So I was watching a movie with a long time friend we've been friends since we were 10 since he moved but we hang out when he spends holidays at his grandma's house. So we were watching a movie in my room and his hand kept touching my thigh , I brushed his hand off and he said sorry he didn't notice what he was doing. But then it kinda went further when he pulled me and his hands ended up on my butt and my chest, I pushed him off and yelled at him about it and we haven't been talking since the whole thing which was a week ago. I told my boyfriend about it the next day and told him nothing else happened and it shouldn't be a big deal however he got mad at me and said how could I let that happen and I'm invalidating his feelings since I said it ended there and it shouldn't be a bother or anything cause it meant nothing. I just think I shouldn't have told him and kept it to myself since u haven't told anyone else well besides anonymously on here and now he's ignoring me, he was probably looking for an excuse to break up with me or he didn't like me that much in the first place.
Lashing out at you wasn’t the best way to communicate his emotions, but maybe try looking past that a bit. If he has a past of being hurt then already he may have trust issues (which he should’ve healed before entering a relationship). I’m not sure what his thoughts were when you said you were hanging out with this guy friend, like how comfortable he was with it, if he didn’t like it, etc. So for you to come and say you were SA’d, he could think you aren’t being truthful or that you shouldn’t have been alone with this guy in the first place. If his mind is processing the situation in these ways then he’d be better off single so he can heal his past trauma, but I do think he’s just feeling hurt as well. Anyway, let him calm down and when he comes around then have a talk. He should apologize for sure, but he needs to communicate better.
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So you mindlessly fall for the "I'm just a nice guy" game and it shouldn't be a big deal? You're like a living red flag. Haven't you figured out males and females can't be platonic friends? There's either a common goal like in a work situation or else it's to fuck. You must be young.
Okay, mistakes happen but if you're downplaying how your boyfriend feels about it then you deserve to get dumped. Being that way only exhibits that not only did you do something dumb, but you refuse to learn anything from it... or even accept you did anything dumb at all.
He didn't notice what he was doing? lol. That's the lie of the year. As for your boyfriend, you did nothing wrong.
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