No.
And this has nothing to do with "insecurity". It has to do with BOUNDARIES.
If you want to act single, THEN BE SINGLE.If my girl wants to go on a "girl's night out" then the relationship is over right at that minute. Because we all know what these 'nights' are far. I'm talking about the bars and clubs type of 'girl's night out'. If it is just an 'only girls' sleepover, a movie night, or anything that does not include the opposite sex, that's a different story.
If your partner willingly exposes themselves to people and environments that are notorious for cheating and hooking up, then that is a testament to their lack of respect for you and your relationship. And I can have ALL the trust in the world in my woman, but if she puts herself out there where the odds of something bad happening are SIGNIFICANTLY increased, then that tells me she is low-value to be in a long-term relationship with.
I have faith that my locks and the security system of my house will hold off any thieves, but does that mean I'll still allow them to attempt a break-in?
Anyway, feel free to disagree. Don't start crying when your political correctness has lead to the sabotage of your relationships. I care too much about mine to let unwanted but avoidable circumstances sabotage mine
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Take a hard look at her friends. If her friends are cheating sluts then you know what it is about and what is going to happen. Non-slutty friends don't even want to go to a bar where the drinks are overpriced and attract a bunch of horny people that are looking to get laid.
Or you can just trust... which is like fucking around just to find out.
How it ended for me was getting a phone call to come save her and her friend from a couple of guys that wouldn't leave them alone. I had to stop watching a movie with the other girls boyfriend and go to a fucking bar with that boyfriend just so we could get the guys to fuck off. There is no point in going to a place where that is supposed to happen if you think you're fine and it just won't happen to you. That just brings me back to the "fuck around and find out" logic.
I have a girls night out once a month with some other similarly aged close friends of mine and he has yet to have a problem with it. I don't ever spend the night anywhere and I generally send him cute little messages about how the evening is going and to check on how the kids are behaving for him. On the flipside, I trust him fully. He goes backpacking with a couple of friends, and also does some bicycle touring once or twice a year. We have complete trust of each other, even when we are out of town. I can't imagine having that worry on top of all the other worries that come with a job, being a parent, and the other stresses of the world around us.
I trust him, because he has proven to me that he can be trusted when he’s out with his friends. We have been together for a long time. As for me, I don’t go to bars and clubs and never have. That is not my scene. I don’t even want to be dragged to one. When I meet my friends it’s usually just for coffee or at a regular restaurant.
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I see no choice but to trust. And, I see no reason to sit around like a wounded dog.
All I have to do is say, “Great have fun…I’ll be heading over to the Airport park after work and watch planes ✈️ take off and land.” OR
Alright, will be at Indoor (more university/PhD girls at indoor than guys).
If you want to know whether a girl can be trusted - see what types of friends she has. If her friends do not do crazy stuff - she won't have somebody to do crazy stuff with.
I need to be with someone I trust.
yes. that is very partner dependent though... like who are they as a person?
If alcohol is involved, trust drops dramatically, possibly to zero... because it's a drug and makes people stupid.
I try to stay away from stupid, so I only drink at home with my wife and family.
I do otherwise he wouldn't be my boyfriend. You have to trust your partner.
I have been cheated on in the past and I have very bad trust issues. The way I see past is understanding that life goes on and my trust issues can ruin a good thing. The truth will always come to surface and if I ever discover my partner is being disloyal, I will leave them. That's the only way to go.Yes I do. I actually encourage my partner to go hang out with friends or make new frigiys or girls. Its a free country they can hangout with whoever they like. Why have trust issues. The way I see it they always come home to me and if they choose to cheat the when I say we are done they understand. There is no second chances.
If your jealous of them going out, here is a few reason to why. 1. Your clingy and this is going to catchup to you. 2. Your guilty of already having second thought or have cheated.
We are in a new Era that being open minded and open to be a swinger is the way to go. Why put labels on your relation. As long as you all agree on something then no harm or shame in the lifestyle.Absolutely. I’ll trust you 100% until you give me a reason not to. Trust is vital in a relationship and we all need time with friends! Staying with your partner every second of every day is what causes problems! Gotta take some time for yourself. And I’m all about some “me time” 😂
“Girls night” where they’re going to a movie and dinner and then sleeping at a friends? Yes. Bible study and then a movie? Sure, no worries. Coffee with a girlfriend in the afternoon, obviously. Going at 10pm to a strip club and then heavy drinking and she looks like she would have dressed for a hot date or something that was “for my eyes only”? Heck no, I wouldn’t trust her doing that. I mean, she CAN do whatever, and I can’t command her, but I think we’d be done.
If she wants to look single and take drinks from dudes and get sh*tfaced and be one of the “woo girls” then that’s her choice… but she’s giving me too much reason to think something could go on behind my back.
I think part of it is how much she was trustworthy, if her friends were trustworthy, where she said she was going, etcBetter question is: can she trust herself? Is she dedicated to me enough not to become weak and end up sleeping with some guy? Is she truly loyal in her heart?
I'm not worried about her going places with her girlfriends, but more concerned about what will her heart do or not do in those situations.
I trust my wife. She has a circle of girlfriends and they have lunch or go to events together at least twice a week, or they go shopping. She even goes on weekend retreats or seminars every once in a while. I'm glad that she has friends with similar interests.
It's not like they're going out clubbing. She's not into the bar scene, so I don't worry. I never have.I’d be absolutely fine with it no questions asked. I trust my husband, otherwise I wouldn’t have married him
Not that happy. I know one girl who went on a girls trip away to another city, fucked a bouncer and came home pregnant. The really bad thing she did was, twelve months later, she decided that she didn't like being a mom and dumped daughter for the "daughter's father" to raise alone.
I think guys have about worked out that girls aren't any better than us and everything to contrary is simply just false advertising.He’s not a bar kind of person, but yes. He’s the more mature one in his friend group, and he doesn’t get drunk easily, so he’d be the one making sure no one gets into trouble.
It's totally normal to feel a little uneasy about your partner going out with friends of the opposite sex, especially if you've had trust issues in the past. However, it's important to remember that trust is a two-way street, and it's not fair to put all the burden on your partner to prove themselves trustworthy. If you have concerns about your partner going out with friends of the opposite sex, it might be worth having an open and honest conversation about your feelings and finding a compromise that works for both of you. Trust is an important part of any healthy relationship, and it's something that both partners need to work on together.
Trust is either naivete or the acknowledgment that you could be betrayed but you're going to take the risk anyway because of social needs.
You're never going to meet someone that is 100% trustworthy because even you are not 100% trustworthy to yourself.
I do. I figure if I can't trust a woman to be with then why have her in my life?
It's just a waste of time and energy on my end.
You can't stop someone from cheating. It's impossible unless you tie her up where she can't leave the house and that isn't happening unless you are a psycho.
You either trust them or you don't, regardless of the specific day.
If you don't trust them, why are you in a relationship with them?
If you're too insecure, why are they in a relationship with you?
If she still feels she needs to go clubbing after meeting me she isn't a keeper. So her girlfriend nights better involve something else.
Yes. Total trust. I’m texted frequently with fun little comments. Makes it impossible to worry.
Him and his friends are not bar people, but yes. All his friends are good guys. Not quite as good as my husband, but still pretty good.
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