This girl has followed me on Instagram for a year and we currently share a class together despite this we’ve never interacted. She seems like a cool person and I've developed a small crush on her. How do I slide into her DMs in a non-creepy way?
"Hey there
I just wanted to drop you a message and say hey. We've been following each other quite a while now but we've never chatted. Thought I would ask how you're doing. What do you think of [xxxxx] class? I think... [xxxxx xxx xxxx.]
That's a fun picture of you on/at the [xxxx.] I've never done that before/gone there/eaten that/whatever whatever, but I'd like to try that some day.
Anyway, have a great day."
Post a funny meme, or a video, or something animal-related, or something related to whatever she seems to be into on her Instagram. You need to give enough for her to have something specific to work with. You can't contact her, and ask or expect her to start the conversation. You are beginning, so you obviously have some feelings about her, something you've seen that you find interesting, so without necessarily blatantly saying that, begin with the knowledge you have.
Good luck. And remember, it's just a text, no big deal.
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You'd be better off actually making interaction happen in person since you have opportunity. Then you can try an actual date if you get good signs. If you're in class, she's going to think it's weird that you don't have the confidence to just talk to her a little every day in class.
But if you are willing to risk her thinking that and completely losinh your shot, then you'd want the DM to ONLY be inviting her to some fun event or party that you and/or your friends going to attend anyway. If she's not interested, she'll probably just decline or ignore it. If she's interested or cool with being friends, she'll accept. It's way riskier than just talking about ANYTHING in person because you can't gauge her reactions through a screen. Anything could be vague or fake. But in person, you should be able to sense lack of enthusiasm. PLUS, you could spend a week or so in person learning new stuff about her (like places she might want to go on a date), learning if she has any interest at all in you, and if you still have interest in her for that matter. Just don't talk about yourself at all unless she asks a direct question.
Before you say anything, talk to her like you'd talk to any other friend of yours. One very effective and simple way to start a conversation with her is to like and comment on something she may have posted on her story. If she's gone out with her friends to some place, you could say something like "oh heyy I love that place!" and take it from there. Even if you've never been to that place before, saying something like that would still peak her interest and you can wave it off later like "lol not really. I was just looking for a way to break the ice and talk to you" and if she likes you, she'll laugh it off and you can kickstart from there. That right there is a great way to show her you're funny, a bit bold and aren't afraid to try something new.
Another way you can talk to her is to bring something up from class or something interesting that may have happened that day. Talk about an upcoming assignment, or that weird teacher nobody likes, or something funny or embarrassing a kid might've done that day in class. Above all else, always remember to BE CONFIDENT.
Say Hi, I hope all is well, you might not know me, but I'm in your '" class. I've known about you for a while but wasn't sure how to start the conversation until we serendipitously ran into each other in class. It's nice that we'll finally have a chance to interact with each other. How are you finding the work load so far?
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Start with "Hi..." and then mention something you find interesting that you think they might find interesting too.
Every guy who says hi to me I reply to, even if it takes me awhile to get to them. Then, most of the convos don't go anywhere. Most of them waste their second message saying, "how are you?" I say I'm fine, and then they're stuck, unless they say, "are you horny?" and that's the end of it for me.
This is where I actually say "I'm fine, hbu?" assuming I want to keep it going vs let it die. Then it is up to him to keep it going or let it die.
Start talking to her in person in class. Then if you chat a bit in person it is easier to be talk about sharing social media and following each other.
If that is too hard for you, message her and introduce yourself, just don't do conversation killer questions, like how are you? I'm fine... and now it is over.
Try thing like, what are you up to? that moves it from a simple to a open ended question. If they feel like responding that is.
Dick pic all the way.
she's in your class, just talk to her in person. why do all interactions have to start with a DM or a message of some kind. what happened to just talking to ladies and being friendly. try opening a door for her or doing something chivalrous to get her attention and she may thank you and you can start a conversation with her, pay her a compliment like she has nice hair today or a nice dress etc
If you dare just say "Hey, how you're doin' " ya done. It's over. As you will sound like the last guy who talked to her and it'll be a clue that it'll be like the last conversation-boring and waste of her time.
Sooo maybe start out with some kind of question that is interesting. Not an open ended one, see above for possible result
Talk in person about something in common, could be class or you share on social media.
If you choose DM then be polite but funny to get her attention. Avoid Hi, how are you? It’s boring! be careful as it’s easy to seem creepy and a bit stalkerish. I’d try something like “hey, we share …. Wasn’t it funny when … happened.”
Hey can I have your sunglasses please?
Hey! This is critical and I have a tiny dick. More like a dicklet, alright it's an innie. Anyway I want to slide into you in the least creepiest way that I found on isuckatlife. com. I am 19 and my last name is assault, like what I'm gonna do to your pussy ;)
Yup that should work
Pushing 50
Absolutely!
"Hi, I don't yet have enough manliness to approach you in person or to call you on the phone so if you can tolerate just exchanging texts for awhile, I'll try to eventually get the courage to move forward." Maybe she will be impressed with honesty.
You're pushing 50
And you'll be 20½ in 9 months?
@exitseven My last comment was directed to the 19 year old who was criticizing you for your age.
@exitseven That's my plan for the future!
I dont know man everytime I tried planning out what I was going to say it all went horribly wrong so now I go in without any plan and wing it, shoot form the hip, spare of the moment, adjust on the fly, what the hell do I have to lose you're never going to win if you don't pay the game
But with the mindset im going to fail going to look the fool, if your already at the bottom nothing worse can happen and up is the only direction you can go
just be straight forward and say what you want. But be prepared because she most likely is going to not respond or be dry. On dating apps and social media, women have so many options and if you are like me and look average, there's not many ways to show your personality before she ghosts you. So i always recommend gaining confidence and talking to women in person. More people approach online, so you have a advantage when you approach irl. Confidence kills.
Some guy that I went to highschool with messaged me on messenger even we had never talked before. He said "hey [my name] how are you? What have you been up to"
I don't like when these guys act like we used to be bff's or some crap like that.
That’s not acting like a bff, that guy is saying that because he wants to initiate a conversation with you. What is a guy supposed to message a girl with then? Hey did you find that great deal at Sephora omg 😱 or what is your stance on the Ukraine/Russia conflict do you think it will lead to World War 3? I’m sorry but I don’t think girls know what they want these days and they over analyze and judge harshly. Imagine if men and guys behaved that way if a girl simply texted “hey how’s it going”. If it were me I’d reply back in a respectful way by saying, not much work/school same old, what about yourself?
@pass_the_celery98 lmao those actually would have been a better conversation started since I do shop at Sephora and I like politics.
Yeah I replied by saying exactly that.
Damn you mean I would have a better shot getting a reply back from you then a dude you went to HS with? I’m shocked, truly shocked. Usually girls are all about connections of (who I know) or (who I used to know) or (who went where).
Another "picky", bitchy female.
@pass_the_celery98 no you wouldn't have a better chance. I don't even know you.
@krakenattackin I'm not bitchy you SOB. I could reject any guy I'm not interested in. I know that he's a progressive and I'm conservative. We also don't have much in common when it comes to other things. I know that he only wants to date me because I'm beautiful.
I was being sarcastic. But you should really tone down the pompous behaviour, that’s a huge turn off to guys and men.
@pass_the_celery98 how is that being pompous? I'm not saying I'm better than I'm just not interested in him. Are you that type that thinks you're entitled to women?
Trust me I don’t want to waste time with modern day girls who are fooled by third wave feminism. Women today equals headache. So why the fuck would I care about entitlement.
@pass_the_celery98 feminist are ugly anyway
"Fine. Don't talk to me. No one wants you anyway, slut."
And the a minute later. "Oh wait. Sorry. I'm a time traveler and meant to send that to you next week."
I'm old school. You don't meet in DM. You go up in person and talk. Would probably make you stand out more than the other 350 dudes in her DMs already.
I would say let the ghazal come to the bait.
If she likes you, she would initiate it.
I know this may sound dumb but this is kind if true.
If you really like her wait.
Start with something engaging, something you both liked or can relate to, get it going right away. Don't be one of the countless "hey how are you"
Invite her out for coffee after class... You know, in person. Can't get any more "direct" with a message than in person. 😉
“I just realized we’ve known each other a year and I don’t really even know you. Do you want to get a ______ and talk some time?”
Just don't write a full sentence, something that could interest the person you want talk to. lol
"Saaay, bitch!! Wannna git jiggy wit it?" She'll be all over you faster than you can say, "Where's the lube?"!!
Hey <<insert name here>>. I'm really into saving the earth and recycling, I hope you care about the environment too! How about you come over and I'll smash your box and leave you on the curb in the morning?
No dm at all. Dm's are actually annoying especially for a woman who has men constantly messaging her. I'd rather be approached but he has to be someone I'm actually interested in or else that would annoy me too
See if she posts a pic you can start a convo about. Like if she posts about a restaurant you can ask her about it.
Have you considered just saying " Hi... I recognize you from ______ class. Wanna get a coffee?"
You gotta entertain her.
The hi how are you doing doesn't work anymore. You gotta go Netflix when your text a girl. Only difference is you end up paying for her meal and movie ticket.
Sit by her in class one day. Say hi. Chat. Cut out the technological middleman.
keep in mind that this doesn't mean she'll actually respond. i know that if i've never spoken to someone, regardless, i likely will ignore it.
A straightforward introduction would be what I would do.
Don't just say “Hi” out of the blue. You can't afford to be lazy
it's nice to see who I have been chatting too!
You say "Dear baby, I have a huge package and lots of money"
Send her something related to your shared class.
"Hey, when I'm done with you there will only be seven planets...'cause I'm gonna wreck Uranus".
Talk to her in person. There is nothing creepier than texting.
Hey, I noticed we've got similar interests and was wondering if you wanted to chat.
I liked when this one guy wanted to play 2 Truths and a Lie. It's a good icebreaker in my opinion
Something along the lines of go fuck yourself your not my type
Sned something that is related with her. U know her likes.
Since you're classmates it won't be weird to say hi and strike up a conversation
I usually just say " hello how are you " and then go from there
Literally say the first thing that comes to mind don’t even think about it just go with it
say to her what you'd what her to say to you.
or... just send a dick pic
Dude whatever you do is going to be creepy. Best forget about it.
“Hey, this might be weird but I always see you in my *class* and just wanted to say what’s up?”
After seeing my text and if you don't reply, You'll be dead in an hour!
PS I actually I own death note so don't mess with me.
Dude, just don't. Talk to her in person.
What's she interested in
You don’t…. Talk to her in real life
“Sorry I should go find a real person to talk to.”
Yes.
Hi, how are you. My name is...
Hello 🤣
Hey dude
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