Guys, WHY do you ask a woman "how long have you been single"?

Question

Generally, among the girls (friends / colleagues) I know we don't ask this question.

Weapon77 · Accepted Answer

I don't ask this question because I only got past a 1st date once with my ex. I've never beem past a 1st date since then because no one was compatible. But I probably will ask at some point. Thr main reason most men ask this is because so many have had the terrible experience of going on dates with girls who have boyfriends or are literally only on the date because they just broke up with their boyfriend and want to make him jealous to get him back. Then there are also guys who ask because of hoe often girls will get a new boyfriend literally only 1-2 weeks after a breakup, which is insane. Then there are also the guys who ask because of hoe many girls fucked another guy literally the night before the date. It's really important information that all people should ask on dates. Probably not the first date, but maybe the 2nd or 3rd? Either way, I thought it was obvious, but I guess sometimes women don't know how men think, hopefully I have shed some light on things. I thought women ask the same question, but maybe not all of them do lol

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Firstly, do not lie. And to I’ll answer directly as if 2 guys are speaking in shower after Wallyball matches:
Is she a “Hands Off bat 🦇 💩 Crazy” that everyone else has noticed and I am missing ⁉️
—I don’t know man…what’s your instincts say…think she’s a Body hopper and never stays longer than the buzz allows.
—Yeah about the only ones that are worth a risk are the divorced ones. At least they bit the bullet…
—OH, I get it now…why yiu stalk the counseling/therapeutic meetups now 😂🤣🤣🤣. I won’t tell…🦇💩 Cra-Cra.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Just as a part of "generally getting to know someone and their past". Plus, it can tell you something. If someone has been single for 3 weeks... that suggests one thing. If she's been single for a while, that suggests another.

Same goes for relationship history. Someone who has had 10 boyfriends in the last 15 years is different from someone who has had one or two (or no) long-term relationships.

It's a fair question. Why do you see it as problematic?

AviatorTom · Answer

Don't want to be part of a rebound.

ManOnFire · Answer

I generally don't ask a woman that. Rather, I sometimes may ask "How long were you guys together?" because if her last relationship was long, and she recently got out of it, she usually is going to be a candidate for going back to her ex. Which may be one reason why men ask a woman what you're talking about.

Men probably also ask that because they want to know if there's a clear shot for them if she really has been single for quite a while, although men forget that many women who say they're single are still having sex with someone they don't have any aspirations of building a future with. And even if they're not having romantic feelings for someone they're sleeping with right now, other women still end up catching feelings and choosing their fuck buddy.

So I think the key is for men to be a little less concerned about how long a woman has been single, and more concerned about a sex life she might be having and trying to hide it.

Maybe_1day · Answer

I would personally ask to know how long it's been since she's been out of her last relationship, because if it's less than 8 months, there's high chance of me being rebound. Therefore if I'm really into her, I would wanna know. I wouldn't wanna be a rebound nor an option. I prefer being a choice.

sonic_fever · Answer

Because women usually jump into rebound relationships. We ask how long have they been single and how long they’re last relationship was. That will pretty much tell us a lot. Women who have been with someone for 3 years or more will most likely still harbor feelings for their ex in some way

Alex8736 · Answer

if I'm possibly interested in them I'll ask as in a friendly conversational way if i really want to get to know them and another reason I'll ask is because if it was very recent i can turn the switch in my head to friend mode because sometimes it can make someone feel like a rebound especially if you sense there are still feelings between them and their ex but would still be their friend and a good listener without passing any judgement

DCowboy4747 · Answer

I'd ask just to make sure I was not a rebound for her. If she was fresh out of a relationship, either long or short, I would want to take any steps to a new relationship a bit slower to give her time to recover and be sure that I was what she was looking for.

msc545 · Answer

I think that we sometimes ask that question to see how long it's been since you've been through whatever it is you went through with the last guy and if you've gotten over it yet. Sometimes these breakups are horrible and if you're still mourning the loss of that last relationship that means something to us.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

That’s absolutely not true. Every woman i’ve ever dated asked me that question. The answer offers valuable insight to someone’s willingness and ability to partner up.

Looksnicholas · Answer

For me, if the topic eventually comes up, usually just because I can't think of anything else and the weather as a topic and sports results become bland or already all said. So, what else is there to talk about, what's on TV ,😈👀😋😃😁

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It is a VERY telling piece of information about how she interacts with men and the people around her. m

Wisdom-Strength-Love · Answer

We need to measure the durability of a window that may be opening or be locked with a cage bar

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Probably because some guys don’t want to be rebound guys & others would jump all over that.

RavVid · Answer

I don't. I could see why some men might but are you a crazy bitch would be more direct and to the point.

jshm2 · Answer

The same reason they ask "How long has that milk been in the fridge?"

Wise4myage · Answer

I've never done that because it makes a girl feel awkward. I also don't like being asked that question.

Voldra · Answer

Gauging whether she's worth pursuing, if she's interested in something frivolous I'm not investing.

Anonymous · Answer

When i ask this i am just interested in knowing how long a Lady has been single and maybe some associated things with being single for that time window.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because we don't want to be a rebound relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess they're trying to determine if you're the town bike.

LadiesFavoriteToy · Answer

Gives an idea on the last time she's been fucked. If she says last night then you wonder...

admles · Answer

I’ve never asked a woman that in my life. However, have had many women ask me.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

It says a lot about her attitude and personality because good women get scooped up quickly

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve never asked that question nor did it occur to me to ask.

Owasso · Answer

I never have. I don't talk to or about them at all.

SlothySlob · Answer

I wanna know if I'm the rebound.

zagor · Answer

I've never asked that.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think it's just to make conversation

dexter234 · Answer

Desperate guys ask these questions

In_Trance · Answer

To find out how long she's been single

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