
How Functional Are The Five Love Languages?

How Functional Are The Five Love Languages?
Okay here's 5– Words of affirmation means a lot to me. Of course actions should speak louder, but a lot of people these days don’t even try with words. people are so rude for no reason and think the shit is cute. So yea he needs to sweet talk me and back it up with actions. Quality time is the next important thing to me. I like to spend time with a person who wants to build a relationship and a future with me. But i still need space. I’m in no rush to live together so I dont need them sleeping at my house every night. I still like having my bed to myself. Give me quality time but also give me space. I need at least 3 hours to myself a day and thats just the minimum. But i always make a guy feel wanted. I’d only push him away if i’ve lost interest. Next is physical touch. I don’t need sex but I do need kisses and a few other things. If he doesn't touch me then I’ll assume he’s not truly attracted to me. Acts of service honestly comes 4th because i’m more of a giver than a receiver but i still like to see them romance me as well. I do not consider acts of service the same of actions speaking louder than words. Lastly is gifts. Again, i’m more of a giver than a receiver but i’d appreciate meaningful gifts of material things. I like embroidered jewelry, gift baskets or sweet poems on both of our ends.
They help everyone differently but thats how they help me
1. Gifting
Showing appreciation via gifting (especially if it is according to what the need or like) is a great way to display good understanding of what your partner wants or needs, indicating that you put in the effort to actually understand them as a person.
2. Acts of Service.
Cooking a meal for them, cleaning their car, etc, especially when they have a busy or tiring schedule is a great way of displaying effort and care towards your partner.
3. Physical Touch
Hugging/cuddling is one of the best ways to just be there for your partner and express your appreciation for them by being there with them, without being distracted by your phones, or other things. This is great for comforting your partner when things go wrong in their lives, and also acts as a precursor to intimacy.
4. Quality time.
This is related to point 3. Spending time together, with no outside distractions, doing the things that you both love doing together, getting to know your partner better, are all examples of setting aside time for your partner. This makes it known that you value spending time and bonding with your partner.
5. Words of affirmation.
This has to be coupled with everything else I have mentioned. It is extremely important to tell your partner what they mean to you, how much they mean to you, and how much you appreciate them. Yes, actions can speak louder than words, but words are more obvious than actions. That is why a successful relationship is often characterised by words aimed at building your partner up and making them feel appreciated.
Gift giving
Acts of service
Physical touch
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First and most important part to know what's yours. Then your partners.
Let's say you like to help people by serving you take pride in doing so. Most moms and women's do. For them it is likely to be their primary Lola. If you could help them same way. That may make them feel loved. If it is their primary love language (Lola)
I'm not gonna explain all 5, you can Google that but it helps when you know what love language your partner has and to understand them better and what is important to them and to meet halfway
I like me a partner who at least have one love language in common with me, so we're on the same page and understand each other and well have the same love language.
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