My partner makes me feel neglected, says he'll change, but actions remain the same. Should I end things?

[Anonymous]

We're currently in a LDR. He has a lot going on atm, (financially/professionally speaking) and I feel neglected most of the time. I love him and deep down I know he loves me too (he has made it clear that he doesn't want to break up) but this situation frustrates me. Should I continue to give him time or break up?

[SteveSmith1985]

It sounds like a situation you need to end. You shouldn't have to "accept" feeling neglected on an ongoing basis. If you've brought this up to him, and gotten words but no changes, then...

You sorta have no other option but to end things. The only other option is to stay in a relationship, and continue to feel neglected. That second option shouldn't even be considered. You deserve better than that. Anybody does.

[Beatrix7]

mines was the same i got ghosted and gaslighted after a year in the relashionship and herd him calling people baby and i love you down stairs in my house once and he hit me before i use to sock him back and he threatend me with a weapon twice i wasn't scared iam not scared of fuckers i dont care if he was my boyfriend am not letting him treat me like that if he doesn't like fk him just let him walk away why shpuld u go through all this hunni ure probably better than that if his actions do not change sweety get him to fuck no women deserves that trust me hunni ure worth amillion times better than that doll

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you ready to live lke this for the rest of your life? You should expect that what you see in your partner will not change with the passage of time.

[Asker]

It hasn't always been like this though. There's still a little hope in me that it might only be temporary, but I don't know anymore

[OlderAndWiser]

It is a mistake to enter, or to stay in, a relationship with the hope that your partner will change.

[Jamie05rhs]

You absolutely cannot neglect your partner in an LDR. I mean, people shouldn't neglect their partners, period. But it's even more vital to be there for one another when you can't actually be "there" literally.

[In_Trance]

Yeah