Is my Fiance monitoring me or someone told?

[Gloree]

A guy around my office premises recently befriended me & surprised me with a visit during lunch break.

My boyfriend questioned me about it after work hours and I was shocked. I managed to convince him it was a harmless thing and he said he doesn't want that to happen again.

I agreed but he won't tell me how he knew. Do you think someone in the office ratted me out since they all know him or something? And is it really wrong for me to entertain male friends?

[Guy13]

He could have your phone and car compromised but not your office space. It is likely someone told him.

Any guy drops by a woman's office and everyone has questions. This is a sign of someone who is attracted to you.

AND, if you want to believe anyone that says "it is okay for a guy to have a girl best friend... lots of women friends" or vice-versa then that's fine. And Work Husbands/Wives are not cool either... especially in hospitals.

Fact: we befriend those we are attracted too. It is better to stay with your own sex as friends as there is a pee-existing underlying attraction involved. Good Luck with everything.

[Summeroflove]

You’re allowed to have male friends. As long as that’s all it is. People sometimes jump to the wrong conclusions or intentionally stir up trouble.

As long as it’s a friend. Hopefully your boyfriend would understand. As long as this is the full story.

Why did you have to convince him? Was this the truth?

Now. If you were cheating. Yeah they ratted you out. Have integrity. Because you never know whose watching.

[Gloree]

it was the truth. that guy is just some guy we say hi to each other on my way to work. I couldn't just chase him out when he came like that. now im thinking of how to politely not come again without hurting his feelings

[Summeroflove]

Why would your boyfriend have a problem with someone whose just a friend? I know someone’s for him all worried about it.

But how is he the boss of who you’re friends with? Whoever’s jumping to the wrong consciousness sitting shit up needs to mind their business. Maybe they had good intentions but

[Gloree]

I believe he was speaking out of whatever it is that was told him

[Summeroflove]

Probably.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Stop worrying about another man's feelings, (he won't get hurt if it was just friends). Just be straight up with him.

[Summeroflove]

@Jdjfjcjj okay. She should clearly be concerned about her boyfriends feelings and take them into consideration.

But. He shouldn’t be angry. If nothing is going on and people who want to stir shit up

[dustybiker]

If you just tell your partner these things happen it builds trust. In the moment in my case I would have texted mine “I’m going to lunch with so and so. I’ll text you juicy details later.” As I have a sense of humor. Done. All it takes.

[WhitneySnow]

Your boyfriend is being controlling. He’s just a friend right?

[Jdjfjcjj]

If you are unclear on your friends motives just know that more often then not, they are doing so because they are attracted to you. If he and a girl from work started spending more time together and having lunches, would you not care one bit?

One of the ways to make staying faithful super easy is not putting yourself in situations that could lead down that path to begin with.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Let's say hypothetically he was monitoring your phone. Are you engaging in activities that would warrant him questioning you? If not then you can eliminate the phone being monitored theory. If so, then clearly he has a right to question you

[jennyjenjen98]

It sure sounds like he's spying on you in some way.

[Jdjfjcjj]

If he's spying on phone or car then that means something she did, maybe texted, drove some place she shouldn't be, Gabe him reason to question her. Then the just friends theory sounds less believable. If they just said hi at work, are lunch together, then in my opinion sounds like someone ratted her out

[Anonymous]

You should fuck the guy just to show your man he can’t control you!

[Anonymous]

Probably the guy that you don’t like

[Gloree]

it can't be him. he won't go that far

[Jdjfjcjj]

Does your friend happen to know your fiance? Could be a loyalty test