How to get over relationship anxiety?

[Anonymous]

I’ve hooked up only made out though and liked it very much but I’ve never been able to feel comfortable making a move per say and if I get close to a relationship I feel really uncomfortable

[CrazyGirl2]

Then, you need to seek professional help! This is not an insult, this is not a “DIS”, if you feel extremely uncomfortable, even getting close to a relationship, then there is an issue that you may not even realize exists, but nevertheless it does need to be dealt with. Feeling anxiety at the thought of a relationship is antithetical to human nature. Look at it this way… Sitting down with the therapist and explaining, what you wrote here today certainly cannot hurt! It could, however be the catalyst, that sets you on a path towards being able to have a normal relationship without feeling any anxiety whatsoever.
I’m so sorry that you are going through this, and I wish you all the best. But there is nobody here, or anywhere else online, that can help you solve this problem. You need professional help, and that is NOTHING to be ashamed of! If anything it is a sign of strength and wisdom, that you know when is enough is enough, and that you need help. Please do not be afraid to reach out and ask for it.

[Anonymous]

I guess the only straight forward answer to that question is, TAKE RISK. do it. don't even think twice, if you really want something to happen, you gotta do it and get over it by actually DOING IT. and its obvious u want to get over that anxiety of yours because you won't be asking this question if u werent.

[lightbulb27]

yea, been there. how about a frontal lobotomy? Just kidding...

This is all just emotional training you got in early life combined with your personality. You have some fear of intimacy, that come from hurts in early life or lack of experience.

The solution is healing your emotions. Many approaches to that.

Experience and positive reinforcement, self afformations, meditation, therapy, watch videos on how to heal and grow as a man, etc..

[Guy13]

Go engage a psychologist and work through it for long-term remedy.

[Androm]

Hi🦇🍀

I think you should write your expectations from the relationship on a piece of paper and your fears on a piece of paper. And imagine that your fears are just a choice, that you don't choose that option, but that you choose the wonderful paper and life with your expectations.

[Anonymous]

Best advice I ever got was to see a therapist... I don't really have "serious" issues, a little PTSD from multiple rapes but nothing that has slammed the brakes on me living my life. That said, I had no idea how much therapy could help until I did it!

[Anonymous]

How long has your longest relationship been? I would expect finding the right woman and over time opening yourself up to her as your mutual trust grows, to be fairly natural.

[Asker]

Never got to in school I never got to hangout with girls so then after school I’m sitting here kind of lost

[DeeDeeDeVour]

You gotta encourage yourself to got for it until you're no longer uncomfortable.

[sheikalana]

Consider doing therapy. Also communicate with your partner about what makes you anxious.

[FilmGuy93]

Gotta start exploring and healing those childhood traumas, man.

[18Uma21]

Stay single if you're happy this way. If you're unhappy see a psychologist

[Iamcuriouskarii]

Only you will be able to feel comfortable talking to the person you want to have a relationship with.

[Anonymous]

Why? Are you addicted to porn?

[Asker]

No don’t care for it hat much

[Jamie05rhs]

So stop being a ho. Go to church.

[Alliegal]

Hmm 🤔 well let me think

[In_Trance]

So stay single

[Anonymous]

Not sure sorry

[Anonymous]

I don't know.