What do you say to someone who asks: Why are you still single?

[coachTanthony]

[Cynicaldreamer]

That is a loaded question that usually results in me asking them, "Why do you care?"

First off, let me say this much: as you get older, that question is irksome because it comes off as them being nosy or judgmental. People automatically assume something is wrong with you... no, it can't be because you choose to be single, or dating is difficult for some people. They assume YOU'RE the problem. Which no, for some people isn't the case.

Back on track, usually when someone asks me that, I tell them the truth: I'm tired of dealing with nonsense.
Dating is not fun for me. I got sick of being rejected, hurt, lied to, ghosted... you name it, I probably went through it. Nor do I want to deal with dating sites/apps and how superficial people are on there... moreso than in real life. I prefer being single because it's less of a headache, mentally and emotionally for me.

[N192K001]

If I decide to answer the question, 2 can be given, but as to which to offer (if any, though both can be an option) will depend on a number of factors. As to the 2responses, they are…
• I'm too busy with financial- & career-goals. If this goes well, I could head my own little business that brings joy to the citizenry of 2 decades-long mutually-ignored countries by introducing, marketing, and selling each other the awesome stuff of the other's cultures. If this goes well, it REALLY will go well. If it explodes in my face… 😬
• My forecasted life ahead will be significantly more difficult than would generally be expected, which would be a competitive disadvantage compared to what is expected of my rivals. So, why even bother (especially now, when my plans are still on the drawing-board and/or in the works, so their results are still uncertain)? Why risk involving her in disaster… all just for my petty amusement? No way.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

That depends on if they want a real answer of not. Normally I would say I'm happy single, or just not ready to date again yet, which are both mostly true, but not the whole story.
I live in a smaller city with an even smaller LGBT community. One of those places with three degrees of separation between all of us. If we don't know each other personally, then we know someone who does. So of that already small dating pool I would have to filter out guys who are too old/too young for me, guys who don't date trans men, guys who date trans men as a fetish, guys who aren't okay with a disabled partner, and guys who aren't willing to wait to have sex.
That narrows it down to so few guys I don't even really want to try to find someone of that small group I might like

[Ninjazzed]

Because nobody has proved themselves worthy enough for me to want to marry them.

Nobody desires someone who has nothing going for them, how would that benefit the other person? You may feel strongly for someone but you might not want to marry them due to lack of motivation or direction in life.

And with today’s generation, marriage is almost non-existent.

Usually people who are marriage material will often make themselves available, will always compliment/encourage you, and will do anything in their power to spend time with you.

Sometimes they’re already married up.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I just have them read some of the asshat shit "some" men say on here🤣🤣

[coachTanthony]

So strangers dictate why you are single? I think we have covered this before LOL

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Of course not. There's asshats IRL too🤣

[coachTanthony]

So ass hats in real life being ass hats dictate why you are single? I mean you aren't attracted to these ass hats? You don't want these ass hats? Why do these ass hats have so much power over you and your singleness?

[JackSmy]

@coachTanthony Not like I am defending @Brainsbeforebeauty in ANY WAY, because she is able to handle her own issues, but DUDE, a dick like you is why a lot of women are single!! SOOOOOOO many dudes, that just don't "GET IT" with women, and say stupid shit, like you have, in this chain, and then KEEP posing stupid shit, when she is CLEARLY NOT INTERESTED!!

[coachTanthony]

@JackSmy Are you coming in to save the day? awwww.. we are just going back and forth as we always do on this subject but thanks for your concern and irrational name calling. LOL

[JackSmy]

@coachTanthony I said it, and you still fucked it up! Are you just an idiot?
I think, for most women, the MAJORITY of men, FAIL, EPICALLY, in marriage, not having a FCKING CLUE as to what a relationship is, and fcking up their kids, being HORRIBLE, absent fathers!
Yeah, I'm a guy, and I SAID IT!!
Time to MAN-UP, guys, and sort these things out!! You are FCKING up other people's lives, being an irresponsible D-BAG!!
Then, you hate on ones like me, calling you out for FCKING up, when you KNOW!!

[coachTanthony]

@JackSmy Dude you have some unresolved anger issues. This is me and Brains as GAG friends just talking as we always do. Not sure why you feel the need to butt in but no one was harmed in the making of this comment thread. LOL

[jennifer_bloom]

I say I have not found the right person - Somebody I find very attractive that is equally interested in me and only me.

[AmandaYVR]

I'd say, "I am? Oh I must have amnesia, cause I thought I was still married. That's weird."

[OlderAndWiser]

"Because I'm not married and it was the best of the remaining choices."

[OlderAndWiser]

@catherina223 Sorry, but I don't DM with level 1 users. Too many of them are spammers and scammers. HMU when you are level 5.

[Account]

"Ι don't wanna deal with any other alternative."
Or "Why are you so nosey?"

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I am single by choice, and find that I am happy by myself.

[jamesgoldman]

https://youtu.be/-6G6CZT7h4k

The last line of this sums it up quite well
But between my work, my ailing health, my inability to drive, who I am as a person and how close to broke I am those are also all valid reasons
Why bother fighting if you'll undoubtedly lose

[electromagnetic]

Because the sea has plenty of fish. And plenty of trash.

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha ha

[JackSmy]

Just haven't found one that brings enough to the table, to make it worth while!
So many are so caught up in looks, and clothes, and appearance, and have no "personality"!! Can't cook, no hobbies, nothing to talk about but clothes, and what they saw on the "Housewives of I don't give a FCK!"
Why waste my time?

[have_a_good_day]

because I've always been placed in a predicament where I decided to put the needs of others before my own needs... now I'm at a stage where I'm too lazy to look for love and too comfortable being alone

[muscularbumblebee]

'im not in a position to date right now'

Usually the most accurate, simple and truthful answer as I'm always at work or the gym and generally focussing on bettering myself. Also last one I got out of didn't end the best and dating is hard work

[ShadezMcgee]

I just deflected the answer if it came up, Coach.

It is a damned if you do or damned if you don't answer it in the aspect of either you are seen as a player or that something is wrong with you if you are not taken.

[ChiTown33]

It depends who I'm talking to. Most the time I'm just sarcastic. Like my mother thought most of my life I'd get married. I think she's finally accepting that it isn't going to happen. But whenever she would say anything about it I'd remind her I was the youngest and grew up with 4 sisters. She should just be thankful I'm not gay.

[slatyb]

It's a rude question. It's find to give a vague answer "Just haven't met the right one." If the asker persists, then ignore the question and change the subject. It's fine to do this in a way that makes it clear you aren't going to answer.

"Why are you still single?" "Just haven't met the right one." "Have you been dating?" "Wow, how about the Yankees this year?"

[Loveydove]

Why am I single? Well I am not ready to be in a serious relationship. I am working through things with myself in therapy before I can be with someone else. I would want a healthy relationship and i cannot Have that if i am Not a healthy person. Pretty simple.

[Ellie-V]

I tell them the truth. Most people need and crave romantic relationships... I’m not one of them. That could change. But I don’t see it happening any time soon.

[PaynefulPleasures]

I'm still dealing with certain things that really don't concern you. When I'm ready that's when the timing will be right until then I'm in no rush ✌️
That's what I would say 😉

[Puppystarfish23]

Back when I was single I hated this question and used to make sarcastic replies. Just say something like girls don't want to date you because your penis is too big or something that usually makes the noisy people piss off

[Adam1978]

Because women are not my focus and they expect to much to early for it to work for me. I haven't made up my mind so early. So I won't grant their wishes or act as they wish. Ie I am not chasing females.

[CasuallySamsonite]

Guess they can't handle the Neutron style~

no, seriously... I just don't do "high maintenance" relationships. Also, I don't feel like lowering my unrealistic standards for just anyone.