Tips when ex hits up his ex girlfriend?

Anonymous

Me and my boyfriend got into a pretty heated argument which we rarely do. I ended up breaking up with him because he made a comment that was so wild and disrespectful. Within hours, he hit up his ex and a few girls he told me that I didn’t need to worry about. When I met up with him he told me that he didn’t see it working and that’s completely blind sided me because our relationship was as solid as ever. It seemed like he spoke to her and made other arrangements. So for him to say that hurt. I apologized as I was the reason we were in this mess in the first place for breaking up with him and begged him for a second chance (I know, mistake #1) As soon as we talked it out, I forgave him and within the same day we ended up going back out. my issue is now I don’t trust him. We discussed him hitting her up but no matter what he says, I can’t seem to understand why he would’ve done it. I can’t seem to/having difficulty letting go of the situation. I was wondering if anyone had any tips to help me just process everything in a healthy manner because I’m tearing myself down everyday. I wouldn’t hit up my exes because of my respect for him, whether it be in or out of our relationship, purely out of respect but i know I’m a different breed and nobody moves like me. I just can’t help to feel like it should still be her.

Tips when ex hits up his ex girlfriend?
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