Is this one of the reasons more men don't want to commit anymore?

[Anonymous]

I've witnessed this many times. My parents' arguments would sometimes turned into yelling matches and insults. Practically all the times it was started by my mother and her frequent mood swings. One time my father screamed in frustration ''Oh dear, GET ME OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE, I'M SUFFOCATING''.

When she was on a very good mood she would be the nicest person ever but if she got upset, she wouldn't drop it. She would continue, go on and on nonstoppable (just for the sake of wanting to be right) or would act childish. If you wanted to walk out the door to take some fresh air and cool down she would still follow you and at times even try pulling you (preventing you from leaving), suffocating you. If you reply in kind, she would cry and play victim. I'll give you a brief example of how she's like:

If you tell her ''We had KFC for dinner last time, maybe some other time, how about something else''.
Her reply is to blow things out of proportions with an ''Well then go to hell. I'm not eating anything. I WANT NOTHING. I'M NOT GONNA EAT ANYTHING''

Is this another reason more men are avoiding commitment?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think it's more that women are uncommitted. They are told that they can do nothing wrong and if they aren't "happy" with the man then they should leave.

Which is the definition of not being committed.

It's not supposed to be easy and I i feel like a lot of people forget that

[Gent207]

Sounds like your mother has symptoms of ether a mood disorder or schizophrenia (not all sufferers hear voices).
I'm sorry you had to witness that behavior. It sounds like you've had a long time to reflect on it and came out better in the end.
There are plenty of good Morning out there looking for a lifetime partner. However far too many couples spend more time planning planning wedding than the marriage life that follows.
But again I'm sorry you had to go through all that

[LazerBean]

All of the men I associate with respect and want commitment. People who don't like commitment are the way they are because they are a part of a bad culture.

[Anonymous]

I think that is probably part of it in some cases, but the overarching issues most men have today with marriage are:

- Half of marriages end in divorce, and women file the vast majority of them
- In divorce men get screwed in terms of asset division and child custody settlement
- Marriage doesn't benefit men like it used to so is no longer the goal it used to be for men

[Asker]

This same behavior has been spreading in a couple other countries too, even a few parts of South America too. I know this is a dumb analogy but here goes:

I feel this extreme westernization is a growing disease, like a giant hand that turned everything it touched into rubbles and dust. Then the very few sane, inhabitants (me and a few others) that remained untouched are found hidden under the rocks, underneath the piles of rubbles and dust. Basically someone would have to dig further but sadly hardly anyone dares to.

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting analogy. Part of the problem is that everyone thinks they are among those "very few sane inhabitants" and everyone else is the problem.

[FilmGuy93]

"Anymore" would imply that that's a change in women's behavior. Unfortunately, it's not much of a change. The main reason men don't want to commit is because modern women make a point of letting us know that we don't bring any value to their lives.

[Asker]

In the past, the men would go beyond just lovebombing (nowadays they all say ''I want kids and marriage'' as part of their future faking scam) and sex. They're disgusting.

[FilmGuy93]

I hate people like that. It just makes life harder for those of us who are genuine.

[Asker]

Yes exactly. As a former victim of a cruel man like that (I was a virgin when I met him... innocent to the point that I sounded like a kid back then, free of malice, free of mistrust, etc), I haven't been the same since. I'm in my 2nd relationship but will be more careful now. My stance has changed into ''I look for actions, not words anymore''.

[Anonymous]

Yes this pretty much sums it up, finally a woman that understands

[Asker]

Ironically my father told me she wasn't showing any of those mood swings nor signs when they were boyfriend and girlfriend nor on their honeymoon.
She started showing that more afterwards, a couple years into their marriage.

[Opinion Owner]

thats why am staying away from marriage

[Asker]

and the rest of us have to pay the price
this anti-commitment from men and keeping the girl as ''forever childless girlfriend'' has spread in a couple other countries in South America too. So even more men from there don't want marriage either.

[Opinion Owner]

lol whats wrong with just being gfs and bfs?

[Asker]

I don't want to be dating forever. I'll always feel as if he's always going to have one foot at the door at any time, nothing secure or I'm not trusted enough. Secondly, I still believe in raising kids in a marriage. I hated it how my mother and other women ruins it for the rest of us.

[Emily_925]

I think it depends on if ur with the right person