When you’re close to losing someone you used to love, do you start to reminisce like crazy?

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One of my exes got shot last night  and all I keep thinking about is our last hug yet I can't even remember if that was this year or last year. The years are going to fast. He’s an ICU and we don’t know if he’ll make it but I’m hopeful. He’s definitely changed from the man I once fell for, but he was trying to get back on the right track and even saved a kid from a bullet while he took 2. I really hope he’s okay because I hope to see his sweet smile again. He’s one of the few exes who never ended up on my bad side but I never could allow myself to fall for him again. To think it started with a punch to his balls in vacation bible school to him becoming my first “I love you” after I escaped that first boyfriend/psycho ex. I don't know I just want him to be okay. No matter if I open or close my eyes, all I see is his face rn... I can’t stop reminiscing and my head hurts #FeelFreeToList #StaySafe

Th3ft · Accepted Answer

Oh Desii I am so sorry! If you don’t mind where did he get hit? You said he took two bullets?

i can’t suggest that he will be fine and I 100% do not believe that the Bible teaches anything about life being easy or that if we just have faith everything gets better. But I do believe that everything happens for a reason. If you knew him from church I would Guess that that might well mean that he is going to heaven. And if he can’t pull through I hope and prey that he is there for you when you get there. But either way I have to believe that there is something good that can come from it. Perhaps he will come through this just fine and this will just be a lesson for someone. Another thing I can confidently tell you is that the only way to make it through the trauma of losing someone is to trust God’s strength in every moment. He’s got you and your friend and he is HOLDING ON for life! For eternity actually!

RavVid · Accepted Answer

That is tough. There isn't good anybody can say other we hope for you.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Really sorry what you are going through, I can imagine the pain and emotional anguish.

i historically suck with loss of someone I love, my just rips in to me and pulls out raw memories, ones I had forgot, ones I wish I had and ones I loved,

I then tend to just throw myself off a cliff,

I stayed over at my Ex wife’s the other day, I had a night of remembering all the memories, photos of us both, but also I had a night of remembering the nearly a year of pain following our divorce. A lot of that I had thought was buried but like all things it just ripped open with raw memories.

anyhow I hope things work out for him,

Lliam · Answer

Wow. I hope your friend recovers, Des.

I know what you're saying. There's only one ex that I don't care about. I have a soft spot in my heart for the rest.

There was one particular girlfriend who I wound up loving with my heart and soul. After living together for over a year, we separated for reasons that are too complicated to go into.
Almost 20 years later, she reconnected with me on Facebook and we talked a few times on the phone. We couldn't be life partners but my love for her never diminished and I was really happy to be connected as good friends and to know that she was doing well.
Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was shattered. I think of her all the time and my heart breaks to know that she is no longer here. I wish that I could see or hear from her one last time.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Permanent loss or break up? For permanent loss I Stress rather than reminisce.

I hope your ex will be alright.

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Just yesterday I was saying, exes (who didn't harm us or we don't hate them) remain just like any other person in a relationship, friend, teacher, family who distanced, .. we never stop admiring the good in someone we used to know. It doesn't mean we are in love nor that they are perfect.

Hulk30 · Answer

ill start by sayin that im a virgo and i understand that as a virgo and an aspie for that matter that im not the most likable person but i definitely look to be respected over bein loved in my opinion the most hated signs which i can understand why they are tend to be in this order 1. geminis 2. virgos 3. scorpios. 4. leos and id say typical to most virgos there's a certain coldness vicious temper as well as psychopathy to em which i can definitely see in myself so i'd say it really depends on how 1 of my ex treated me im not sayin i want em dead but if they dogged me ill admit it's a mary j. blidge not goin cry type situation simultaneously

JoseJr · Answer

I think thats like most thing. I personally haven't lost anyone close to me. I have seen some people I know pass away, it did make me feel some kind of way but besides that I didn't think about it too much. Plus I personally live in a high high crime/murder rate area. I've kinda become used to it truth be told.

AimeeKyle · Answer

I haven’t lost anyone that I have dated / cared for yet (that I know of). I do think it is normal to reminisce about someone you have cared for if they are in a bad place or nearing the end (whether you dated them or not).

Sounds like he is in the process of turning things around…. hopefully he gets the change to complete his efforts. Prayers.

innerman · Answer

It’s soo saddening and annoying how brittle life is. Sometimes I wonder if we like a movie and the creator and the angels are up there watching and placing bets.

Let’s be nice to each other and pray for one another. I fear being with someone I am about to lose. I dnt know the right things to say. So I always pretend nothings wrong. And just be like, hey, we were supposed to play poker, is the hospital ok, we play in your room.

_deeznuts · Answer

I'm so sorry that that happened! You'll get through this, and you shouldn't have to force yourself to smile or laugh. Someone that you cared about getting seriously injured isterrible, I get it. Sending love<33

Harleigh90 · Answer

Currently doing this now 💔 Hope your ex recovers well. The fear of losing them makes you just love all over again

JDavid25 · Answer

I hope he pulls through Desii.. But I really only have one "ex" and I'm still sorta in contact with her.. She is fine as far as I know..

exitseven · Answer

You really have a few interesting stories. Hope this guy makes it. Somebody who was really close to me was murdered by her husband. It still haunts me to this day.

Loveisgirthy · Answer

WOAH... shit... Yeah something like that would definitely bring me back. I feel for you. I'd hope it can work if it's meant to. I pray he'll be fine. Sounds like he's a good dude fr. You punched his balls tho?

Guardian45 · Answer

I lost someone I used to love 15 months ago, I reminisced a lot about her. A G@Ger helped me to mourn & grieve her passing and I fell in love again. From her Death, I was reborn. Thank you, my Friend.

Mark987 · Answer

All the time.. You think about the good times, crazy, sad. The first time you kissed.. or hooked up. I find breaking up hard.. because you realized the time that was wasted

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'm really sorry Desii. He is a hero for saving that kid. Dm me his name so we can pray for him and put him on a prayer chain. Remember, I'm here if you want to talk.

Jerre · Answer

The only girl I ever loved was my fiancé. She was killed 20+ years ago in an auto accident 2 weeks before our wedding. I haven’t loved anyone since, perhaps for fear of losing her.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I've never been in that situation so I can't say I would or wouldn't.

Cubus · Answer

I imagine how you feel now. Be strong, Desii

pizzalovershouse · Answer

No if I did that with all things I wondered if made right desion it make me not able to move on

Valso · Answer

I've never been in such a situation - to lose someone who I used to love.

When you’re close to losing someone you used to love, do you start to reminisce like crazy?

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