True or false: If a woman can't cook, she's not girlfriend/wife material?

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aaronbw · Accepted Answer

I'm literally laughing my ass off that so many guys actually voted yes 😂. Sad to see so many are still stuck in that old way of thinking.

No it's not a deal breaker. Out of all relationships I've ever had, I've always been the better cook lol. And the two women I've dated that couldn't cook, it made them like me even more 😂.

According to my experiences: guys, women love a guy who can cook and I'm not talking just burgers, dogs, toast or microwave dinners, I'm talking really knowing how to cook!

dantetheexplorer · Accepted Answer

I think if you're an adult, whether you're a man or a woman, you should at least know how to cook to feed yourself. Just like you should be able to keep your home neat and tidy, check your car's oil, inflate your tires, do your taxes, change a light bulb, etc.

You don't have to be Gordon Ramsay or MacGyver, but you should at least have the rudimentary skills needed to leave life as an independent adult.

Most adults date other adults.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men and women should both know how to cook. Hopefully the man knows how to if the girl can't and teaches her so they aren't eating out all the time unless that is some thing they want.

Women do not need to know how to cook and clean etc to be wife and girlfriend material they are not the mens mothers or servants period.

I recommend learning because those are life skills you need but not in order to please a man.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

just a helpful tip for guys who said yes: get a cook for yourselves, saves us from trouble of dating and marriage

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Well I can't cook and I'm still single

... crap, lol. That explains a lot 😆

Whoever dates me better know how to cook or hire a personal chef

But seriously, I think there are WAY more important things a guy should worry about his partner having or being able to do instead of cook. If a woman's ability to cook determines if she's a good partner, he needs to reevaluate his priorities

AmandaYVR · Answer

I'm very happy about a lot of answers here. Nice to see. Chores are pretty much shared nowadays. We don't need to live within rigid gender stereotypes (although why are so many head chefs in restaurants still male, yet some still believe women are good enough to cook at home). One thing's for sure - it's just nice to have a tasty plate prepared for you. (And no, I don't think it has to be one cooks and one cleans. Also kinda rigid.)

ghostqueen · Answer

Anyone who can't cook (who isn't mentally or physically disabled) isn't partner material.

MrOracle · Answer

I'd say "true to some extent." I don't expect anyone to be a gourmet cook, but cooking basic meals is a skill that EVERY adult should have, men and women alike. And it's not hard to learn.

in my opinion, short of some special circumstances, if she isn't willing to TRY to learn, that's a bad sign for other areas of the relationship too.

In my relationships, we have almost always shared cooking duties pretty equally, with the few exceptions being with women who wanted to do the majority of the cooking herself.

JackSmy · Answer

Some of the best "Foreplay" ever, is when I have tried to teach them to cook something simple!! OMG!! We laughed and joked and were drinking wine, of course, and it was great fun, and really special for her (a few different ones at different times) and they just loved how I just tried to teach them and didn't make fun of them, but rather just made it something fun to share!!
The best, is trying to teach them how to make something like a Chocolate Mousse or something that could be potentially sloppy, and needing persona attention, for cleaning, like if it got on some delicate fabric, or something. Definitely needs immediate attention, taking it off and treating the spot, so it doesn't leave a permanent stain. . .

ShineDJJ · Answer

I would prefer a woman that could cook since it's a basic life skill that I think everyone both male and female should at the very least try to learn. If she's tried and is just seriously lacking culinary competence which I believe is possible, I'll just make the meals myself while trying to help her become better and not have to depend on take-out, TV dinners, or grocery store deli items when I'm not home or up for it. If she can cook, then we could take turns and even collaborate from time to time.

LisaFletcher · Answer

I think it's an old saying, nowadays we are living free world with equal respect for our hobbies and work. If women want to cook she can cook, and if she chooses to cook it is up to her. Relationships
are not based on cooking, it takes lots of understanding and patience to be in a relationship

R_Cakes91 · Answer

What’s the big deal? Not everyone enjoys cooking. I do believe everyone male/ female should be able to perform basic cooking skills. It’s a little different if you decide to have an orthodox marriage with a stay at home mom and working husband, but the work should be evenly split if both people work the same amount.

I get that a woman who cooks is sexy but come on, that can’t be the only reason to be with someone.

holograph · Answer

False, though it's still good if she were to learn to cook. It's also a good thing if a man knows how to cook. All adults should be able to cook at least a few things (you don't need to be a first-rate chef or anything).

That said, if she's like, no cooking, fast food all the time, THEN she is definitely not girlfriend material.

hahahmm · Answer

True if she either person wants a traditional relationship. See, I can cook anything from recipe & make it fine dining quality (according to people who work in the restaurant biz) so I think I’m qualified to judge: if you don’t cook it’s because you’re a lazy azz with excuses.

Best case both people can cook & the one providing more (the guy in traditional relationships) cooks less

LIM1T · Answer

False, wife material is someone you can trust and will love you unconditionally and continue to support you. Its a bonus if she can cook but it's not mandatory

Taywallee16 · Answer

This is like saying if a man can't fix a car then he isn't boyfriend/husband material. It's a stupid gender role. Everybody should know how to take care of themselves.

AbigaleRose · Answer

I believe there’s no right or wrong in the way of who should be able to cook in the relationship. Of course, assuming a woman should be the one to do it, is an old fashioned view to have in this day and age. So, I feel as if both people in the marriage should be able to contribute in that sense. If I were to marry a man, I’d want them to be willing to at least try to cook or learn to do so, in order for it to be a shared task. I myself can’t cook but I’ve never really had to, being that I live at home and have 3 other people who do. Although, Of course, I’m willing to learn if I plan to have any sort of future independence or feed my future spouse. But again, I feel that it should be reciprocated.

GiveitaShance · Answer

Absolutely false. There are women out there who can't cook to save their life but have other great aspects that would make them perfect wife material. The dealbreaker shouldn't be sure they can't cook.

ShortCircuit · Answer

True. Not because being able to cook is necessarily important in a partner, but because being unable to cook is indicative of downright incompetence. ANYONE who has a higher-than-room-temperature IQ can cook, with just three things: equipment, ingredients, and Google.

Shutupman · Answer

I can cook and good but my spouse didn’t know until he married me. Perhaps for those who cannot take care of themselves it’s important to have a wife that can cook (and clean and nurture etc) but my spouse wasn’t. We seek loyalty, commitment, drive and hard work, respect and love in a good partner.

slatyb · Answer

Anyone can cook of they are motivated to learn. If she doesn't like to, I can cook. It's not a woman's job. I don't believe there are men's and women's jobs. If she has a job and just hates housework we can hire someone to do almost all of it.

MissKittyz · Answer

I can't cook but my boyfriend (who's now my fiancé) still proposed to me and think I'm wife material 🤷🏽 so some guys don't give a fuck about that lmfao

Usernamesrdumb · Answer

Lol I've never dated a woman than can cook. I have always done the cooking. That stereotype is so outdated. Most girls I've dated, there place definitely is not in the kitchen. One i banned her from the kitchen because she kept hurting herself.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I just like a girl that knows how to cook. She could always learn it after we get together. But if her idea of cooking a romantic meal for two is frozen ready-made pasta bake, then I'm not really gonna be able to connect with her through food in the same way I would had she put some effort into it. Feeding one's partner can be a gesture of love, so I'd want that extra point of connection in a partner.

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't know about that, but why can't she? Hell, I'm a man and I can cook a three course meal - and do it often. So what is a woman's excuse for not cooking? They should especially be doing more of it now in these times of unhealthy fast food and snack-obssessed society.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Let me put it this way. It would be very nice if she cooked for me. It is almost as if the food tastes better when a woman has prepared it for you, and its cute. But its not the MOST important thing in the world, besides you can get better at it.

Clarke510 · Answer

True, but not because all girls need to know how to cook.
Because all people need to know how to cook.
In the same way a girl should know how to cook, so should a guy.
That being said if a potential partner doesn't know how to cook, they can be tought, willingness to learn matters too.

GigiMary · Answer

A girl's cooking skills should not determine whether or not she is girlfriend/wife "material". If you love someone, their cooking skills shouldn't be the first thing you think of.

InTimoreDei · Answer

I know how to cook over 20 recipes so I don't need a woman to do it for me. But a girl that knows how to bake cupcakes or pastries is definitely attractive.

leahzrc · Answer

I can cook very well but I dont think people are required to be good at cooking either man or woman, there are many other options

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

If she refuses to learn then yes. Because cooking is a important skill all people should at least try and attempt to do.

Everyone starts of knowing very little. I did start that way. But I learned and became good at it.

Rocky_Jocky57 · Answer

No, cooking is a simple fix. It rakes time and a bit of effort. If anything, you guys can show each other how to get better at cooking.

chadangel1996 · Answer

No. Damn. Who makes these stereotypes? In my family, my dad was the cook coz' my mom can't and I think that's perfectly normal.

IrishMann · Answer

I cannot understand that both men and women cannot cook. I was with a woman for 8 years and she never once even tried to cook a meal.. She would not help with the grocery shopping or help in the kitchen. She thought she was entitled to a healthy home cooked meal every day.

ecfresh · Answer

False. Cooking is a skill that both men and women can learn. My brother is married and he cooks all their meals.

MajesticTwelve · Answer

So true. Taking care of your husband and kids is job #1. Making food that's healthy and tastes good so they'll eat is a key part of that.

morrowlow · Answer

if i'm supposed to do all the manly things in a relationship then i expect a girl to do the womanly things. it's 2019 but men are still taking out the trash, changing tires and paying for most of the relationship expenses. it would be unfair on guys if they have to do the women's job too

rawtoast · Answer

it sure would be a plus if the wife were able to cook, but if she doesn't then that's okay too (: id help in the kitchen and show her how to do things, but if she still isn't that good then ill cook <3 it's not that big of a deal

markscott · Answer

I would have a difficult time getting serious with a girl, unless she could cook, or was willing to learn.
I'm good at fixing things around the house, doing projects, taking care of the yard., etc. I don't want to do most of the cooking too.

John1972 · Answer

I've been married 20 years and can count on one had the time my wife has cooked for me. Personally I prefer her not to. I know what I like and how I want it cooked so it's a big false form me

kaoriix · Answer

if guys still only marry women who will cook and clean for them there's something seriously wrong here.
i personally would love to cook and clean for my future partner but that's my choice to make, not theirs.

ChronicThinker · Answer

It's not inherently true, but I don't know how most adult PEOPLE, male and female, don't know how to cook. That spells a bigger issue to me.

Holy_Ghost_Fire · Answer

False. A woman who can't cook can still be attractive in other areas.

BeMuse · Answer

Yeah pretty much. I don’t expect someone to cook for me all the time, but you have to be a little retarded to not be able to cook. Every adult should be able to feed themselves and others from time to time.

Anonymous · Answer

My Ex Wife Could Not Cook Or Clean, I Have Out-Cooked Every Woman I Have Ever Dated, Including Ex Wife, I Cook Everything From Scratch, Never From A Box, Many Say I Should Have Been A Chef...
I Was Also The Only One Who Did Dishes And Cleaned Or 2 Story House Of Over 3,000 Sq Ft...
I Never Once Complained, I Did Everything Cos I Enjoyed It, Someone Has To, No Big Deal...

Adam1978 · Answer

I can always cook, so it's not a deal breaker. Besides good food isn't high on my agenda either.

e-Ghost · Answer

True. *Can not cook* is just a super lazy excuse. *Do not want to* cook is the truth. She doesn't have to be a female Gordon Ramsay tho.. but at least, she knows "how to make things tasty".

GhettoGirl · Answer

wouldn't be cooking for no damn man no damn how. He can lay on the couch with his mouth open waiting to be fed, won't be me cooking him no damn food.

Shamalien · Answer

If a PERSON can't cook they aren't ADULT material. But as a woman, if you cannot cook, that is extra embarrassing. It's like a man who can't make money... not attractive

Chuck21 · Answer

For me I love home cook meals. I don't know how to cook, so for"me" a woman does not have to look like a model, or make a good living as long as she can kick was in the kitchen she will have my ❤ in hear hands.

Anonymous · Answer

If anyone can't cook they are a defective human being. We're talking basic life skill, read a recipe and make it happen. Cooking isn't rocket science, and if someone, man or woman, can't figure it out they are a child.

TacocaT6969 · Answer

If you’re an adult and can’t cook you’re not life material.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Its true. My ex could barely crack an egg. She would have made a lousy wife, she was a pretty lousy girlfriend, tbh. but I loved her and accepted her flaws

loveslongnails · Answer

I can cook... quite well. I don't "need" her to have that skill, but she better have some others or she's definitely not girlfriend material !!! :)

sam2274 · Answer

It’s not a big deal. Personally I love cooking and I love guys that love cooking. But well, if they don’t like to, too bad but not insurmountable.

Anonymous · Answer

Seriously, men who think women should cook. Do you think your girlfriend or wife should baby you for the rest of your life? aren't you grown up enough to hold a pan yourself?

englisc · Answer

True. Cooking basic meals is easy. If you can't cook as an adult you're probably an idiot.

Catnipboi03 · Answer

Most world renowned chefs are men! Wife / Girlfriend material has nothing to do with who cooks.

Hurlyburly · Answer

If a man/woman can't cook he/she isn't adult material.

GreciaJackson · Answer

My grandma got married without knowing how to cook an egg, and later on she learned how to make some dishes.

bimmy5000 · Answer

I don't think it is necessary (I've taught myself how to cook well) , but I think she should know at least the basics.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

True... I don't want to be with anyone that can't cook. Gotta pull your weight. Takeout isn't my friend.

dancing_in_nebulas · Answer

If she expects her guy to work and pay for everything then no, she def isn't.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Not true any woman can cook if she learns but being a wife today means staying home cooking and cleaning looking after kids. So it would be a big bonus if she did cook.

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