Have you ever been the side dish? The other person? The third party? In another person’s relationship?

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How did it feel like? How long did the affair last? Did they end up with you?

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I used to smash this chick in college, we had a weekly deal, I’d go out to hip-hop night with her and a few of her friends at this club in town, and we would go back to my place afterwards. Turns out she had a boyfriend at some other school, lmao, and I guess I thought it was foul on her part, but whatever, I just rolled with it, she was clearly missing something in that relationship. First time we hooked up was just at a party at her house, and that went how it always went with party hook-ups, but she never mentioned a boyfriend, nor had she ever mentioned him before when we worked together for a few months. So…. none of my business, and “out of sight, out of mind” as far as I was concerned. Peak awkward, though was when she invited me to her house for this big party before a 50 Cent concert at our school, and she’s with this tall red headed dude, and she’s like “Oh, hey Steve…. this is *my boyfriend*, Tim.”, and her eyes kind of flared when she said it like “you better keep this shit cool”, lmao. Would’ve thought she would’ve given me a heads up beforehand, but whatever. Ended up throwing a football around with him, and that’s when I felt kind of bad, he wasn’t some nameless, faceless guy anymore. I’m not sure we ever hooked up again after that, it was the end of the school year, and that interaction probably weirded out both she and I, and I think she actually left school after that year and continued somewhere else. All in all, it maybe lasted a couple of months, and that was fine, we agreed upon it being casual from the get-go.

Xtendable · Accepted Answer

Side dish, sometimes entrée, a few times as dessert

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

Sadly I was. I felt so fucking bad, dirty and used... still to this day.
It's been 3 years, I wish I could erase it and make it go away. I absolutely hate it.

Story:
I already knew him bevor he was in a relationship and it was all friendly at first, we stopped contact, he was then with her... 3 years later he texts me again, apparently being single.
Few weeks later he tells me he is coming with his father to my city (he lives 2h away) and asked me out for dinner. I said yes.
It was honestly really amazing, I hadn't had such a deep conversation since yeaars.

We talked on the phone the whole upcoming week (later I found out, his girlfriend was on a girl's vacation trip), that weekend he came to visit me, he booked his hotel and etc (no sex), then like the second following weekend he came again, talking about our future and there we had sex... the morning after he was like "we have to talk", stupid me thinking he wants to officially ask me but there he told me, that he is still in a relationship and he isn't sure if he should leave her for me...
I told him that he should talk with her and tell her what he did and that's pretty much it.
I never talked to him again, I found her instagram (after days of searching! Cause he doesn't mention her anywhere, but her profile is full with him) I told her but she just ignored me.. i think they're still together and he probably still cheating on her ass tho

BellaB8466 · Accepted Answer

Yes I have... it did not feel great. I wanted him to leave her. I actually ended up telling his girlfriend about us. I wanted them to break up. she stayed with him for a long time. then finally ended things. she could not trust him anymore. he did not end up with me.

Orange85 · Answer

I was hooking up with this guy a couple months. It was fun. Great sex. We were vibing. Then one day we had sex and I was laying in the bed naked. All of a sudden this chick comes in the room and starts screaming and I’m standing there naked. He told her he doesn’t know how I got naked. She yells is that what u cheated on me with and pointed at my naked body. I got dressed and tried to leave but her car was behind mine. Wow is all I can say that’s how I found out I was the side piece. Glad she didn’t beat me up lol! I really felt sorry for both of them. Didn’t really hurt my feelings.

mrmonogamous · Answer

Way back when I was 19 I was madly in lust with a 21 year old girl that I’d had a crush on for 3 years. I asked her out and and after a couple of dates she told me she had a boyfriend. We had sex numerous times, but she didn’t like kissing because she said it was too intimate (sex isn’t?). She said her boyfriend knew about me but didn’t have a problem. I told her it was either me or him. She chose him. Fortunately, I met my soulmate 6 months later. We’ll be celebrating 34 years of marriage on 7/23.

ProVox · Answer

Once, in a lesbian marriage. We all 3 worked together in a large factory and the crazy part is that it lasted about 2 years and most people thought we were barely even acquaintances. Then feelings happened. The night the "cat got out of the bag" was a lot of us from work all went out to a club and she got jealous of me talking with other women, even tho her wife was there. The "cat" ended up being a beer bottle thrown at my head 😆. Needless to say, there were a lot of strange, bewildered looks and tons of questions from many people.
Did I feel bad about it, no, she was being abused. They split up, eventually we all moved on, and she was in a better situation.

petitedollbabee · Answer

One of my ex girlfriends wanted me to get involved in one of her relationships, as they were both non-monogamous. So we had a 3-way relationship for about 6 months, it was fun, me and her boyfriend at the time would tag team her lol. But ultimately I’m more comfortable in monogamous relationships so I wished them well and left them to it.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I remember once a gal getting my hopes up. Then, I discovered I would have been the side dish. And that promptly ended things before they ever truly began. Even she wasn't worth that! And this was a beautiful Chinese gal - my one big weakness apart from Filipinas.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yup... twice. I hated it and have absolutely no desire to go back. The one time I had no idea I was the side piece. The other time, I was made to understand that the main dude knew and approved of the situation (because of things he told me himself).

Smooyay19 · Answer

I’ve been with my guy for almost 7 years and he lives and is committed to his other girlfriend. This arrangement can work if people respect boundaries, are honest, and have clear communication. However if you want a committed relationship and u are hoping that he will leave the other party just walk away. You can be prettier, smarter, sexier, a good cook, financially winning and none of that will make him choose u over the next. He’s going to do what he wants.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I've been played off other guys before. In fact the last woman I had an interest in did that to me. I don't play that. If she expects me to just compete with another guy for her affection he can have her.

Side note: after she found out he was not quite so interested then she came back to me. 🙄🤣

beebella · Answer

I don't think so, but guys always want to come to me when things aren't working out with their girlfriends. 🙄

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes a few times with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Not that I know of. If I sense something is not right. I drop the guy.

Andrewosas · Answer

I have been in that kinda situation but I still have regret about it till date, I later stole her heart from her boyfriend who happened there be one of my best friends and our relationship became sour. Fast forward few years ahead we settled our beef and I had already broke up with the girl in question.

Annoymous15 · Answer

Yes I have but I left the relationship by myself cos I don't want problem and don't like sharing my man.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Once only. The husband ignored having a smart and pretty wife (but frequently met other girls). So I helped out.

It -obviously- ended after a few months. Initially, it was sexual distress... on both sides but she became very attached and that would not have been good in her social environment. So I asked to cease the activity.

I'm in distress again, now - but I lost her number :D

boldlyblu · Answer

It sucks when you're not number 1 but number 2, it's true people put you in order of importance number 2 isn't before number 1

Andres77 · Answer

A few times. Life rolls forward. Sometimes we can ride it to a new place, sometimes it rolls over us.

SphynxUK · Answer

No, I haven’t. I wouldn’t touch a man with a significant other.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Yes in the past... I was ok with it.. i think the longest one was a year. No I never ended up with them on a permanent thing. Usually the side dish then parted ways.

Shadow_Monarch · Answer

I was, almost the side dish, a few times.  The thing is, I didn't know I was supposed to be the side dish. So when I found out, I ended it.

dolemite89 · Answer

I've been the side guy a lot of times and it’s a big reason why i’m not really into relationships, I've seen how devious and sneaky most girls are so i don’t trust them 😂

Sarahplus2 · Answer

Yes but did not know till I ran into him and his girlfriend in Walmart at the selfserve checkout

Jerre · Answer

Fortunately, I’ve always been the main dish. Do hope you haven’t been in that situation as a side dish.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Uh no but I get invited into relationships often I’ll play but I’m not into throuples.

Gloree · Answer

Never. But it is a very bad thing. Once you find out, it is best to end it.

Hanrej · Answer

I have. It was great and lasted almost 2 years.

RavVid · Answer

No. Just wrong.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... I don´t do that to people...

KatherineJ · Answer

Nope, I haven’t, nor would I.

jahaims · Answer

No I have self respect

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Nope never cheated

EaterPeter · Answer

Of course most of us has mostly unknowingly

dailyoctopus94 · Answer

Yes I have. It was great.

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah more than a few times

SophieJW · Answer

Yeap, we like the euphoria about been trap

Blackcupcake · Answer

that’s stupid

Lucy68 · Answer

Always

baserunner611 · Answer

No, fun

Guardian45 · Answer

Nope. Have you been?

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I've boned a few married women.

panamared1 · Answer

Many times

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