Am I justified in feeling hurt if a long-time best friend stops talking to me?

[Anonymous]

Am I justified in feeling upset at this? We were extremely close for 9 years. Then she randomly stopped reaching out first, and kept saying we would meet up but flaked on me many times while making time for others. I got the message and sent her a closure message because I felt lead-on, and she said I’m overreacting and not justified in being so upset. Am I justified?

[Anonymous]

Closure message was probably unhelpful because she was intentionally or unintentionally dropping you slowly and you called her out on it. Which has itself caused friction and potentially validated more of the same.

In any case, sounds like the relationship is collapsing or taking a hiatus.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Not really. I understand the feeling of being left out over many years and made the same mistake of undeserved closure. You can only be justified in letting it go. Still going to suck mentally.

[Biancam13]

Yes, ofc you are “justified.” Don’t be too hard on yourself, everyone’s feelings are always valid. Sounds like she was being inconsiderate to your feelings

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I would be upset too