My boyfriend doesn’t get hard with me anymore?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, so my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years and when we have sex my boyfriend doesn’t get hard with me anymore. let me first say that we barely have sex much, two, i don’t seduce him, i don’t initiate. i’m not blaming him, it’s 100% my fault. i just don’t feel sexy anymore when i’m with him. i look at myself in the mirror and i see a stranger. i know i’m a beautiful girl, but now i look and all i see is fat and i’m very insecure. i used to be insecure before getting into a relationship with my now boyfriend but it’s gotten so much worse. let’s say he has followed a bunch of bikini and ass profiles on instagram, he likes a bunch of their pictures and he has DMed a couple of them while being in a relationship with me. he tries his hardest to compliment me, but i can’t receive it with love bc all i can think about is him doing those nasty things to me. i forgot to mention when he’s drunk he has said i’m stupid, not pretty, i don’t get him hard, that i should get a reality check bc other girls are so much prettier than me. i ask him when he’s sober and he doesn’t feel that way and that he’s sorry for ever saying those things to me. that’s all i can think about so it’s really hard for me to even think i’m pretty. i’m not skinny by any means so that plays a huge part of my insecurities and it makes me really sad and i really hate myself for it too. i use to be so nice with everyone, not im just a bitch and it makes me so sad.

[20yearsolder]

You don't like the person you've become then put in the effort and change yourself. Diet and workout. Not for your boyfriend but for yourself. The happier you are with yourself, the happier you two will be together.

[Anonymous]

There are 10,000 ways to get a "rise" out of a guy. Your mouth, your hand , viagra , and touching. Unless you are fat as a blimp, smell, or really a guy , I don;t see how this could be the case. Some women use their mouths to get guy hard , some their hand.

[FilmGuy93]

It sounds like you need to take some time to think about whether this relationship is something you want to invest in. You should definitely hit the gym to feel desirable and worthy of love/respect.

[MementoMori_]

Break up now, it's over. The longer you wait the harder it will get. Don't waste more time in this failed relationship, it's time to move on.

[TacticalLizard]

If You don’t like your body then Workout 🏋️‍♂️ It’s a scientific Fact that Working out gives a better body if you decide to not workout then You we’re lying and Like your body the way it is.

[Anonymous]

Is he showing any signs of cheating? That could be a reason, or perhaps he's fallen out of love with you?

[Asker]

i don’t think he’s cheating, yet. but i think i do agree with you on he’s fallen out of love with me. we don’t go out on dates anymore and i asked him why and he would tell me that i’m boring and i don’t talk much so it would be awkward to go out with me if it will be silence. he went out with his friends to go out to eat so i know he’s not broke.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I hope you work things out.

[TheFlak38]

you're a major turn off and you even admit it.

[Ironic_Method]

So what's the question?

[Anonymous]

So what's the question?