Is being friends better than dating them? (help)?

[tulipgirl18]

I have this friend who I’ve been getting along really well with we have the best friendship. The thing is I started liking him but didn’t have the guts to tell me and suddenly he admitted to me that he liked me I told him how I felt too. But I’m just scared that if anything changes and we do date but it doesn’t work out I’ll lose him. But I really like him. I don't know what to do

[caring__1]

The key is clear, open, honest communication. The downfall of most relationships is when people withhold pertinent information or are deceptive. Prioritize making sure he always feels safe, secure and special. Without safety, we won't allow vulnerability, which is necessary for any depth to develop. Never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize or tell him what he should or shouldn't do. Show him you want to see things through his eyes, so seek clarification when things can have multiple meanings. The best relationships are those with a foundation in a great friendship. Enjoy what you have and what the two of you choose to create together.

[Summeroflove]

Well that’s great the pressure is off of you to ask. Ultimately the choice is up to you. Bur don’t leave him in the dark or string him along.


If you’re not having sex immediately and see how things go. Then greet. I guess see how it goes. You never know unless you try.

I think sex outside of marriage especially too quick is many times what ruins something.


My advice is see how things go. Go on a date. But it’s your choice. Just don’t leave him hanging

[pascal_climbs]

Just do more things together. Then you start knowing each other in different conditions. Invite him for stuff you like, and participate in things he likes. Future will tell you if there is more than just friendship

[Anonymous]

Some men make better friends than they do lovers.

[mrinalashesh007]

Well, depends on the equation. If you have such equation, then it may not matter much.. However, normally these things don't work out.. and sooner or later one of them gets hurt pretty badly. Better not to give the steering wheel to other person for you to be taken !!

[Thatdude091699]

No. Because if you are just friends that sets a boundary that there is no sexual interest between you two. And if someone else comes along and has a romantic relationship with the friend you like, you'd have to cut them out of your life because it would tear your heart apart to watch them with someone else.

[ImHere22]

Depends on the sex-side of things: can you exist as friends and still have sex with each other? If no, are you okay not having sex? If you date, it’s harder to “undate” than to friend it up end try mom

[tenor55]

Well, I dated my best friend, then married her. We are still best friends 50 years later. Go for it!

[ShadezMcgee]

Would you rather take the risk and see what comes of it or settle for safety and the illusion of what could have been?

[LegendaryDater]

Feelings don't go away. There is nothing you can do but move forward with those feelings. Don't look back and regret not trying.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's why you're supposed to make friends with your own gender.

[Jltakk]

The feeling of cold stagnation eating away bit by bit at your soul over time isn't fun and can potentially ruin your mental health.

[OddBeMe]

I think cats out of bag either way. Might as well date.

[Figurine89]

Welcome to the whole point of GAG. Should you, or shouldn't you, basically

[Alex8736]

friends with benefits?

[tulipgirl18]

IMAO I wouldn’t be able to handle if he found someone else

[Alex8736]

already had sex with him?