Guys, Will he leave his girlfriend for me?

[Calligirrly]

A male friend of mine is dating a girl that he has a child with so we have just been friends but always been flirty with each other and been attracted to each other. When I’ve got single this summer he contacted me in a more romantic way and we talked day and night the whole summer and decided to meet (even though he has a girlfriend).
so we met and it was fire but he told me that he couldnt break up with his girlfriend because of his child. We stayed in contact and he says that he has such strong feelings for me, we have met some more times and our love for each other is so strong. Now he says that he has feelings for both me and his girlfriend and is very confused. He says he doesn't know what to do when I ask him and try to get an answer and now I am stuck in this limbo.
he says that he is afraid to throw away a good relationship if it turns out that we dont work out and he is afraid that his child is going to hate him.
He is the love of my life. what should I do?

[boggboss]

All u can do is wait and see as u decided to get with a guy that was already in a relationship its possible he leaves but more likely then not he won't as at first he stayed for his kid now he says he loves u both so more likely then not he won't be leaving her as he has more to lose then gain

[Calligirrly]

I know, he has more to lose. It breaks my heart.

[boggboss]

So why entertain somthing like this from a man with a kid in a relationship

[Calligirrly]

I know I should back off but I love him.

[boggboss]

So have fun

[Guy13]

I should not is all I can say. She might not be attractive to me…I might desire to be with you and may ache for it.
Relationship with child is very important. I don’t know until there if that makes sense ⁉️

[Calligirrly]

I know, kind of ironic isn't it. He is more attracted to me but find her being a good mom for their child.

[Guy13]

Yep.. frustrating as hell... probably for both of you !!

[Calligirrly]

Fucked up! Especially when he doesn't say if I should wait or not, since he is confused.

[Guy13]

Damn.. passionate person and love is super hard to resist. Don’t know how he’s doing it 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Calligirrly]

Me neither!! How can he control his emotions like this, it’s crazy. Worries me a little bit.

[Guy13]

I sure as hell couldn’t around you. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️. Hope he’s not dead inside ⁉️

[Calligirrly]

I start to wonder sometimes…

[Guy13]

That’s not good. Opportunity for slow back out is probably good. Knowing how we work though, I would be thinking games. But Simeon’s as fiery as you I would have to chase. At least see if another guy or “ moved on”. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Calligirrly]

Hehe I will go in no contact and see what he does.

[Guy13]

Man, I can feel myself "falling in love with you" as you are a passionate in all your ways.. I'll see you what you leave me tomorrow as I have had all I can handle this day. :-)

[Anonymous]

He's afraid to throw away the "good relationship" that he's currently cheating with?

[Calligirrly]

I know, kind of ironic isn't it. He is more attracted to me but find her being a good mom for their child

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like a real mess

[Calligirrly]

I dont know how long I can take this, so depressing.

[Opinion Owner]

I can imagine. Esspecially given the implication that he's cheating, but still considers what he has with her a "good relationship". It raises many questions. "If he does leave his wife, what will MY 'good' relationship with him look like?" Honestly, you deserve more respect than being someone's side chick, but I don't know how you would build a solid relationship on a foundation of infidelity either... Somehow some people do it and make it work, but it confounds me lol

[Calligirrly]

You are right… why does he say that they have a good relationship and still cheat?

[Opinion Owner]

Right? It's a little weird... I can understand why he'd be worried about his son, but it's not like he'd be the first person to get a divorce. My dad cheated on my mom for years and I still love him

[Calligirrly]

Thank you!

[Stevefiveo]

You are going to have to learn to share with his girlfriend.

[Calligirrly]

What a nightmare!

[Avicenna]

You don’t want him to do that. Stay friends.

[Calligirrly]

Why dont I want my love of my life?
We have to mich attraction to be just friends, we tried.