When considering entering a relationship with someone do you ever ask close friends or acquaintances of them to get a 2nd opinion on them?

[Still-alive]

And hear from other people what they think of this person you are interested in?

Yes i will ask their friends or aquaintances opinions on the person im interested in

No i never do that.

Maybe, it just depends (say how)

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I think it's a crock of shit to ask your friends to give a second opinion. It's one thing that if they offer it, because they know something's off with them, it's a completely different story if you ask them to come up with an opinion because you're unsure.
Your friend is going to pick up on that & LOOK for something wrong & will most likely find something, anything, to tell you.

But to each their own.

[melanieeeB]

Not anymore, I used to ask friends in the past but I figured out that they didn't give me the right advices and one especially rather saw me be unhappy but acted like she wanted the best for me.
I got rid of those "friends" but I still don't ask friends for advice, I know that my gut feeling is way better.

[Still-alive]

that sucks

[PeteBy]

I was just thinking the same. Seen it a lot especially with women, where you think they are friends but they're trying to dissuade you so they have more men to choose from or they want to be the centre of attention. Saw it a lot when I was DJ'ing. As a general rule, best to find out for yourself.

[melanieeeB]

Well most couldn't give the right advice, cause they just didn't had the guts to be upfront and honest. Instead of "hey he is an ass", they would be like "well but he texted hi, so give him a chance and you're always so fast by saying bye, it's unfair to him".
And I have no idea why this one always wanted me to stay unhappy, I can't explain her motive, I just know her actions.

[Maybe_1day]

I would only ask my own friends (opposite gender) for some kind of information to understand her.
But other than that, I would never get any third party involved in my relationship. It often just destroys the relationship. Your relationship, your private life. Opinions from close allies just ends up making you full of exaggeration or doubts.

[Twalli]

I seek their input after I've started dating, but it is my decision who I start dating. I also seek my parent's opinion on her. I can't always tell if I'm being used. My parents can. My sister was being used and eventually found out and now has a much better boyfriend, and my parents knew she was being used.

[boredgal]

yes I do ask their opinion now that I'm older, especially my family. If they see something about the guy that I'm dating and they don't like it, I'll probably take their advice. They're my family and there were times when I was still younger that I did not listen to their advices and instantly regretted it.

[On_cloud_wine]

Yeah.. but I don’t think too much into their opinion if I don’t really value their judgment in the 1st place.

[petitedollbabee]

If my friends know the person, then absolutely. I would want to know if there’s anything that I need to watch out for.

[Guardian45]

Yes i will ask my friends opinions on the person im interested in, because I'm prone to misreading communication or taking a longtime to process my feelings.

[Still-alive]

well i meant their friends if you know them also? would you ask them?

[LazerBean]

I would never ask their friends. But when I hear anything that has to do with their reputation, I am all yours. Usually something comes out eventually.

[RedStiletto88]

I really have taken to heart the thoughts of family and friends on men I’ve dated. I can get very attached in a relationship and it’s nice to know people are looking out for me.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Yeah, but I wouldn't ask them specifically about being in a relationship. I just want to know more about their relationship/friendship so I can better understand what person I'm dealing with.

[Msputiton]

No I'm dating them, not my friends or family

[Drumlin2001]

No. What matters is what I think. Others will have their opinions which is fine. Though now I have kids, maybe I would listen to others if I were single again. Have to be more careful

[Borntodie11]

If I like that person no one else needs to validate my feelings.

[menina]

I've never done that because I've never been in a relationship.

[Pinay_ako]

Nah… it’s my business

[loveslongnails]

I don't need, nor want, anyone else's opinions on whom I wish to date or be in a relationship with.

[Googlemyahoo]

People change over time you might get old info.

[llorando]

I do not, none of anyone else's business who I date, except the person I'm dating.

[Zolly99999]

No I do not.. it's none of anyone's else's business...

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I dont ask, or have ever had anyone to consider doing that with.

[Bexxiib]

Not really. If you know you know!

[itsalyssaagain]

No... I like to use my own judgement lol.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, I never do that.