it doesn't really matter to me... it could be fun to show her how to
yes, cook and grill, BBQ... not so much of baking though
It not gonna be the main factor, but it helps.
Men don't ask women to do a lot for them. Learning how to cook a meal for him here and there will help you stand out from all the women that aren't doing that shit.
It's partly true with me. It would sure go a long ways. Of course there needs to be more though.
It would be a way to my heart, and also keep my heart more healthy since my diet would probably improve.
Honestly I'm a firm believe of every able body/mind adult. should at least know how to make basic meals to feed themselves let alone others. so if they can't even do that much I'll likely pass on them unless their willing to learn.
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I can cook and bake and he loves it. If she can't cook then having good knowledge of manners and fine dinning could be a good alternative. I've also noticed that some men find women who love food (foodie) attractive.
I love cooking but if a man wants me just because I can cook and not because of my personality im good enough, but I will accept if its a attracting factor.
I can cook, but not everyone would agree. I know what my husband likes to eat and he loves my cooking, so that's all that matters.
Yes I can, there's maybe 3 dishes I'm skilled at but I still have a lot to learn. My sweetheart wants to cook with me so that's a plus since we can learn together.
I luv to eat! Also i donāt really luv to cook, because itās so demanding of time and energy. So a meal prepared for me by anyone is meaningful. It wonāt make me fall in love, but it canāt hurt!
It takes more than food to win my heart, haha.
But, preparing home-cooked meals is a very sweet gesture.
At the end of the day, itās the thought that counts. 😊
Anyone that can read can cook. You can literally follow step by step directions that tell you exactly what to do.
Yeah I can cook pretty well. I watch a lot of cooking shows haha
Yes she should know to cook lol😂 Iam a man who loves eating and I enjoy eating. To make me love you or to open my heart just make me a good meal which is my favorite food. Man, I will be so happy and grateful for you being in my life lolo ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø😁
Nah! The fastest way to a man heart is through his chest. 🤣 Just saying.
But yes, I can cook.
I do every night.
I donāt really like cooking, but I do love eatingā¦. so I have to make it tasty.
Yeah I can cook, I had to learn to make healthy meals when I started going to the gym. I don't have a man I need to cook for though lol
My ideal partner would be someone who I could bake to. ~ I wouldn't mind doing some cooking on the lines too though.
Anybody can learn to cook, and it is easy when you know the basics. So yes I can cook, but I donāt enjoy it.
I absolutely cannot cook but Iāve also never tried. My mom can cook, and Iāve helped her a lot and I do enjoy it but Iāve never done it by myself.
Not so concerned about the kitchen unless the dryer is on warm setting... vibrating... and being utilized for fluff and dry...
I believe it to be true. I don't need a woman to be a master chef. Just a better cook than me (I'm a moderate cook, at best).
I have no problem if she can't cook or just isn't some kind of gourmet chef. What really does matter is her heart. But it is a bonus if she can cook.
I agree in so far as it means she's doing something for me that I can enjoy.
It would be the same if she made me clothes, art, or anything else that I can say was made only for me.
Learn to cook.
Buy some cook books and follow the instructions.
Cooking is an exercise in chemistry. Anyone can achieve the desired result by following instructions.
It matters, for a healthy and independent life wear fresh healthy balanced meals are acceptable.
I'd rate almost true. Not going to kick her out of my bed if she can't. Certainly complements the whole package if she can!
A woman who can't cook is like a man who's unemployed. Good for a short time. But the way to my heart is certainly not through my stomach. Culinary skill, by itself, isn't enough.
Most dude I know can cook better then most women I know. To me its just another thing to make, and I make the best. Ended up stuck on kitchen duty when I was 14 due in part of me being able to make better bread than my mom.
If a woman don't know to cook it's a considerable feminine failure. :)
No worries i will teach her... haha but at least she should know some basics of cooking 😅
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