So my boyfriend ( 20y/o) and I ( 19 y/o) have nearly been together for a year and a half. We were both born in Australia, but his parents were born in India. For some background, my boyfriend is studying medicine ( 1st year) and I'm studying a bachelor of nursing (2nd year). We are currently doing long distance he lives in another state and we have been doing long distance for around 6 months. My boyfriend has been struggling because his parents are quite strict. While they like me, his dad thinks we are too serious and that my boyfriend spends too much time with me. I see my boyfriend every 2-4 weeks for 2-5 days at a time. I just came back from flying there and staying with him at his apartment for the first time with some heavy convincing. He got into a fight with his dad after he said he only has a girlfriend because he is allowing it and that he spends too much time with me. His dad is saying that I'm not allowed to stay with him and that I can stay in an airbnb ( that they will pay for- however I refuse to let anyone pay for me), he can only see me for 3 hours when he comes to my state to visit and that he will monitor his phone call history because he is there to study not talk to me.
My boyfriend and I talk on the phone for 1-3 hours per day in the evenings. When he comes back he spends Friday night with his parents or both of us, 3/4 of Saturday with his parents and the rest with me and we share or he spends time with his parents on Sunday.
I really want us to work but I don't know what to do. I feel hopeless and frustrated. I respect his parents but the dynamic is a lot different to my own. I want to support him but I don't know how. I just would really appreciate some other peoples advice and perspectives on this.
Thank you.
