Have you ever been emotionally abused in a relationship?

[Finchie40]

Most people take advantage of your heart and and back stab you, Loving and trusting someone that you thought had your back , putting up with abusive behavior , making excuses for their actions to come to find out that they are using You and investing in someone else, Going through that abuse you are stuck in the middle , not knowing what really is the right move to make , because everyone goes through ups and downs in life and in most cases people attack the ones they love most we all have insecurities from things that we experienced , so How do you really know for sure if someone really loves you when they treat you like shit a lot of times? How long do you tolerate the abuse? I know my exes actions have took a toll on me , because I tolerated their abuse and excuses for their actions to realize I had Sucker written on my head , so it’s hard for me now to fully trust in someone and I hate that about myself because there was a time I didn’t have trust issues but now I am damaged , I am so stuck in the middle, I would love to fall in love again but I have so many walls up that are hard for me to take down , Part of me feels like it isn’t fair to a girl that is trying to give me the love and affection that I am craving for , because I been burned, I have experienced and witnessed so much craziness with relationships that part of me is scared to enter one again , and I don’t commit to be single , so if I meet a great girl I have to take things slow before I can fully give myself to her, How ha abuse effected you?

[BJP21]

As a guy I am one of those rare cases where it was by a female girlfriend. I was at a stage where the abuse was so bad, I could even answer if I still loved her or would ever love her. The level of gaslighting that took place made me question everything and everyone I came in contact with including my long time friends. Just like you I tolerated the abuse, you would think I should have cut the cord at year 3, if at day 1, but no, I tolerated 10 years of it. I got to such a point I had no more tears to shed because I was beyond hurt emotionally. I came to a point where I had enough and removed myself from a hostel environment. I had to relearn how to trust again, by being around people who liked to laugh, joke and be marry. It doesn't mean I think ill of females or not being able to find me a loving girlfriend I still long for. I am ever more watchful of behavior of things like mental and emotional abuse and I even help others put an end to it. Its the worst thing anyone can do in any relationship, I would even argue I top emotional abuse over cheating.

[Finchie40]

I feel your pain brother , went through the same shit for the
Most part

[BJP21]

@Finchie40 Do not tolerate it to any degree girls and guys.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah of course but you learn from it and grow as a person, you start to realize your own patterns and why and what you tolerated back then and you learn to not do it in that way again.
You shouldn't turn your back on love, just of some bad experiences, you will have new experiences, bad and good ones and you will keep learning and growing and living life.

[nspencer]

Yes never going through that again I would rather be single forever lol.

[NathanDavis]

nope

[Agape93]

Yeap.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully no.