Why is it so much harder to trust people in long distance relationships?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Cuz you don’t see them enough so your mind wanders on what they could be up to , making it harder for you to trust them , I am not saying long distance relationships can’t work it’s just harder for them to work cuz you don’t Get to see each other as much giving you both space to allow someone else to intervene leaving an open door for someone else to walk right in , For it to work you both have to be on the same page with things or it will just be a waste of time it becomes more of a convenience then anything For any relationship to work you both have to put in 100 percent in if not you are both just wasting your time , I have met girls that I had amazing chemistry and connection with that we automatically hit it off with each other fully attracted to each other to realize we lived far away from each other , so unless one of you is willing to leave your current living situations and leave everything behind to be with each other then it can work work , if not then it won’t , Every girl I met that lived far away from me that I had amazing chemistry with I just enjoyed the moment with them understanding that when we are apart that there is no strings attached , if we are meant to be we are meant to be , most of them were just a good time we knew the connection and chemistry is there but we also knew we couldn’t officially be together and leave everything behind so we just ended up staying FWB’s. I met a beautiful girl that was visiting from England at a bar and her and I had amazing chemistry and connection she was in town visiting her family for the week we had amazing sex and spent as much time as we could together , we kept in touch here an ther and stayed friends , 6 months went by and she told me she was coming to visit again and wanted to see me , She came and we instantly had amazing sex again I really liked this girl until found out she was lying to me about being married , Her husband called me out of the blue and said I know you are fucking my wife I apologized to him and said I am sorry that I had no clue she was married and told him everything , so my word of advice is if you fall for someone that is long distance it’s a slim chance they are being honest with you , Why space is bad in a relationship, space leaves room for fire to enter a relationship , She wasn’t the only married girl I have slept with that lied and said she was single , Why I have a hard time trusting girls today , I know men can be jut a bad , but I point my fingers at girls for being the worst , based off of my experiences in life

[Guy13]

In all long distant relationship the biggest issue is trust which is an assured reliance of the character, ability, stregth, or truth of someone or something. And the primary issue that evolves around trust is Loyalty.

"Is he/she loyal... are they seeing anyone where they live now... how many more people are they dating online... etc" There is a lot of time that is spent independently of one another that would not be if both were in same proximity. This means the things that you two would normally do as a team, such as focus upon relational and life goals, as well as fun are done independently. These movements show on Social Media and often make the Long-distant relationship more difficult.,

The long-distance relationship does possess an element where one feels preoccupied and consumed by what the other is and is not doing. Why so long or slow with the communication. I do not want to nag and send him into the opposite reaction. Feeling secure about being open and honest is a rarity within the LDR design. It does not have a good track record and should be avoided as I see it.

[Rosexøxø]

This is very true/ spot on and I can confirm/ testify from personal experience.

[Guy13]

@Rosexøxø Thank you for kind words. No more LDR for you, Eh…

[Rosexøxø]

Nope it’s not even good for sexual fun lol so none of it at all

[Rosexøxø]

Np as well 🤜🤛

[Guy13]

@Rosexøxø 😎😎

[Rosexøxø]

Can’t see them; can’t smack them up the side of their head… lol

You can tell a lot about a person with that in person experience.

Living close by means you can spend a lot

of time / us Lory time together, and if they aren’t spending it with you, you can get/ have an idea of where they are spending that time.

States/ countries away and they could have a whole other/ different life.

Fact is when you’re in a LDR you

AREN’T

a part of their lives.

If you can’t move right then and there if it were “true,” then it probably means you won’t be able to fit them into your life and vice versa.

Find someone you can reasonably live/ grow alongside of.

[jennifer_bloom]

My friend has never shown any true religious faith to me in conversation but she says normal people know if they are in a bad romantic situation because their gut feeling will tell them about it. The last guy I dated had unresolved pain from child hood issues and I was very unhappy with his lack of affection - he always knew when I wanted to dump him for another guy. He could sense it. I also know some people dream about getting cheated on and some people will spontaneously hate others for no visible or detectable reason - that is all gut instinct God gives you.

[Lalalove11]

In my experience this dude hid his entire married life. He could send nudes in his house, from his bed when his wife wasn't home. It was easy for him to hide everything and also constantly pretend he wanted to meet me and marry me. Yeah, it's honestly quite easy to hide things online for a while until the other person cops it.

[Justin1019]

Because if you are not physically near him/her, you don't know what they are doing.

Sure, you guys can communicate online but your partner can turn off the connection anytime he/she likes.

But if you are physically near her/him, you can sneak up on him.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

Because why go for someone far away if someone could be living in the same city?

[CoolCatMar1]

Because you don't know what they are doing

[LiamJHayden]

Easier to cheat