The guy was madly in love with the girl and moreover considered her special. But she rejected him for her ex. When they broke (4 years), the girl went back to the guy. He used her weapons against her. However he was deeply hurt when she decided to move onn or hookup. Although he never seizzed the opportunity make her his', he was shattered to loose her. He would keep asking 'what if we were together (sexual)' but when she asks if he ever plans to do anything with her, he would back off.
He would act like a total stranger to her as if they never knew and forget that a person by that name existed in his life and that he knows many by her name. All in attempt to trivialize her existence.
Then came a day where strangers were willing to help her but he held cards close to him. Thus she wrote to him
'Dear...
I know you nurture no love, sympathy or goodwill on me and nevertheless appreciate my willingness to stay by you. I loved you despite your weakness and stayed loyal to you for your strength. Yet you treated me all these years with absolute remorse. I'm sure you must have never forgotten all those. I understand what makes you vulnerable but will never user it against you unlike others. If you ever want a loyal friend in me again, I'm sure ill be there for you.'
Is he narcissist or is this stonewalling?
If you were a guy will you want to loose the girl who was always willing to help and support you even in the darkest times and care for you.
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She chose her ex over the guy, I don't understand why he would even bother with the girl anymore. The girl definitely sounds like a narcissist though, just block her and kick her out of your life.
Then why would he care still.
Also stonewalling when someone is genuinely apologetic is narcissism.
If he ever wanted to forgive and move onn he should have accepted the heart felt appology than denying her the chance to free herself from. the guilt.
Also she is living him unconditionally now.
He probably still cares because that hurts. That's why he's behaving like that, imagine being in love with someone and they chose their literal EX over you. It's not easy to forgive something like that, and now he's punishing her that. It's too late to be loving now.
Neither. It was just payback. Maybe she learned something from this? We can only hope.
She understood her mistake and apologized him. But him acting like he never knew her was even strange. Ain't it healthy to accept she was a big part of his life than diminish her to a face remembered.
Everyone sees things the way they see them. She may see it. But regardless, just because this is the way she sees it, doesn't make it reality.
I agree.
However as a guy will you mistreat a women and stonewall her, if you ever loved her at least once. Also now that she is loving him unconditionally, will you as a man want to loose a girl who is supportive and choose to stay loyal for her love for you.
I'll treat her how I treat her. If she left me for another guy how can you say she loved him🤣🤣🤣. Whatever he's doing she kind of earned.
I have a "1 strike you're out" policy with women. Would I treat her badly? I would have NEVER taken her back. At worst I would have been ambiguous about my feelings towards her, because she's earned that. And then when I felt like we were even I'd tell her get lost.