Have you ever had your significant other mentally and emotionally abuse you?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever had your significant other mentally and emotionally abuse you? If so how did you cope with the abuse?

[Anonymous]

Yep he would get angry at me for almost anything, he would put the blame on me whenever he’s having a bad day, he was also very manipulative and liked to twist my words to make it seem like I was the one at fault, he would gaslight me all the time. For the longest time I thought everything was indeed my fault, I felt like I’m such a terrible person and that I’m “lucky” that we still willing to be with such a shit person. I coped by accepting everything that he said as true…

Until one day I was on youtube and saw a video about mental/emotional abuse and gaslighting, all the signs were there and I finally woke up! The next time he was acting up I just stayed quiet and didn’t react, didn’t try to apologize bc I know I didn’t do anything wrong - it pissed him off to no ends. He kept trying to poke me to get a reaction out of me but I didn’t give it to him. Eventually I told him that I know I’m not a shit person, how dare he made me feel so badly about myself, called him out on his bs and guess what he apologized! He’s been working on himself and went on to see a therapist!

I’m proud of myself (and of him too)

[YoHoeRose]

Yes I was in a mentally abusive relationship for 2 and a 1/2 years and and when I lashed out and put my hands on him I was led to believe I was the bad guy I even spent some time in jail

[BJP21]

My girlfriend did, she gaslighted me, mentally, and emotionally abused me, and sometimes would get physical where I had a knife to my neck. I got to a point I had enough. Packed my stuff and left. It as all over her own insecurities which was mere text book examples of what these abusers do. Never again. Id put this above cheating as the worst thing in any given relationship.

Im glad my experience has never mentally affected me permanently.

[maximumpower]

For several years - then she filed for divorce, claiming it was all me.

As done for so many years, I bit my tongue and didn't rise to the bait. Didn't argue, didn't raise my voice, didn't fall short of any of the spousal responsibilities I'd promised - except one sweaty night over 20 years prior to her filing (after she'd accused me of "killing our babies.")
Now she's on her way alone and must live with it.

[delta50]

I had a girl day advised things and I shut it down pretty quick. The best way to cope is to learn to recognize it and explain to your partner why it’s destructive and must stop. If you’re not sure how to recognize it or how to confront it then I’d recommend speaking to a counselor for guidance.

[SomeJokeTeeth]

Yep, stayed for the kids and the financial security. Don't need the security anymore and the kids barely interact with her, even though she's on meds and in therapy and has for the most part changed her ways.

[TroyDT2]

Cannot say that I have. I have zero tolerance for nonsense like that and would respond by ending the relationship, immediately. There are too many nice women out there for me to consider putting up with that BS.

[Lyndsielee666]

Yup. Stayed cause of my kids. Left when he hit one of them with the bathroom door. Never again.

[sheenagwapa]

i feel like the mental expwrts of the one supposed to be helping me now are insinuating that i wanna be with A because of money lmfao! devil bitches!

[On_cloud_wine]

Know your worth, raise your standards and cut off anyone who doesn’t appreciate you

[mandyfire98]

Yep I dated a narcissist in college who would gaslight me and he was emotionally abusive.

[ProVox]

Yep, she's toxic af, everyone in the house walks on egg shells

[AsaKyo]

Yeah

Can say those were definitely the greatest 3-4 years of my life

[Zolly99999]

Yes I have had 2 girlfriends do this to me. I took medication at first then I just kept myself super busy to keep myself occupied...

[Anonymous]

They've tried. I don't tolerate that s*** for long.