What would you do if someone is shamelessly checking your S/O out in your face?

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ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Context is everything. If he doesn't seem threatening, I'd start conversing with and holding her such that the guy knew she was off limits, and it was back to the drawing board.

If he continues to stare forlornly, I'd politely ask him if everything is okay.

If he's hiding behind bushes poorly, wearing a hoodie and staring at her like he has ill intent, cautiously approach and let him know he's not doing a very good job of hiding. Then, be ready for anything. He might emotionally collapse upon being caught. He might charge like a rhino. But try to find some local cover when getting within range, so I'm not a clean target if he starts shooting.

If he seems unwilling then to follow through, get him some help. If he goes off like a complete lunatic, fight of flight. And give her a chance to call the police.

Usually, if I see some adorable new face but then someone who looks like her boyfriend approaches, I immediately look away. I always have something else to be doing, just in case.

I don't do anything crazy, unless I'm cornered. As in, he gets insecure that I may have noticed his girl, and now he hovers over me, invading my personal space and antagonizing. Being a bully.

I'll tell him once, kindly, to back off. If he proceeds to be a jackass, I'll be less polite about it. If he then manhandles me or my property, he's at minimum walking away with some bruises.

And if that's the case, I'll hope she'll have enough sense to think twice about the relationship.

I probably wouldn't want her anymore after that.

For there is no honor in trying to claim her in that situation. The goal is no longer at that point about admiring or acquiring a girl. It's about my rights, safety, and honor.

Thankfully, I haven't been in that exact situation. But it's par for the course with the stupid I seem to find lurking around every corner.

My biggest fear isn't that I'll be forced into a confrontation with crazy like that, because crazy doesn't know where to draw the line. It's that police will get involved, and just lazily decide to throw everyone in jail, "just to be sure."

Hasn't happened yet, but always a risk. Never even assume anymore you can eat at a cafe inside of Banes and Noble in peace. Someone in there just might decide they don't believe you deserve to have any peace. And you gotta be prepared to defend yourself, no matter their insane reason to conclude they should start trouble with you, even if you get painted as the villain for not consenting to being a punching bag!

bigpauly · Accepted Answer

I’ve had this happen. I put my arm around her and planted a kiss on her cheek lol.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

This happened to me before - only she wasn't just looking at him, she threw her arms around his neck and said "Good morning" with me staying right there. He caught hell for not taking her arms down, and for not introducing me to her. He just stood there! Oh, this made me realize that he might have been with her sexually. He didn't deny it either. He claimed he fixed her cable tv FROM OUTSIDE HER APARTMENT IN THE HALLWAY. Yeh, right!!
I was so upset and angry that when I was driving later that day, I got into a car accident. It was my friends car too.
The next day I saw her in the hallway of our apartment and told her she shouldn't just go up to a man and throw her arms around his neck. She replied that she's h st a baby g hugger. So I held up my ring to her and told her that we are engaged and she better keep her hands off!
Yep! The women sure do gravitate to him for some reason. One time we were in a lounge filling out a lottery ticket together. This attractive young woman kept passing by our table and giving him her flirty little looks. Again, he just sat there. I was pissed.
Why is it when a woman see's another woman with a guy, she has to flirt with him right in front of her?
Ah, yes! A woman may not use her claws but she sharpens them everyday! 💅

Reddy4it · Accepted Answer

Get the popcorn…There better be some flirting…

Crafteroon · Answer

I fully believe in "you can look but don't touch". That applies to both us in the relationship looking at others, and others looking at us.

I'm not going to pretend to be blind when in a relationship, and I don't expect her to be either. So if someone caughts our interest, it's only natural. And there's trust to know that it's only looking.

Now if I notice my girlfriend getting annoyed or bothered by someone acting like a creep, I will step up. But I'm not going hover over her, controlling everything she does.

If you are someone who goes through their partner's phone, you have serious trust issues, and need to check that issue before you start dating someone new. It's unhealthy, and you need to start dating trustworthy people.

dustybiker · Answer

It happens. I think of it as a warped compliment. I sit back and watch the show. (I trust him completely to deal with it in his own creative ways.)

ZackBan · Answer

It's a testament to my success so it's flattering in a way.

But if it gets too shameless I'll mark my territory by kissing her or putting an arm around her depending on the situation

If he makes an attempt at her I'd like to think she'll shut him down but if he crosses any line I'll happily do him the courtesy of breaking every bone in his face

iiyuizx · Answer

first of all, if my partner is loyal he won't even look at the shameless person who is looking at him even though it's obvious he has a girlfriend who is literally standing next to him. but if a girl looks at my partner and he gives her the same energy then he's the one who must be blamed not the person looking at him. some of us blame other random people for looking at their partner but it's not their fault if my man is extremely attractive and irresistible.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Laugh in their direction and roll my eyes. Like "bitch please, he's mine. I know you wish!" Then I mark my territory in some obvious way, and tell my S. O. as soon as I can for a laugh for both of us.

Msputiton · Answer

Laugh  That's pathetic to be that desperate to be gawking at someone else's partner

Sandeeppingping · Answer

People are too.. Insultable (if that's even a word if it isn't give me a pulitzer), I'd find something funny about him and make fun of him until it's clear that even if he checks her out for eternity, he's still gonna be mr. pubic hair or white sneakers on a suit tasteless fuck or I'll claim he likes children, and we'll see how he recovers from that

JBlade · Answer

I hope I wouldn’t be that insecure about our relationship to worry about. I would like to think I could trust my partner to be smart and handle it. I’d only step in if absolutely necessary.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I will hold his hand while sticking to him and stare at the 'secret admirer' of my S/O with a smirky smile that says "Yo gurl! you see I got this man! Sadly it ain't you".

KrisPW · Answer

I'd laugh and he'd get an extra dose of "sex" in the kiss I'd give him. He's good looking, I get it... But he's mine...

Sixgunsound · Answer

This happened when we were dating. Without breaking stride I said “she’s great, isn’t she” and we kept moving. Some of the best sex I ever had in my life followed when we got home😎

Havthrills · Answer

I would hold her closer and stare at the person. If it's a woman, that might not affect her one bit though. Lol.  by the way, Stitch is awesome. I'm wearing a shirt with him on it right now.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Lol knowing me I'd either smirk and play it off or she'd get a death stare. Depends on my mood.

Pyrofox · Answer

I'd just hug them and when they are like "whats that for" jokingly say "well there a closer view" XD.

Emiliamazing · Answer

Smile and not be angry. He’s all mine and someone being overly flirtatious shouldn’t change that. If it does, then I picked the wrong guy.

NathanDavis · Answer

usually... I don't have to anything at all the moment I look at them, they stop doing it... either silently or verbally apologize, lol

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Oh my husband brings me closer to him , introduces me as his wife , and kisses me on my lips so there is absolutely no confusion on her part. 😁

AviatorTom · Answer

That doesn't happen often but when it does, I consider myself to be a lucky guy to have such an attractive SO.

spartan55 · Answer

Doesn't bother me, I know who she is going home with.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am going to put him in his place. For example, I would say to him, “she looks good sexy dose’s she?” and he would have to agree and then I would say to him,” I think so too, I am glad she is going home with me.”

I am not the jealous type so I don’t mind guys looking. I like what they are looking at too and she goes home with me so why be upset?

Twalli · Answer

Let them look, let them wish they were me, let them masturbate that night wishing they were with her. I will be fucking her that night, because unlike them, she's with me. It's a bit of a power trip to know my girlfriend turns on other guys.

77five · Answer

Never happened to me but I wouldn't care unless my boyfriend was into it.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Laugh, lol. Make some jokes with him about it.

petitedollbabee · Answer

They can check him out all they want, but he’s MINE 😆 you can look but you can’t touch!

Aerolyn · Answer

This is one of these questions I wouldn't be able to answer unless it actually happens, lol.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nothing. Unless it's bothering her. He can admire the view all he likes.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

That feels good. "Yes, he's wondeful and mine!"

Phoenix98 · Answer

Never happened before but I guess if it did I’d wrap my arm around her and walk off.

Still-alive · Answer

Embrace my SO shamelessly right in front of him so he gets the idea 'this is mine!' lol :P

AsaKyo · Answer

Tell her to gtfo and squish my boobs all over his arm while I hug it lmao

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

It doesn't bother me. I'm sure I have checked out someone's girlfriend many times, lol.

Zolly99999 · Answer

If it's just harmless looking then I don't care.. but if it's aggressive flirting then I would say something..

gina4love · Answer

i will keep praying for God to change my partner. i will not do anything to the girl because is my husband that talk with her. you dont need to fight over it.

boobliker · Answer

not a thing if she want to go she will, I won't be-able to stop if that what she wants

TroyDT · Answer

Tell the person, "Take a picture, it lasts longer."

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Well I say im lucky to have a good looking girl who cares for me if i wasn't single

Paul09 · Answer

Nothing at all. Id be more happy if anything.

alance99 · Answer

Kiss her, obstruct his view or might take her away from there

Hanrej · Answer

Nothing unless their attention bothers my SO.

Jenny-Marie · Answer

Smile sweetly and give him a long lingering kiss.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nothing. It actually means my girl is beautiful. He can look but not touch. 😆

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Get my SOs attention & give him a big kidd

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I'd use the alpha stare

RavVid · Answer

I think grab your SO and say we're leaving.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

The picture’s so cute 🥰❤️

melanieeeB · Answer

I call them out

Andres77 · Answer

Stand between them and stare back.

Fuentes · Answer

I don't care I'm not insecure

jackieistired · Answer

They can look all they want, he’s still mine

Mart10 · Answer

I'll break that person's face

Blackcupcake · Answer

I would laugh lmfao

Guardian45 · Answer

I don't like it. And I would say so.

Alex8736 · Answer

I would take it as a compliment 😜

BLP11520 · Answer

Laugh, if it's my wife 😂

utopiandream_ · Answer

We'd be both embarrassed.

SnowedIn · Answer

Kiss them.

marcwill33 · Answer

who really cares

She_smiled_back21 · Answer

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