My boyfriend is too comfortable being broke and needy?

[Anonymous]

We have a lot of chemistry but the fact that he is constantly asking me for stuff (I’m a single mom of one) that he should be able to do for himself. I helped him get moved into his apartment, drive him to stores when he needs to go, etc and he’ll constantly ask me for things from my house that by now he should be able to get himself. I feel like now I have two children and I am completely turned off by a man who doesn’t do things for himself… how should I bring this up? I want a man… not a man child… how can I end this relationship? I feel so bad but I have too much going on in my life between work, school, and being a mother to my ONE child..

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1 y

We’re just at different points in our life.. staying in this relationship doesn’t seem fair to either one of us.

[Anonymous]

This is why i tend to not ask for favors, although i would like to sometimes.

But what is he doing and how old is he? Is he like 30 years old and working in Amazon as a courier or being a wage slave at McDonald's? There was a time i was living paycheck to paycheck and didn't have enough money for food.

[Asker]

He’s 28. Makes $15 an hour. I only care about him asking things of me when I have a household of my own to look after and it’s almost like he expects me to do these things for him when we talk. If I don’t drive to him every day or pick him up, we would not see each other.. I am making all of the effort. I just want him to take initiative and take control of his own life rather than depend on me.. I have my own child and I support my sister and her two kids financially. She helps with childcare so I can work and go to school. All this stuff I do for him.. I can’t help but think he’s taking away from my household and not adding very much to my life. It sucks because he’s a really good dude.. just too dependent on me.

[Opinion Owner]

OK, fair enough, he is not very ambitious but love doesn't pay the bills. Sometimes you need to be direct about it and bring it up as is

[Waldoe]

it sounds like you know what you need to say, what you NEED is some courage... be Brave... Stand up for yourself and what you need and want, don't be a "doormat"

[Emiliamazing]

Sounds like you made the right choice to end the release. It might be the right wake up call he needed. Obviously you needed to get the stress load of constantly supporting him off your mind

[dustybiker]

He needs time alone to grow up. I would cut him loose and find a real man.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Either he grows up or you have to get rid of him. He's a grown man already to be behaving as a child.

[spartan55]

So dump him, what's the problem?

[Asker]

Problem is I don’t know how to dump him… I don’t dump people… I just ghost..

[spartan55]

Really? At your age? Time to start being an adult. How long have you been together?

[Asker]

Yes really. I’ve only been in two relationships prior and I dumped my other two by ghosting. Not really wanting to hurt him because he’s overall a good person.. just too dependent on me. Only been dating 6 months.

[spartan55]

That's really fucked up. You are going to hurt him more by ghosting him idiot. It's not about his feelings, it's about you being a coward.

[Danny_dan92]

And this affects you because?

[Asker]

Too vague..

[Danny_dan92]

Too dumb to stay with a man who acts like a boy. When you already have children, you should definitely know how to determine what is mature or not given you are a mother.

If being with a man, boy is an issue. Simple.

Drop the dick, so you aren’t sick of his shit

[Asker]

You talk like Yoda.. what I fuckin asked was, how do I break it off with him.. didn’t ask for any of your extra bullshit

[Danny_dan92]

Wow. Get mad at people cause that have nothing to do with your stupid ass relationship… have a good one.

Bitchy ass woman.

[Asker]

You call someone dumb and think they’re gonna bend over backwards to kiss your ass. You’re not gods gift to women, jackass. Expect the same energy you put out there. Nimrod

[Danny_dan92]

Lol did I say I was? Honestly you just seem to be hella upset with your outcome on life.

But that’s not my fault or problem so that gives you literally no right to be a bitch,

This is an advice app. If you ask for advice and people give you advice you don’t like. Don’t get mad. Rather stfu and don’t ask for advice then

[Anonymous]

S0rry but dump him

[In_Trance]

dump him