“People change for who they want.” True or false?

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ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

I think that's oversimplifying it. We are all unique. 2 women (or men) can ask the same thing of thier partner. But EVERYTHING about those 2 women (or men) is different. So to women can ask the same thing, but definitely not the same way. I knew this one woman when I was younger that just had a knack of making you feel like you were the ONLY person in the world when she talked to me. It wasn't me. It was just her personality. She treated everyone like that. And I always was amazed that she could never understand why so many people liked her. She did not get that she was unusually thoughtful. Those are the types of people you're just compelled to make happy. Because they make the world a better place just with thier presence.

KittyBox · Accepted Answer

Incorrect, people change for what they want.

Who would be detrimental.

For instance, I would want to become a better person simply so that I can be more courteous and kind, I'm not trying to change because of someone but because I feel like it's beneficial to myself.

If you have someone who wants you to change who you are, you're more likely to leave them, than to allow the change to happen, because you may disagree with the change as it's something you didn't decide on.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Definitely true especially for men. They will change if they choose to. The issue is a lot of men don't think it's necessary to change for a relationship. When its very obvious that getting in a relationship means you can't remain the same person you were when you were single. I assume aftef multiple relationships they start realizing this

Tulips94 · Accepted Answer

No they don’t. They try but it never works. They always revert to who they are.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I think that, a REAL change comes from realisation of wanting better for oneself. yes, people will certainly change themselves sometimes for someone else, but their reasoning is solely that person. it kind of becomes an obsession, wanting to please and be better for that person. so what happens when the relationship ends? they go back to exactly how they were before that person.

HOWEVER. some people, realise that, they want to change for the better for THEIR OWN sake first but also for that person, because that person motivates them to do so… but it’s not SOLELY for that person, and it’s a sustainable change, one that lasts even after the relationship ends.

but to answer your question, yes, people change for who they want, because, there could be many people that try to motivate someone to change, and one can just ignore until they find someone who interests them enough to “want to change”.

NathanDavis · Answer

not me... lol

if they don't want me for who I am and the way I am... then they do not have to bother me with me at all

glad that nobody ever has asked me to change either...

now, adjustment... yes, I do believe it is always a great idea to adjust to one another, and relationships can be much better when you're willing to do that adjust a bit here and there but not just change who you actually are, that ain't genuine... lol

SEL195 · Answer

I think it is true. Some men and woman cheta their whole lives but that one person can make them stop. Or so I have heard. Some men are never ready to commit but that one woman makes them ready.

You always try to be better for the people you love and if you don't truly love them then you won't change or compromise for them.

lightbulb27 · Answer

quite a quote. people change when they are ready and willing. I think it's easier to change when one has time to reflect that they want to change and feels the freedom to do so. It probably is not as simple as what was stated.

There's a reason why people have to wander through the desert and alone and fall into the gutter of the street... to change. It isn't always about the other person...

Emiliamazing · Answer

I think it’s important to note that we all change, because we can’t control all the externals that are thrown at us on a daily basis. What’s important though, is to have reminders of who you want to be for those you care about. Sometimes we forget to put our best feet forward, and some happiness can be lost. It should be a joy to give kindness to those around you every day. We just need to remember to do so.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

The entire idea of making people change should be eliminated. It's a very womanish issue... changing people like that. Be more like me... that isn't going to try to turn a ho into a housewife. Sure you can apply restrictions... what's the point though if you're just caging a wild tiger. To look at him? Poke him with a stick?

MCheetah · Answer

False. People change if they feel like they NEED to change. If someone is fine with who they are, then they have no need to change for someone else just because they WANT them to, and that someone else should either accept that, or find a person they're more accepting of. If you need someone to "change for you," then that person isn't right for you to begin with; stop trying to force a round peg into a square hole.

RavVid · Answer

I don't think so.

I will honor requests but if it is an order than it gets the respect it deserves.

In general I don't think people change for anyone. That new girl of six months probably just doesn't care as much as the first girl or made requests instead of giving orders

JDAC092299 · Answer

Yeah people don’t change, they may start something you want them to or stop it but more times than not they’ll conform back to their old ways because their core values/personality will cause them to do it again. I “changed” a lot for a women once I did everything she said and it wasn’t enough and on top of that she “changed” for me too but after a few months went back to her old ways and looking back I think I reverted to mine too. People in my experience don’t change only their expectations do.

genericname85 · Answer

false. people don't change (generally speaking. there's rare exceptions but they are so rare, it would be stupid to use these rare examples to make a point). get with a guy that already is how you want him.

if you get with a guy in hopes that he changes into the person you wanted, you shouldn't be mad that you are with a man who isn't what you want.

exitseven · Answer

That quote is one of the saddest things i have read in a while. I think that it can be true however.

Sour-rose · Answer

Eeeeehhhhh... true. People do change for who they want... but at the same time, they probably changed for nothing and will revert once they see that it wasn't worth the change in the first place

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

People can be with you for years and all of a sudden they change for no reason and end up with someone new and guess what it never works out then they try coming back to their old flame and sometimes it's too late cause he/ she has moved on.

USLegionary · Answer

Why do they have to change? Why do women insist on changing men them break up with them because they aren't the same man they fell in love with?

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Kind of true. When you're in a relationship you have to compromise for him and he for you, you'll change a little. Not by much, but enough to make it work.

dustybiker · Answer

Adapt is more like it. Oddly, I just used that term in another opinion.

Guy13 · Answer

People can not change without constant vigilance. If anything people get worse in the same patterns. See parents.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

It depends on how quickly they try to change if you try to change to fast then changes never last but if you do a little at a ine you can change your self for better but not cuz your expected to change

Tina19 · Answer

No people don't change of course they can pretend and behave in a certain manner to impress their partner because they have hidden agenda behind it

UnknownSwede · Answer

It's partly true. You can change some behavior, but others are usually rooted too deeply to change. You might be able to tone it down, but not completely change.

nawtee_me · Answer

Habits are not easily broken but they are broken in time and new ones made to replace the old. It can be done if that person wants to change. However no one can change another person, they have to want to change themselves...

misfittoy · Answer

depends, some truth to it for some but not all of us, i am who i am

melanieeeB · Answer

I see it as false, people don't change for anyone expect for themselves

RangerBlue22 · Answer

You got to make SOME compromises. But don’t change your core principles.

TallAnon · Answer

Small things change, big things do not. Don't delude yourself into thinking that someone will change for you, at all; No matter how much he or she likes you.

LogicBomber · Answer

Women make rules for guys they don’t want and break them for guys they do want.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Changing men is a ridiculous fantasy women cling to. He’s not going to change. Find someone you like just the way he is!

qwert1234 · Answer

I don't think so. They can change some things, sure, but the core will remain intact.

BJP21 · Answer

It really depends on how you define "Change" Making someone change who they are to emotionally fulfill a selfish want. FALSE.

Havthrills · Answer

I tried before. Never works. I'm me and that's all.

Jerre · Answer

I don’t think that is always true. Sometimes people turn into what they don’t want, it could be an exposure to crime, death, sex, etc.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

BS. Anyone can wear a mask til it finally comes off. People change a lot and hardly for the better.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Very good question.. I don't know.. I wouldn't make drastic changes to my self but minor ones I might consider

Didco250 · Answer

Change can be good but also bad depending on the circumstances.  I mean if your the one only doing the changing it can be a bad thing.

TroyDT · Answer

Unless it is an actual bad habit, I won't. It would be like lying to her about who I am.

DiegoO · Answer

Yes, people can change for the wrong reasons. Change is not always positive.

clampfan101 · Answer

To an extent, but it doesn’t have to be in a selfish way.

msc545 · Answer

This is addictive behavior, and it doesn't last in regard to only one person as fulfillment.

richgentlem4n · Answer

There's a possibility, but the change will need a strong force. Change is not for everyone.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Yeah I will do anything for Jessica Alba but not for regular women.

Fuentes · Answer

They do for like a few months or until they get married then the monster comes out.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

The girl is upset that he turned around got married to a girl, so quickly, when he was with her for so long. It's not ok. and it should have never been ok

Just like trump being president. It's not ok, and it was NEVER ok

dolemite89 · Answer

women only respect guys that won’t change for them

Rockerroy · Answer

Yes they do and I have done it in the past as well.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's probably true.

Reddy4it · Answer

That can be true…

Shamalien · Answer

This can be quite true sometimes

Iron_Man · Answer

Maybe some change for themselves

BLP11520 · Answer

False, that won't work

jimmy2 · Answer

We'll screw up in life

Topaz1979 · Answer

True!.

Msputiton · Answer

Within reason

boredgal · Answer

yes it is true

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

True.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

True

EaterPeter · Answer

Just for time being

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