My boyfriend and I have been dating since February and I really love him and think he loves me. I went through my bfs phone. I know I should not have and it was very wrong for me to do that. But I found two things that are making me feel sick. First, he has been engaged before. He did tell me this and I was not too brother about it, he did say they broke it off 1 year before we met. Now I come to find out they broke it off only 4 months before we met. Personally, I am very sicken by the lie. Second, before we met I saw that he had contact with two prostitutes. One I saw he contacted after the end of engagement. This really brothers me I know it was before we met, but we did talk about this topic randomly once and he did mentioned he would never. I don’t know what to do, I can’t tell him I have looked through his phone. Should I leave? Should I try to forget everything I saw?
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He shouldn’t lie to you. It’s also suspicious that there could be something else he’s hiding. Because what’s the difference between 1 year and 4 months? Regardless not good to like. Confront him
Yeah not good to snoop but. You had a gut feeling. You were not nosing just to nose0
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You can't forget what you saw, can you? So. . . can you live wth it?0
Maybe he just forgot the dates in his head. Going through a big mess like that could just all be a blur to him. Also, maybe he did feel like he could be with a prostitute after a messy breakup and then couldn't go through with it like he said.
That being said, you should still break up with him and save him the trouble of being with someone like you.0
You'll know the relationship is strong when you can bring an issue to him calmly and you both can communicate effectively without all the defensiveness, gas lighting, stonewalling, etc0
Well you went digging for something to create an issue with and you succeeded. Smh...10
If you felt it necessary to go through his phone you do not trust him. No trust, no good relationship.0
Ah, another nosey woman snooped through her partner’s phone and didn’t like that she found.0
Contact and lying do not even approach Spying. You're the asshole.0
Snooping through a partner's phone is usually a recipe for a failed relationship. And it's as wrong as reading someone's diary.0
Hopefully he's clean from STDs and women will never know what men have to go through when it comes to attracting someone or getting sex0
Okay, your fault, nosy bitch lmao1
That's why you don't snoop.0
Severes you right
Gtfo of his phone0
Your bigger concern is if you contracted an std0
Speak to him now0
Obviously, both of you have a trust issue and the best option for either one of you is to go separate ways.
You misused the trust he placed in you by snooping around and looking at his phone even though you knew that it is wrong. Bad point for you!
He, on the other side, only told you half truths and that is a breach of trust on his side as well. He knew that you would probably not take it well if he told you the truth. Thus, none of you can trust the other one. You cannot build a serious relationship on that basis.
Your best move here is to sever this toxic relation because now, it will only get worse because if you tell him anything, he knows he will not be able to trust you and you already know that you cannot trust him...