What do you say to someone who asks: Why are you still single?

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N192K001 · Accepted Answer

If I decide to answer the question, 2 can be given, but as to which to offer (if any, though both can be an option) will depend on a number of factors. As to the 2responses, they are…
• I'm too busy with financial- & career-goals. If this goes well, I could head my own little business that brings joy to the citizenry of 2 decades-long mutually-ignored countries by introducing, marketing, and selling each other the awesome stuff of the other's cultures. If this goes well, it REALLY will go well. If it explodes in my face… 😬
• My forecasted life ahead will be significantly more difficult than would generally be expected, which would be a competitive disadvantage compared to what is expected of my rivals. So, why even bother (especially now, when my plans are still on the drawing-board and/or in the works, so their results are still uncertain)? Why risk involving her in disaster… all just for my petty amusement? No way.

Inexpensivefurniture · Accepted Answer

That depends on if they want a real answer of not. Normally I would say I'm happy single, or just not ready to date again yet, which are both mostly true, but not the whole story.
I live in a smaller city with an even smaller LGBT community. One of those places with three degrees of separation between all of us. If we don't know each other personally, then we know someone who does. So of that already small dating pool I would have to filter out guys who are too old/too young for me, guys who don't date trans men, guys who date trans men as a fetish, guys who aren't okay with a disabled partner, and guys who aren't willing to wait to have sex.
That narrows it down to so few guys I don't even really want to try to find someone of that small group I might like

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

That is a loaded question that usually results in me asking them, "Why do you care?"

First off, let me say this much: as you get older, that question is irksome because it comes off as them being nosy or judgmental. People automatically assume something is wrong with you... no, it can't be because you choose to be single, or dating is difficult for some people. They assume YOU'RE the problem. Which no, for some people isn't the case.

Back on track, usually when someone asks me that, I tell them the truth: I'm tired of dealing with nonsense.
Dating is not fun for me. I got sick of being rejected, hurt, lied to, ghosted... you name it, I probably went through it. Nor do I want to deal with dating sites/apps and how superficial people are on there... moreso than in real life. I prefer being single because it's less of a headache, mentally and emotionally for me.

Ninjazzed · Accepted Answer

Because nobody has proved themselves worthy enough for me to want to marry them.

Nobody desires someone who has nothing going for them, how would that benefit the other person? You may feel strongly for someone but you might not want to marry them due to lack of motivation or direction in life.

And with today’s generation, marriage is almost non-existent.

Usually people who are marriage material will often make themselves available, will always compliment/encourage you, and will do anything in their power to spend time with you.

Sometimes they’re already married up.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I just have them read some of the asshat shit "some" men say on here🤣🤣

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I say I have not found the right person - Somebody I find very attractive that is equally interested in me and only me.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I'd say, "I am? Oh I must have amnesia, cause I thought I was still married. That's weird."

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"Because I'm not married and it was the best of the remaining choices."

Account · Answer

"Ι don't wanna deal with any other alternative." Or "Why are you so nosey?"

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I am single by choice, and find that I am happy by myself.

electromagnetic · Answer

Because the sea has plenty of fish. And plenty of trash.

jamesgoldman · Answer

The last line of this sums it up quite well
But between my work, my ailing health, my inability to drive, who I am as a person and how close to broke I am those are also all valid reasons
Why bother fighting if you'll undoubtedly lose

JackSmy · Answer

Just haven't found one that brings enough to the table, to make it worth while!
So many are so caught up in looks, and clothes, and appearance, and have no "personality"!! Can't cook, no hobbies, nothing to talk about but clothes, and what they saw on the "Housewives of I don't give a FCK!"
Why waste my time?

have_a_good_day · Answer

because I've always been placed in a predicament where I decided to put the needs of others before my own needs... now I'm at a stage where I'm too lazy to look for love and too comfortable being alone

muscularbumblebee · Answer

'im not in a position to date right now'

Usually the most accurate, simple and truthful answer as I'm always at work or the gym and generally focussing on bettering myself. Also last one I got out of didn't end the best and dating is hard work

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I just deflected the answer if it came up, Coach.

It is a damned if you do or damned if you don't answer it in the aspect of either you are seen as a player or that something is wrong with you if you are not taken.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It depends who I'm talking to. Most the time I'm just sarcastic. Like my mother thought most of my life I'd get married. I think she's finally accepting that it isn't going to happen. But whenever she would say anything about it I'd remind her I was the youngest and grew up with 4 sisters. She should just be thankful I'm not gay.

Loveydove · Answer

Why am I single? Well I am not ready to be in a serious relationship. I am working through things with myself in therapy before I can be with someone else. I would want a healthy relationship and i cannot Have that if i am Not a healthy person. Pretty simple.

slatyb · Answer

It's a rude question. It's find to give a vague answer "Just haven't met the right one." If the asker persists, then ignore the question and change the subject. It's fine to do this in a way that makes it clear you aren't going to answer.

"Why are you still single?" "Just haven't met the right one." "Have you been dating?" "Wow, how about the Yankees this year?"

Ellie-V · Answer

I tell them the truth. Most people need and crave romantic relationships... I’m not one of them. That could change. But I don’t see it happening any time soon.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I'm still dealing with certain things that really don't concern you. When I'm ready that's when the timing will be right until then I'm in no rush ✌️ That's what I would say 😉

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Back when I was single I hated this question and used to make sarcastic replies. Just say something like girls don't want to date you because your penis is too big or something that usually makes the noisy people piss off

Adam1978 · Answer

Because women are not my focus and they expect to much to early for it to work for me. I haven't made up my mind so early. So I won't grant their wishes or act as they wish. Ie I am not chasing females.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Guess they can't handle the Neutron style~ no, seriously... I just don't do "high maintenance" relationships. Also, I don't feel like lowering my unrealistic standards for just anyone.

AgentRED · Answer

“The dating game is pretty fucking bad these days, isn’t it?”

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If you're a girl: I just haven't found the asshole that's right for me! I keep getting hit on by good guys! I don't WANT a good guy, I want to get beaten up and abused!!

tatianamay · Answer

Just tell them that no one you've come across is worthy of ya

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I usually say that I was never into the idea of having kids. Most women who want marriage also want kids.

AnggieGirl · Answer

Because I’m picky and don’t like slutty folks!  That what I say to them if they ask lol

MCheetah · Answer

(Points to my face with both index fingers.) Also, cause I'm short and not willing to simp my way into a woman's "heart."

Mangospacho · Answer

You tell them you are seeing someone who works for National Intelligence and he can’t discuss who he dates and she can’t either. If they don’t leave you alone by this point, explain to them that if they ask anymore questions, then they will be putting lives at risk because of the sensitivity of the information being discussed. It’s likely they’ll believe every word of this since they already believe it’s their business of who and when you date.

GenaBaby1995 · Answer

This, is really bad after thinking about it but all my guys friends know 😇

45Fstraight · Answer

Just smile and say, "Thank You." Sounds like they are asking because to them you are an amazing catch and they can't fathom why no one else has snatched you up already. They provably think you being single is just too good to be true.

genericname85 · Answer

well cause there's just a lack of adequate choices.

MaelE · Answer

"Well if you want me to date your mother so bad..." Jokes aside, I usually say that it's not their buisness.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Because I'm a lot to handle during election cycles.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Because I can't deal with what is on offer these days.

Wiredone · Answer

I'm not single so I don't have people asking me that

roy_ricky09 · Answer

By choice. Turn it into a pickup line. By choice, but I'm ready to consider my choices again for you 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

zagor · Answer

Hmm, no one ever asks me that. Maybe it's obvious...

stargazeraug1989 · Answer

"Because people like you exist and the risk of meeting another scares me so that I'd rather castrate myself." Something like that.

MrJMM · Answer

Because I don't want to date anyone... simple as opening up a mouth.

SaoirseS · Answer

I just reply “because they all keep disappearing under mysterious circumstances.”

K-I-S-S · Answer

"I contracted the disease of ugliness at a very young age."

crazy8000 · Answer

Most likely "De du" or something like "Curious in some way"

Interstate · Answer

THAT'S THE WAY, UH HUH UH HUH I LIKE IT, UH HUH UH HUH!!!

Bluemax · Answer

Because my wife died. I don't think I will ever be happy with anyone else.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

"because nobody wants me"

Miah02 · Answer

Because i chose to be single till i graduate college.

Scottty2hottty · Answer

Have not found the person for me yet. I am picky also.

Slim57 · Answer

Because it's too much of a hassle, even just hooking up with someone

booksontime · Answer

Some version of none of your business/because I want to

pleasestopthis · Answer

"Because I like it this way". I think it's comfortable and less stressful for a lot of reasons, relationships are hard work.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"I will get married if you will pay for the divorce".

throwaway1010 · Answer

Because i dont put myself out there

Alyssa11 · Answer

Because I haven’t met the one yet.

Shihab91 · Answer

If it's a girl who is asking, and I like her, I would say: because I didn't meet someone good as you before. If it's a guy, I would say: I was busy focusing on myself and didn't meet the right one yet.

faye_girl · Answer

I've never been asked this. I have people tell me to stay single and to stay away from boys all the time tho 😆

NathanDavis · Answer

I just explain to them why is that the case.

karaspara · Answer

Stick around and find out 😉😂💁

humanearth · Answer

I'm not single, I'm fucking your Momma

Jenngirl00 · Answer

Just haven’t found my happily ever after yet.

Juxtapose · Answer

I am not atm but if I was I'd say it's cus I haven't found someone compatible.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm broke I only. make around 60k a year. At a job I don't wanna do. I want a certain type of woman  I can easily sleep around. I rather do that them start a relationship and not be fulfilled in life

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