Guys, WHY do you ask a woman "how long have you been single"?

[APrettyLittleLady87]

Generally, among the girls (friends / colleagues) I know we don't ask this question.

[Weapon77]

I don't ask this question because I only got past a 1st date once with my ex. I've never beem past a 1st date since then because no one was compatible. But I probably will ask at some point. Thr main reason most men ask this is because so many have had the terrible experience of going on dates with girls who have boyfriends or are literally only on the date because they just broke up with their boyfriend and want to make him jealous to get him back. Then there are also guys who ask because of hoe often girls will get a new boyfriend literally only 1-2 weeks after a breakup, which is insane. Then there are also the guys who ask because of hoe many girls fucked another guy literally the night before the date. It's really important information that all people should ask on dates. Probably not the first date, but maybe the 2nd or 3rd? Either way, I thought it was obvious, but I guess sometimes women don't know how men think, hopefully I have shed some light on things. I thought women ask the same question, but maybe not all of them do lol

[Guy13]

Firstly, do not lie. And to I’ll answer directly as if 2 guys are speaking in shower after Wallyball matches:
Is she a “Hands Off bat 🦇 💩 Crazy” that everyone else has noticed and I am missing ⁉️
—I don’t know man…what’s your instincts say…think she’s a Body hopper and never stays longer than the buzz allows.
—Yeah about the only ones that are worth a risk are the divorced ones. At least they bit the bullet…
—OH, I get it now…why yiu stalk the counseling/therapeutic meetups now 😂🤣🤣🤣. I won’t tell…🦇💩 Cra-Cra.

[SteveSmith1985]

Just as a part of "generally getting to know someone and their past". Plus, it can tell you something. If someone has been single for 3 weeks... that suggests one thing. If she's been single for a while, that suggests another.

Same goes for relationship history. Someone who has had 10 boyfriends in the last 15 years is different from someone who has had one or two (or no) long-term relationships.

It's a fair question. Why do you see it as problematic?

[AviatorTom]

Don't want to be part of a rebound.

[ManOnFire]

I generally don't ask a woman that. Rather, I sometimes may ask "How long were you guys together?" because if her last relationship was long, and she recently got out of it, she usually is going to be a candidate for going back to her ex. Which may be one reason why men ask a woman what you're talking about.

Men probably also ask that because they want to know if there's a clear shot for them if she really has been single for quite a while, although men forget that many women who say they're single are still having sex with someone they don't have any aspirations of building a future with. And even if they're not having romantic feelings for someone they're sleeping with right now, other women still end up catching feelings and choosing their fuck buddy.

So I think the key is for men to be a little less concerned about how long a woman has been single, and more concerned about a sex life she might be having and trying to hide it.

[msc545]

The thing about this is that although you're right in a way you forgot to add or take into consideration the fact that women will always lie about their sex life even when they're married to you.

[ManOnFire]

@msc545 I did take this into account, but didn't want to go quite that deep with it as not to make this particular answer very long. But yes, that is correct, they will still lie even when married.

[msc545]

Agree

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@msc545 And you're telling me men don't lie? Statistics say that MEN cheat more than women. Women cheat 35% LESS than men

[msc545]

What statistics? The ones you got from Cosmo?

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@msc545 ROFL. Nah that's only losers like you.

www.thehivelaw.com/.../

Do you know how to read something more complex than a magazine?

[ManOnFire]

@APrettyLittleLady87 Did you know that women who cheat are underreported? Reason being that most people don't suspect they're cheating, which women know, and is how they get away with it. Women are cheating as much as men are, if not more, but not getting as much focus because they know the world believes them to be more faithful.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@ManOnFire - ROFL. Don't lump all women with the useless whores you're used to. I was on Match for the hell of it a few months ago. Never went on a date. As an attractive women the number of LOSERS that weren't even properly divorced saying 'currently separated' on their profiles was disgusted and that was one dating site. Now multiple it by EVERY dating site & then multiple that by 1,000,000. And the REAL cheater is MEN.

[APrettyLittleLady87]

@msc545 & @ManOnFire - here you go douchebags there's even a post on GAG about LOSER men that have NO respect for relationships, etc. Pursuing a woman though HE KNOWS she's in a relationship
Why is this guy flirting with me in Instagram even though he knows I have a serious relationship? ↗

[ManOnFire]

@APrettyLittleLady87 And yet you're lumping all men with the useless trash bags you met on a dating site because you can't meet people in RL. An "attractive woman," sure. I think we must've really struck at your guilty conscience.

Here ya go by the way:
nypost.com/.../

www.pulse.ng/.../8ey0q67

www.herzindagi.com/.../why-women-cheat-more-in-relationship-article-206271

[Maybe_1day]

I would personally ask to know how long it's been since she's been out of her last relationship, because if it's less than 8 months, there's high chance of me being rebound. Therefore if I'm really into her, I would wanna know. I wouldn't wanna be a rebound nor an option. I prefer being a choice.

[sonic_fever]

Because women usually jump into rebound relationships. We ask how long have they been single and how long they’re last relationship was. That will pretty much tell us a lot. Women who have been with someone for 3 years or more will most likely still harbor feelings for their ex in some way

[Alex8736]

if I'm possibly interested in them I'll ask as in a friendly conversational way if i really want to get to know them and another reason I'll ask is because if it was very recent i can turn the switch in my head to friend mode because sometimes it can make someone feel like a rebound especially if you sense there are still feelings between them and their ex but would still be their friend and a good listener without passing any judgement

[DCowboy4747]

I'd ask just to make sure I was not a rebound for her. If she was fresh out of a relationship, either long or short, I would want to take any steps to a new relationship a bit slower to give her time to recover and be sure that I was what she was looking for.

[msc545]

I think that we sometimes ask that question to see how long it's been since you've been through whatever it is you went through with the last guy and if you've gotten over it yet. Sometimes these breakups are horrible and if you're still mourning the loss of that last relationship that means something to us.

[ManOnFire]

But also, if they're still mourning the loss of that relationship, they will usually go back to that ex if he reaches out and says he wants to try again. When that happens you will be forgotten. Even though a woman is single at the moment, it really doesn't matter. If she's still holding on to something, she won't be a good option for dating.

[msc545]

@ManOnFire good point. That is part of why we ask.

[Looksnicholas]

For me, if the topic eventually comes up, usually just because I can't think of anything else and the weather as a topic and sports results become bland or already all said. So, what else is there to talk about, what's on TV ,😈👀😋😃😁

[Chazmatazz269]

That’s absolutely not true. Every woman i’ve ever dated asked me that question.
The answer offers valuable insight to someone’s willingness and ability to partner up.