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Do you think you can forgive him? I could forgive my partner for cheating on me, but would I stay with them? Absolutely not. The fact that he was keeping it a secret from you makes it even worse.
The relationship will not be the same again... why don't you want to leave him? If the trust is gone, how could you be in a happy marriage with him? Being single is WAY better than being stuck in a miserable marriage. If you stay with him for the sake of your daughter, it is going to affect her tremendously too. Did he feel remorse for what he did?
But... you should do what you want to do. Do you think your relationship can recover from this?
That's unforgivable. Not only the fact he betrayed his partner but he kept it a secret. However, I wonder why would a man confess something he got away with - maybe it's his own twisted way to make you end things with him.
Jesus christ you people are horrible , it's just a massage of the genitalia. What is wrong with you in which your partner to whom you probably said you cared for , enjoying themselves without you? Its no different that having a non genitalia massage , why do you care so much? They are not your property and you cannot own people. Get over yourself oppressor , who cares if your partner had a pleasant relaxing day? You should and obviously you're psychotic for punishing them. If you really loved and respect your partner you would want them to enjoy life instead of locking them up as your personal slave.
I’d want to start with his motivation to confess that he cheated on you. I’m not defending him but it doing so he must have considered that it may end your relationship so that might be a good place to start. I think you are reacting very well. The question really is are you the sort of person / couple of ho can come back from this and perhaps more importantly.. do you want to?
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And kept it secret all that time? Hell no. That's even worse than confessing right away.
I chose no but really started thinking about it. You should want to get to a place in life where you can forgive everyone who has wronged you. I'm a true believer in that. But my twist on that and also the reason I jumped on the no answer is you don't have to forget it. We have to remember we are all humans and all humans fuck up. We should be able to forgive people for being human. But don't forget what they did. You can't make a hoe a housewife. If they are a piece of shit once, they are going to be a piece a shit again. Forgive them but don't stay with them. If you can find it in you to forgive them, you will carry a whole lot baggage with you for years. Drop the bitch and drop the extra baggage. just don't let them do it to you again.
I can forgive, but never forget. The only question that would arise with that long to confession, would be why the wait, and where is the communication? Anything can be worked through, except lies and deceived living. I would be more hurt that my partner can’t talk to me about something as serious as losing complete respect and integrity for a quick hit-it-and-quit-it. For that alone, I would have to take a step back and do me.
u yes, I would forgive them and twice... for both of those mistakes
it would be forgiveness given though, and then some understanding as well...
but the relationship would still be over, and done as a relationship, things would change dramatically and they would not go back to be "the same"
but I do forgive
Being a woman who forgave and took a man back after cheating on me more times than I should have and looking back now and seeing the consequences that I had to suffer from that, please don't do it. Even if you do forgive them, you may think you're over it but that hurt will always be there subconsciously.
I actually talked about this with my fiancé because we had issues a while back and he was getting a little too cozy with his coworkers. I asked him to be honest now so we can work through it before marriage; he swears that nothing happened, and I believe him. However, if it comes out that something did happen and we're years into marriage with children, I would take us to marriage counselling first to see if we can work through it; if not then divorce.
I almost voted "no" but then I voted "I don't know" bc I have not had this happen and it might depend somewhat on the situation, for example if we were not serious a couple years ago and we are serious now, that might help me forgive him, but honestly I doubt I could. Even if I wanted to I doubt it. Sorry this happened :(
I could forgive them. But they wouldn’t be my partner anymore. It took you this long for you to confess? What else have you been up to? These would be my thoughts. I wouldn’t be able to trust them at all anymore. Cheaters get the boot!
Hard to say but honestly I don’t think there is a big chance of that.
Personally speaking one of my core values is loyalty, if you don’t want to be with me sure it will hurt but it’s honest I can respect that.
Cheating I cannot.
I wouldn't be able to forgive or stay with someone that thought it was not only ok to lie, but act like it was nothing for a year or more. Relationships are built on trust before love. You can't have love where truth doesn't exist first.
I would forgive her having done that. And I advise you to forgive him too. The incident happened years ago. It does not have direct Impact on your relationship today. He trusted you telling you the truth.
If you need to punish him before forgiving him then do it (kicking balls, habanero on his penis or a month in chastity belt) and at last forgive him!
it doesn't matter whether they confessed immediately, confessed later or never confessed at all. once cheating occurs, there's no way around it.
best thing to do is to NOT cheat in the first place.
Depends on what you mean by "forgive". It would take a lot of work, but eventually I'd forgive what he did. It'd still be the end of our marriage and I'd never trust him again.
Yes I would forgive him, but I wouldn't stay with him. The trust would be completely gone and I would feel like our relationship from that point, was a lie.
What that would tell me was that he gave himself permission to cheat a couple years ago and then lied about it for the next couple years. That is worse than fresh cheating.
Hey, is the if she's still seeing him after telling me I would tell her to get out of my house and live with the person she's seeing but sometimes I'm a Really forgiving guy bc I'm kinda soft on women in general I respect them my culture and I'm a really soft kind of guy, but it doesn't take much to make me explode
Would I forgive him yes. Would I stay with him no. It wastes too much energy to hold on to resentment or hurt by what he did. But he’s broken that trust and it’s not something he’ll be able get back.
forgiving and still beinh with the person isn't the same. i can forgive but I don't know if i wanna e with the prsn or not
Sure I can forgive, but forgiveness doesn't mean the relationship isn't over.
I'd forgive him but am him to describe everything to me with all the filthy details
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