How Soon Is Too Soon to Send a Double Text?

[soz11122]

I texted my partner a while ago and he didn't reply... I feel like it's going to be a while him texting me... Should I text him again to make sure ?

[DaveJord]

So the stand answer is if you text someone give them a minimum of 2 to 4 hours to reply. Before sending the double text. But it is in my opinion best practice to give them 24 hours.

If they do not reply with in 24 hours, chances are they are not interested and if more than 48 hours goes by, they probably never will or are most definitely not interested. I know when you really like someone waiting more than a few hours can be tough, and 24 to 48 is really painfully brutal, which why it serious unfair of them to do that to you.

But honestly, they should know how hard it is as well, which is why they obviously cannot be that interested in you unless they are playing games with you. Because it should be super tough for them to ignore you for more than a few hours, if they really liked you, 24 hours would be an impossible amount of time for them to want to wait. So, if they keep saying they really interested then doing this to you consistently, then honestly, they are playing with your emotions or not really as interested as you are. So that really means you need to forget about them and move on.

Do not trust these people that say they are just really that busy, in my experience it is bullshit on two levels.

1. I do not want to be with someone who is so self-absorbed they cannot be more respectful of me than that. It like 2 to 5 minutes to just shoot out a quick response just say I will get back you later.

2. If they truly are that busy, then they just do not have the time or room in their life to date someone like me. It's just not going to work.

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I will tell you this, I have never left a woman I was seriously interest in go unanswered for more than an hour or two tops... regardless of how busy I was... I always made the time to stop for 2 to 5 minutes to send a text. Even if it is to just tell her I am busy and will text later when I am off work.

[wysiwyg2525]

Sounds like you have trust issues and jealously. Leve him alone he is probably busy. The worst thing for you to do is come of as clingy. There is only onetime that you would do a quick second follow up is if it is and emergency. Othere then that just wait until he responds and if he don't then when you see him you could say hi and ask I did texted you and I just wanted to make sure you got it because I did not want to bother you on your busy day. Now the ball is I'm his court. If it continues that je don't respond then it is him and your not a priority or he just bad at texting. He will tell you this.

[Labokachulaa]

No, don't double text him. He sees your message and he will respond. However, it's it been a little "too long" (only you can be the judge of when exactly is too long) I would send him another one asking if he's okay? Especially depending on where he lives. There's been a lot of things going on lately.

Usually 12 hours - 24 hours is a good amount of time to wait and see if they'll reply to your message. Anything more, I would question if something is wrong with them or if there's something going on in my relationship.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Some people see texting as a slow conversation and they aren't fast, they may think about it and take hours or days to respond, while others see it as super fast conversation.

If you know him well enough, you can text again or maybe call him.

[Chazmatazz269]

Haha! Count the number of times in your entire life that someone said, “I never got your text.”. Then discount the number of times you were certain they were lying. Then discount half of the times you didn’t believe them but couldn’t know they were lying. Finally, take that number and calculate it against the number of texts you’ve exchanged with your fella. If you haven’t exceeded that number, it’s statistically foolish to think, “Maybe he didn’t get it.”. If you have exceeded it and you have not yet experienced a “lost text”, then your due and sending a backup couldn’t hurt. Personally, i NEVER send duplicate texts.

[Jamie05rhs]

That totally depends on a lot of different factors. Is he at work? Is he busy? What was the subject of the text? Does it require an urgent response? Also, were you in the middle of a deliberate conversation or did you just text him randomly out of the blue without asking him if he was available to chat first?

[Jamie05rhs]

Also: You can ALWAYS send a double text. It's totally not an issue. Now if it's a triple text? Then maybe. But the "sinfulness" (for lack of a better word) is completely overblown.

[OddBeMe]

Being in business, there’s a process of not annoying the person but staying in touch.


Send the message. Wait a day.
Upgrade somehow, call perhaps. If it’s a vmx, don’t call again.
Because they’re ignoring you for some reason. Might be a good reason.

[Friendlybro79]

Context is needed.

What is a while ago?

Do you know if he's busy?

Is it really important?

What is your gut telling you?

Stuff like that.

[mb120101]

It depends on the context. Was there a fight? Or is he just bad at talking?

[soz11122]

I just asked him how his day was going...

[mb120101]

Well if i got a double text myself I wouldn't really care honestly. Unless he's mad i wouldn't over think it:) If you are worried about timing, send news of something that just happened. You dont have to send him a question.

[mb120101]

If my girlfriend sent me a double text about something that just happened i wouldn't be annoyed at all. If i was sent a double text asking about why im not answering i would think thats a tiny bit annoying

[mb120101]

Either way a double text isn't a big deal even if he does think its annoying he won't remember in 2 days , over something stupid and petty like that

[Jamie05rhs]

"I just asked him how his day was going..." @soz11122 I'll let you in on a little secret. I don't mean to be mean at all in any way; so don't get me wrong. But that is a boring text. Also, a lot of guys will find it annoying. Men don't FEEL; we DO. So his mindset right now is probably "I have a lot of things I need to do today, and I don't need to spend time talking about them. I just want to get them DONE."

[NathanDavis]

what's so wrong and bad about two texts in a row?

[Spiritofn]

Get some spiritual healing your going brain dumb this shit is obvious. Just sit by a church even for twenty minutes I swear it clears the mind it’s incredible… 😤🫡

[Agape93]

I give it an hour if it's important, less if time sensitive.

[RawIronhide]

No your impatience is coming from the fact that your anxious.

[spartan55]

Yeah, keep bugging the shit out of him, guys love that... 🙄

[katestar]

I've been there. I've texted him and he didn't texted me back.

[Iron_Man]

Anytime, there’s no Need to play psychological head games

[SnowedIn]

Anything before 12 hours.

[Veronica1111]

If you even have to ask it’s too soon

[Anonymous]

Any text is annoying.

[collie22]

I wouldn't

[Anonymous]

1 second?