My ex never cooked or did any household chores. I did it all, most men these days are very self sufficient. It would have been nice to have help , especially when I was working two full-time jobs and had to come home cook clean and get ready for the next shift , but I'm used to women who don't do any work at all.
"Work is what men do" as my sister always says.
It doesnāt hurt, but thatās not really true to me. In fact I do most of all the cooking all the time lol. But the way to my heart, is just attention and affection. Showing signs of love, feeling validated, touch, romance, etc.
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u Doesn't matter to me because I can cook as well as or better than most women, but my girlfriend prefers her Chinese cooking (which is very good) so we have all the bases covered. As soon as I read the title of the post, I started hearing that old song about "can she bake a cherry pie, Billy Boy, Billy Boy?"
I can cook okay, no Julia childs or anything but it'll be good and edible lolBut my husband really enjoyed cooking, so he did most of the cooking till the last year of his life
I can cook ok. I just donāt like to and I avoid it when I can.
Iām pretty good at cooking.
Does it matter if a person canāt cook? No, I wouldnāt not date someone because they canāt cook but I hope the know Iāll teach them. I do think itās bad a person doesnāt know how to coolā¦ Iāll just wonder what the hell theyāve been eating.
My ex didnāt know how to cook, he said he didnāt but overcooking beef so it rubbery, buying premade pasta sausage and overcooking pasta isnāt itā¦ once showed him how easy it is to make pasta sauce from scratch and he was like āokay calm down Gordon Ramsayā for literally making a homemade sauceā¦😂 so please, man or woman, learn how to frickin cook
I made my way into his stomach with my cooking ability... But unfortunately not his heart.
So that tells me that he had already decide that we were not compatible long before we ate.
Simple thing is this.
A man looking to commit will look for the positives in a woman and see if he can work with that. we as women do the same.
Sometimes relationships are chemical sometimes they logical and practical.
Sex and all those other things can actually be worked on...
Think about it. If a man and woman can be happy in an arranged marriage the hook up culture Is Shite!
there's no key except respect, trust openness and clear communication oh and some level of resilience.
There are NO EXCUSES if you are a woman who can't cook. I'm a 20 yo in college and I can cook. Don't mean to brag, but I am good at it actually, and I'm self-taught. I live on my own without roommates, so if I don't cook then I will not have the chance to eat. It's called being an adult. You have to put in effort to actually improve, and girls need to stop thinking that it's "cute" being a girl that can't cook.
If I can do it, anyone can.
I think today we don't really need woman to cook the life have totally changed the mindset the way people thinking is just different maybe some men their heart in their stomach but not All. I think today's smart men would never be with modern woman they have zero skills and full of ego and they bring nothing to the table. I cook my meals washing my clothes and all other things. I always wanted peaceful loyal woman but couldn't find one most are irritated and broken inside and barley can do her things
I learned to cook at my grandmothers knee, doing pastries/sponge cakes by the time I was 7, stews and casseroles by 10, full meals by 12, My class was the last in Secondary School to do Home Economics in the late 70's,
Every woman that I've had a relationship with has had to have at least the same skills in the kitchen as I have, and I'm in no way up to professional standards.
Cooking for and sitting down to eat with people is a way of getting to know them that is a set of skills that most younger women either have forgotten or have never been taught them.
s I know how to cook, but Iām not able to cook anymore. 9/10 of the time I faint or pass out in front of a stove 😬 health conditions arenāt fun. But I still manage to get relationships reasonably easily.
Just an old wives tale, food is not the way to a mans heart if it were men wouldn't cheat, or stray, or divorce. Idc if they do, but honestly such a silly quote to live by, if that were the case every ugly betty that cooks would be taken.
But yes, I can cook.
Women expect a man to know 50+ things from plumbing to fixing cars, electrical stuff, changing door locks... installing random appliances and whatever. So it's not too much for a guy to ask a woman to get off her azz & cook him a meal.
When it comes to serious relationships then her ability to do something more than look good matters so it depend on the relationship. And what the guy is looking for.
I can cook and would just teach her, itās fun learning together and well spanking her with a wooden spoon kinda appeals to me lol.
i have found people tend to have certain go to meal types and mainly do variations on them, which is fine but itās nice bushing limits.
In my experience guys don't really care as long as she is above a base standard of proficiency at cooking. As in she can cook decent meals. She doesn't have to be amazing or anything but that is a plus. That's also how I feel about guys cooking so it makes sense.
It's not a must, but there is a huge added level of attraction when she can actually cook, the better the meal the more attractive it is.
But even if she's not a cook I won't just walk out the door.
Granted I'm repulsed by lazy and complacent people, I'm not looking to date a daddy's girl princess or a cardi B wanna B, the girl I feel attracted to must have a certain level of self reliance and decency
It is an added bonus but it isn't what makes a man fall in love with you.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/74iaylRXq7k1. Hold him accountable (especially important)
2. Listen to him
3. Speak life into him. (See my post here)
4. Support him (Losers who leech excluded).
I saw this video *after* I did these four things with my partner instinctively. The video is dead on as I am living this in my current relationship.
I can also throw down in the kitchen. 👩ā🍳
I can cook a little bit myself. But I need a woman that can cook. She wouldn't have to cook every day. I like the idea of coming home bent and broken to a wife who is exhausted and the both of us going on a little take-out date. I just hate cooking after working a 9, 10, 11 or 12 hour shift. It's literally the last thing I want to do.
It's an advantage for sure. I do expect her to be able to produce food. But I am not picky with what I cook, so I wouldn't with what she cooks as long there isn't complains involved it's fine. If she expects to eat out every day she is certainly off the list.
That's a very outdated saying.
Guys nowadays are better cooks than women, except we are STILL terrible at leaving the kitchen looking like a cyclone has just run through it.
If you can't cook dinner it's not a big deal but you should be trading a chore or something for his time cooking.
For example if you depend on him for cooking he should be able to depend on you for doing laundry.
Showing value for your partner's time is huge.
When her visa application was pending, I taught myself how to cook. Mostly I did "wok fried" stuff like chicken/peppers/onions/carrots to kind of condition my appetite. Although I am not the "chef" of what she makes now, I'm the "cook". I cut vegetables and meats to size. She also asks me to test what she makes and spice it, if it needs it.
I can also make a killer Italian Spaghetti that can bring Sicilians to tears.
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