Would you rather feel…?

[VanillaSalt]

Not great choices here but in a relationship, if you could control it, which would you rather feel loved, competent, or respected.

There’s gonna be at least one of you that says all are bad or all are necessary… please don’t. Which is your preferred suffering if you have to choose one. Which can you most live without?

Unloved

Inadequate

Disrespected

[19magic]

That's hard I chose disrespected in the end, I've felt like not being able to do stuff before and that's not the best but to always feel like that I'm not sure I'd be able to handle that. Especially if it came to a partner who was always constantly badgering me. Whereas if it disrespect then that's not appreciating me while loving me full heartedly which makes no sense but will kinda work. In a very manipulative way of course. But if I chose unloved then I may as well be a lecturer or something and this is my colleague or pupil rather than life partner.

[Gloree]

I prefer respect. it's the whole package in my opinion.

[Juxtapose]

I would rather be unloved, because being loved while being viewed as adequate or not worthy of respect is too painful.

If I am adequate and worthy of respect, then it's more of a problem with the other person than with me if they don't love me.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

None is necessary.

Be an adult person, be a real man, grow a spine and don't allow anyone to make you feel any of that.

[benjydyn]

Interesting question.
I’d rather be inadequate but I can’t give up love and respect. I’ve had some experiences.
Inadequacy is something that can always be resolved with appropriate commitment by both persons of the couple, also finding some possible compromise.
The lack of love and respect always make the couple decay, if not immediately even after long time.

[LegendaryDater]

unloved because we can't be loved by everyone and that is okay by me.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why would you ask people to choose to suffer?