How do you cope with being forever alone?

[Anonymous]

[MarkRet]

When I was about your age I was withdrawn, depressed, felt that I was so ugly, had few friends, and never had any relationships, because I thought women hated me. At the time I figured relationships just weren't going to happen for me, so I started doing my own thing, doing things I always wanted to do, like ice skating lessons, etc. It all expanded my horizons, gave me a feeling of self-confidence, and I broke out of a lot of shells. Relationships with women just seemed to start happening for me, and even though I didn't know what the hell I was doing, I learned along the way. I ended up getting married a few years later. I wasn't 'forever' alone, but I also didn't worry about it, and things just happened anyway. Stay positive!

[Static_In_The_Attic]

For starters I always say you are never alone if you have imaginary friends & if you have imaginary friends consider yourself privileged because a lot of people don’t. On the other hand you may think you are alone in this world alone you are not. In life some people have a lot on their plate & some people have a buffet. In life I always say you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. You ask how I cope, I just take one day at a time.

[EmyyWolf]

LOL that’s impossible. I’m sure you have family and siblings. But even then. The only way you can stay alone forever romantically is if you choose to.

People are desperate nowadays. You just need to know how to talk and behave to obtain a lady.

I've seen pretty and gorgeous women with the ugliest of men. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Get on testosterone, Hit the gym. Go to the military. Become a Cop. Join Karate. People are absolutely everywhere. Work Security at a Club.

I don't know WTF you're TALKING ABOUT.

[Topaz1979]

You should stop wanting things you don’t have and appreciate the things you do have and remind yourself how much you would crave the things you have now if you didn’t have them. So add a lot more gratitude in your life.

[Topaz1979]

And don't give up if you want a relationship keep looking for it and take your time looking for a suitable partner, don't be disappointed by your failed attempts at love instead know that that girl rejecting you or not being compatible with just means that you can go out there and find a new girl who is better for you and that should be exciting!. it's a new chapter! a new adventure.

[coachTanthony]

You have everyone on GAG... you're never alone lol

[Pinay_ako]

You’re too young to conclude forever…

[mobiusforniner]

Right?

[TonightYouu]

Dont take advice from a woman they aren’t lonely like how men are they receive constant attention and validation

[mobiusforniner]

@TonightYouu oh woe is you. Everything revolves around poor little boys who can't get any. Life is so hard, wah, wah, wah.

[TonightYouu]

@mobiusforniner see what I mean even now

[Pinay_ako]

@TonightYouu you’re so sad

[TonightYouu]

Says the people who can’t handle mild criticism

[Pinay_ako]

@TonightYouu 🤣

[Lookingforthetruth]

His only other option is getting a cum dumpster that now wants something "Serious" after she has been ran through by the top 20% of amles.

[TonightYouu]

@Lookingforthetruth no because women overvalue themselves nobody who is Lizzos size she be thinking they could get any man they wanted

[mobiusforniner]

@Lookingforthetruth wooooow... a "cum dumpster"? Is that how you think of women? Keep staying in that 80% buddy. Keeps guys like me on top without even trying... lol

[Lookingforthetruth]

@mobiusforniner Stop being a white knight who gets triggered whenever someone is blunt about it.

Am I saying all women are cum dumpsters? No. I am however saying that there is a subset of female population that rack up tons of men who then later in life pick a nice stable, beta bitch for companionship. A lot of times these women are on the liberal side.

And judging by how you act, you would be a perfect target for these women to latch their claws into.

[mobiusforniner]

@Lookingforthetruth I've dated women who were liberal with their sex lives. Also dated virgins. Met some amazing women, regardless how many partners theyve had. That closed minded perspective will keep women away from you. So dont bitch. For starters, women dont like whiny bitches.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@mobiusforniner People who tend to brag about their sex life on here and how much they get often are lying. It's the same when people say how great there relationship all the time on social media and then out of the blue all the bad laundry comes out after the breakup.

In short, your behavior on here as a white knight and need to attack me tells me the opposite of what you are trying to portray here. The only people you fool is yourself by assuming people buy into the lie.

[mobiusforniner]

@Lookingforthetruth lol keep telling yourself that buddy. Im married now, so its all behind me. I can only tell you what I've learned in my experience. Take it or leave it

[D_Bone_Steak]

Due to wife being military and going on 9 to 12 month deployments and my kid is autistic... I'm basically alone. Video games, drinking, lifting weights, and chores. Reading helps as well. Talk to yourself... get over that idea that it's crazy. I mean at least you're talking to someone.

[Juxtapose]

I am autistic as well, how bad is it for your kid?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Juxtapose I'm not sure about the medical terms but he's been classed at the highest level and non-verbal. He speaks, but most people have no idea what he's saying. He basically just runs back and forth all the time... called stemming from what I've been told. Let's just say he's not sitting down and having deep conversations with me. I'm just glad he can use the bathroom because I was still changing diapers far beyond normal. My wife has basically accepted the kid is probably going to have to live with us for life. I still have hope... maybe I can find him a nice girl that wears kneepads and a football helmet all the time. ... jokes aside though, it's pretty bad. It's like raising a South Park character.

[Asker]

@d_bone_steak I don't have autism, just very sensitive to sound and the environment. Like you get overwhelmed, pens clicking, and stop stuff like that? I do not think it is a handicap, just a developmental delay. I was slow and made very repetitive movements like that as a kid. I have slight autism, and my IQ was in the mid-60s as a kid. Then it went up to 74 at 22. Now, I am in college with a 3.7 GPA. I haven't got another IQ test, but the doctor said there is no way you are a 74. That had to be a mistake. How old is he? My uncle had it too, and could not read until he was 18. He owns a business now. I thought it just meant you are slower than ordinary people.

[Asker]

@d_bone_steak they used to call what I have slight autism or PDD ( pervasive developmental disorder), but they changed and just said it is an autistic spectrum disorder. Your son, how old is he? Does it look like he is getting anywhere?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm starting to think I have it to be honest. Like I have a degree in accounting but it doesn't matter how many times I've memorized multiplication tables, my brain just data dumps that. Same with spelling. I think I didn't have scholastic issues because my Grandparents were absolutely brutal with education. I was reading and writing long before Kindergarten and some of my worst memories are being forced to do multiplication tables from 6 in the morning straight through until 9 at night and then repeating for months straight. Normal people just don't comprehend that some of us just can't memorize everything as they can. To be blunt it sucks living a life where I get straight A's in advanced accounting where the calculator was literally mandatory, but a basic algebra class always got flunked because of that lack of just permanently being able to memorize this and that equals that. I did tests and I was off the charts with mathematical logic, but I was basically retarded in math. ... anyways at my age, I've learned you just got to accept everyone isn't a carbon copy of each other and just work with what you got the best you can. I recognize what i suck at and try to just avoid that, but I also recognize what comes to me easier than the average person. My kid will have to do the same... he does rain man things sometimes like pick up a video game and become #1 player in the world, in just a matter of weeks... meanwhile, I'm playing Elden Ring and I just basically die on repeat. Is what it is... it's just accepting it. Like with everything "deal with it" and "figure it out" have been the only things that seem set in stone for me in this life. Maybe a healthy dose of "oh well, whatever."

[D_Bone_Steak]

My kid is 11 and does seem to be getting somewhere... there's progress. The biggest issue is he becomes a target for other kids at school. I'm hoping I can just get him to High School age and then he can excel like I did with a charter school. Same as it was for me, it's just dealing with other kids that sucks about school the most. You take any of my adult kids though and they seem to love socializing. My autistic kid actually finds other children annoying... I really relate to that aspect about him.

[Asker]

@d_bone_steak I mean, I think that is the issue. Everyone learns differently, and some people need the math simplified. I could not remember any multiplication, and I was terrible at basic math, but when it came to algebra, I understood it quickly because the professor simplified the math for me. He showed me how to divide faster as 750 divided btwtwoatwod split the number into easy numbers 600 100 and 50 that 300 50 and 25 add them back together, 375. He showed me an easy method for multiplying decimals. I could not add numbers in my head or memorize the table, but after working with him, I knew it like the back of my hand. He taught me to just move on to the next subject and not worry if I forget; my brain will start remembering on its own. Just keep practicing the next—spaced repetition. He was kind and understanding and was not an asshole like my old teachers.

A good teacher and a bad one make a huge difference. I realize I was not stupid.

I am good at algebra, but I still need to improve on my basic back. But I have seen significant growth over the last year.

The bad teachers will blame the student a good teacher will break it down for you.

[Asker]

Yeah, the public schools are bad too many kids in one class room.

[D_Bone_Steak]

You can say that again. I felt like I was in some sort of prison stuck with people that don't even want to be there. My kid probably doesn't feel much different.

Sort of the same in college, sort of... I hated the basic bitch classes that everybody has to take because the class clowns and social rejects... you know the ones you already know will drop out in the 2nd year... they're packed in those classes and those are the classes you're forced to do. Once I got away from the basic mandatory stuff it was usually just a class of people taking the class seriously. TBH, it was almost the reverse opposite of attention seekers.

Public school is the worst. I'm like the parent that feels bad for my kid having to go to one. He hits High Scool age and I can finally give him a different option than that shit show.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I wish I had your math teacher... Rote learning or memorization seems to be some people's only way of understanding anything. It's just worked for me. Spelling words for instance got a lot easier by learning the history behind the word as well as what language it came from and how it used to be spelled and so forth. More effort I guess, but it was the only thing working for me because just memorizing it like everyone else was not working.

[D_Bone_Steak]

*It just never worked for me

[Asker]

I tried it while learning a language. I write down the words, but I don't worry about memorization. I do memorization once a week; the spaced repetition. I mostly focus on reading, and of If I forget what the word means I don't worry about it because I will into the same word later. Same thing with algebra. You will have to multiple the same numbers over and over again, so is no point in remembering what eight times eight is just move on to the next one. Once I hit a week, I go over it again.

[Juxtapose]

Oh that sucks, I thankfully wasn't that bad growing up but I improved quite a bit through effort and experience. It must be lonely without anyone to relate to for you.

[Juxtapose]

(meant D_Bone_Steak)

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Juxtapose Well I'm married with kids by different women here and there. The kids like me and nobody wants to murder me, so I think I'm doing alright. Life is life and we just play with the hand we're dealt.

[lightbulb27]

Find God and accept Jesus Christ in your heart as your savior and practice what He preached. If that doesn't work, try Buddah. that way you are never alone and to be honest, that is the point of the belief in Christ... to address fear, death, and other sad emotions.

Then out of love in your heart, you learn to connect with others. I was alone for a long time, sometimes it takes patience, but much more... it requires you making changes and taking steps to learn to communicate, to grow as a man, heal your inner self, and find ways to like people and connect with them emotionally. That will require work.. no different than anything else.

If you want to be alone, then go ahead. it probably feels good because it validates how you feel, but I doubt it's what you really want.

[BettyBogas]

learn machine learning. study ai for years. learn programming. learn mechanics. engeering. once u have mastered these 5 elements. i belibe u can build a nude robot. enojoy the free advice I don't give it out lightly. i am here for you brother

[Asker]

Never I think I found the one.

[Joker_]

lol‎‎

[BettyBogas]

aw he found the nude robot

[TheVigilantOne]

You’re only in your 20’s you won’t be alone forever and forever doesn’t exist, I’m older than you and I’ve been on my own for nearly 4 years now, I’m coping ok now and again I get an urge to want to talk to someone but that feeling passes, I’m sure you’ll meet someone one day.

[BettyBogas]

when will the universe and the existence of existence no longer be here. When will things time space stop exstiencing when is the expiration date. I have so many questions

[Anonymous]

"It's better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all". The person that said this has never been hurt that badly🤣

I'm not saying that love isn't worth it when it good. Because when it's good it's totally worth it. But the reality is so few woman want anything more then thier own needs met anymore. I'm sorry man but that's the simple TRUTH!

You just see the single side so you don't realize how advantageous being single is. I would much rather be single for the rest of my days then be with a woman who really doesn't appreciate me.

Understand most people in relationships are not happy. I'll say again, MOST. They project an image that isn't real. Because they can't even admit it to themselves. When you realize this, your going to take a deep breathe, smile, and be thankful for how good you actually have it.

[NewsReader]

Understand that you don't need a partner in life. There is no law against being single for life. You can live a normal happy life with just friends and your family. That's what I'm doing and I'm fine. I have a career, my own place, I explore an earby park, and plenty of other things to do. I never think about the fact that I'm the only one at home. It's easy to live this way if you have a positive attitude and things to do.

[scott04sa22]

Dated crazy ex girlfriend at 28M.


Now Currently dating someone at 36M.


Not everybody is forever alone. my Ex girlfriend was too crazy then i stayed single for 8 years until I met my current girlfriend who is friends with my old high school friends. If you choose to stay single then that’s your choice.

[Anonymous]

I used to be in your boat but now I just escape in my imagination and love my fictional characters. I admire art, beauty, knowledge, solitude and few good friends.

I have very toxic parents who don't love me either, they wanted to control my whole life. At 23 I finally stopped giving all fucks.

[Anonymous]

this is incorrect. forever is a long time. even with your age, assuming you live to normal life expectancy, you still have a LONG way to go. there's absolutely no way you can end up forever alone. there's sooo many people on this earth too that will most likely appreciate you. in the meantime while you find someone, you can cope with being single by improving yourself or someone else's life. you're going to be okay. trust me.

[Anonymous]

You don't. You just exist and turn yourself into a robot of sorts, substituting human relations with work and studies. You will become successfull, but you still don't really exist outside of work, and that's never going to change. All you can do is hope for better luck in your next life.

[Manny58]

Listen buddy I chose to b alone forever it's not worth bein with women. They only try to control u. Any relation aftr few years just becomes a obligation. Now I am alone I save a lot of money. I travel live a luxurious life. Nd for sex I have whores. I don't mind it. For hand jobs there are spas. If u r alone make sure u have money. Nd life is awesome

[TonightYouu]

Seriously dude don’t take advice from women on loneliness (it’s not the same for women)

how do you even get to be alone I’d love to be you im introverted and the personification of apathy yet people flock to me

I feel like because they can tell that I want to be left alone and I’m NGL people like you piss me off because that’s backwards asf and unfair Id kill to be alone ( Ha!)

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Dont cope... life is too short to be misarable, move to another state or another country meet cute girl or boy and make them happy help people... you will see how you won't feel alone when you have somebody to fight for in this life, find your purpose

[mobiusforniner]

Psh... so many "woe is me" guys on GAG. Look down and try to find those little nuggets between your legs, grab em- to make sure theyre there- and go DO something to CHANGE your circumstance.

[JFelix]

I love the women's answers compared to the men's, women are saying how you never know what's gonna happen and that he's too young that he still has time whilst men say, cope, you don't need anyone etc.

[Tina19]

If you want to do this alone first of all become a practical person and accept your emotions but not act on them secondly having a pet in your life provides good emotional support and company

[James899]

@Tina19 hi

[supercutebutt]

You can turn into a religious weirdo like Saint Maud.

[Paulalove98]

I’m wondering the same because sometimes I think I’m gonna be forever alone.

[Asker]

I don't think so. You are very smart.

[Paulalove98]

Im gonna be 24 next month and 6 years away from 30. I feel lost sometimes like wondering what I’m doing with my life but all I know is sometimes I wanna move and get away from all the heartache I’ve experienced here in my state/city. Thanks tho.

[Asker]

Sometimes that is the best move to make. That is the only to get out of depression. Taking baby steps is too slow, and you get overwhelmed and give up. You got to take drastic steps sometimes. If you want to move to X location, do it. Take the risk. Even if you know, you might fail and embarrass yourself. Sometimes that is the only way to be it. Like that game of thrones quote, "can a man be brave if he is afraid? That is the only time he can be brave," sometimes you just got to try and take a big risk for a big reward.

[77five]

Dude were like almost exactly the same age lol.