A woman I used to see got in touch yesterday asking if I was up for a coffee.
I'm thinking that I should tell my girlfriend that I declined the coffee meet up. I think I would much rather my girlfriend tell me.
Should I?
I would tell my partner, yes, as part of the things to tell that happened in my day.
I wouldn't be insecure about that because I know we have mutual trust and I'd expect he wouldn't have any reason to think I'm going to cheat on them by just getting contacted by an ex. How fragile would our relationship be, then, if this is sufficient to cause trust issues?
So the fact you are wondering, to the point of asking here, maybe means you have a very triggerable partner or that your communication isn't great, that make your mutual trust a bit unsure. Give it a check, as a side thing to try fixing/improving, in case.
I'd invest always in communication anyway, when in doubt.
Maybe you can add a convincing explanation about why you rejected her coffee (and why you would reject any future coffee with your ex) so that she has a reason to believe the relationship isn't at risk even if it happens again.
Hopefully she will recognize how trustable you are by telling her these things, while you could have totally hidden that instead.
I would not tell her unless she brings it up. There’s no need as it is no big deal ‼️
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why would you tell her this?
Yes tell her!
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