Post abortion thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I recently had an abortion the decision was mutual with my so. He was with me during the expirence but I didn't feel supported I felt like an inconvenience.
I decided to let him be there for the experience because he wanted to be. The day of I went to people and I got the abortion pills and went to my doctors office and picked up some pain killers. He drove me to these places but didn't want to get out of the car. ( I understood this.) Before taking the pills I was scared because of the stories I read on reddit. I was feeling nervous and scared all day but I didn't want to ruin our time together so I tried to act like my normal self.
When I finally took the pills I was feeling good. Then after an 1 or so I began to cramp and bleed. I felt weak and just wanted to rest. He paid no mind to me and was working on his website. I didn't mind.
Then I became very emotional I wanted to go home but he didn't let me. I was crying because I felt like I should've done it alone and I felt guilty for involving him.
The decision to abort was my idea but it would've been nice if he showed that he cared for what I had growing in me. During my emotional moment he told me I was overreacting and overthinking and that it didn't mean anything so I should stop crying.
I know it's my fault and my choice but I guess I needed someone next to me supporting me when I'm emotional rather than judge me.
I haven't seen him in a couple of days now. I want to stay away from him. I don't know how to feel about him. Am I being extra?

[HollyK21]

Before I say say anything, let me remind anyone reading this who plans to comment to please be kind! She’s not asking for your judgment, political views on abortion or to be belittled, I know some of you just can’t help but the spew hatred regarding abortion and it’s so unnecessary.


Anyway, It’s not being extra at all, it’s just hurtful because he was really cold and removed about, and probably only went so that he didn’t have a guilty conscience. You can’t change what happened or how he acted during everything, so there’s no point prolonging your grief by thinking of the ways things could’ve or should’ve been different. Try thinking of what good came from this, like now you don’t have to deal with him any more than necessary (preferably never again lol) and can start moving on.

[artsy_dragon]

My abortion, just was feeling this. I didn't bleed on my first pill for about 2 days after. There are people who you can call for help. I know it is hard but trust me it gets better. Get well soon 💖

[Ghostykill3r]

He absolutely should have been more considerate of your feelings during this experience, I don't know how much you talked about it before hand, he may not have understood just how bad it was going to be for you. It's a big red flag that he didn't take you home after you said you wanted to. Whenever you aren't in as much pain, or as vulnerable you should have a serious discussion with him about thr situation and explain your feelings and how his actions/inactions made you feel, and what you want from him.

[Guy13]

I am going to suggest that you go to a pregnancy planning org that’s Pro-Life and baby and seek a counseling professional now.

It does not go away unless your conscience is seared. People who have abortion, from my experience, have a remembrance date…. some call it death date referencing birth date. There will always be a remembering. You should get out ahead of it now.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Unbelievable what the world has come to 🤦 killing babies has become some sort of drug for women