Man and Woman in bed hear a loud noise downstairs. Who should go check?

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ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Whoever has the quickest access to a gun, and is a good shot. But it depends on the noise. If both are able to go, even better. Strength in numbers. Intruders may expect a man. But a battle couple? That'd be straight up terrifying! One with an uzi, one with a katana. The intruders would be begging for mercy!

Plus, if there are five intruders and the couple defeat all of them, then they can also corroborate each other's accounts of what happened better. Which makes it a little bit harder for police and courts to justify locking up either long-term.

The way it stands now, when the wife hides and doesn't see anything, it's his word versus the opinion of some court, which may not be a fair and impartial court, versus a lawyer who may get paid more to lose the case. Jury tampering is a thing, especially in Arizona and Minnesota.

And often, there is more money to be made in convicting a man for defending his home than there is in honoring his right to defend it. The equally wronged wife? Just acceptable collateral damage on the way to a paycheck. And if the original intruder were getting paid by the court to stage the whole thing to begin with, knowing they might get killed in the process? Also happens, and is even more diabolical yet! That it constitutes entrapment on top of everything else is something courts no longer care about.

Moose304 · Accepted Answer

There is no best answer. I live in an apartment with a monitored alarm system. I have sensors on my windows that go off if one is opened and I have glass break sensors if the glass is broken. When I go to bed I turn on a laser beam that goes across my living room. If that beam is broken the alarm goes off. If I am not at home and my system goes off the monitoring company can actually tell what sensor went off and can get this information to the cops. I have a panic button close to my bed as well as a P-320 in my nightstand. I have several alarm modes on my system. I can put every sensor on the monitoring or just my windows. Somebody breaks one of my windows and the monitoring company will send me a text on my phone. If I don't reply to that text within 60 seconds they will call the cops. Now to the question. I don't advise leaving the bedroom. Go lock your bedroom door and call 911. If you have a panic button push it. At worse all, you will do is find it was something that fell over and you will suffer some embarrassment. At worse and there was somebody in your home, the life you saved may have been yours. Home invasions are on the rise.

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

In my home, I get up and go downstairs armed to investigate any loud or suspicious noises. I've seen my husband shoot; he couldn't hit a bull in the ass with a banjo. His job is to protect the two scared-of-thunder dogs.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

Whoever is quick to act. Whoever is good at dodging and kicking butt.. But in my case, I'm pretty sure I'd probably hide inside the wardrobe and hope the intruder doesn't notice me, ol

Rosexøxø · Answer

Something that they would discuss. It varies.

Guy13 · Answer

Reality: 😴 💤, what, what noise? You 👨 waking me up for that? You talk to Alexa more than me anyway…she can dial 911 too…. but alright 👨 📲

AviatorTom · Answer

Whoever is closest to the bedroom door... they can get downstairs the fastest.

SnowedIn · Answer

It's changed over the years in our house. When I was in the Navy, nothing would wake me up. So that would have been my wife. But now, it's me. But, woe unto the burglar who encounters or wakes my wife and doesn't have Starbucks for her. She has a Louisville Slugger just for that purpose. Me? I'm more likely to just sit the burglar down and talk them to death. Offer them a cloth napkin and make them take their shoes off.

MrOracle · Answer

No one is getting into my house quickly or without making a LOT of noise. I have many layers of defense, some that are obvious and some that are not, but they are all going to slow someone down and expose them.

Then there are the dogs. One is loud and super sensitive - the other is half wolf and is silent and often invisible, but very territorial.

If you still manage to make it inside, my brother is a former Air Assault infantryman (he roped into combat from helicopters with a belt-fed machine gun) and I'm a former competitive shooter with years of IDPA training.

It's not likely to go well for the intruders.

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

Why not both? Or if it's really a loud noise, why not neither? Most people don't have a two story house. They could leave through a bedroom window, skip the maybe-get-murdered part, and come back in the morning or with company to sweep the house—if it seriously sounds like an intruder. There's no need to "check" if you know who should be in the house and what noises they can make. If it's not one of those noises, there you go. It's something bad. Get out.

A cat can't knock a good chair over. A dog can't break a window. And if they have children, well then we're back to both going down. Why would you risk splitting up in a situation like that?

TenderFantasy · Answer

Funny this happend in 2013 when my ex (at the time) and I was getting it frisky. Car accident happend right in front of his ghetto complex lol. It was startling, but also funny if you think about it. He ran down the stairs with a hard on. LMAO!

WindAtMyBack · Answer

I swear women hear noises that are just their imagination. I think they want you to go out and check just to see if you'll do it. They'll be back to sleep before I even get back to report that everything is OK.

But yea, the man should check. It's his job.

TruthBringer · Answer

It's the men of course.  Because for some miraculous reason, the 'strong' in "I'm a strong and independent woman" doesn't apply when someone breaks into a house. Or is it so surprising? Because more often than not, we see feminism and the "I'm a strong and independent woman" get thrown out the window when: 1. Bills need to be paid. 2. There is noise downstairs. 3. War breaks out.

WilliamPamer446 · Answer

Either or. I would go check a lot of the time, but we can go together or she go sometimes. Its not like, the end of the world for a girl to do it sometimes or we do it together often. I'd just wanna make sure me and her are both prepared for certain situations. I would be protective if my girlfriend, out of love not to control. I like the picture.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Both. On the off chance that there are multiple intruders, I’d like to favor the odds or at least be even.
He’s going first down the stairs though. I’m jut the bat outta hell that they don’t see coming.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It would be me in our house. My husband would sleep through a bomb going off.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Bad poll.  Both should go.  intruders often like to work in pairs and teams.  Investigating alone is a great way to become dead.

DizzyDesii · Answer

We going together. If one of us get knocked out, the other person may not hear it and then we’d be caught offguard when the intruder walks in on us instead. So yea we checkin it out together. No splitting up, Fred

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

The dog... the dog will be on it before your eyes open enough to spy the cat not giving a fuck.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

It only makes sense if the physically stronger person goes first, and that is generally the man. But if he was in danger I would be down there in a moment.

Graci_e · Answer

The man. Men are a lot physically stronger and better in those sorts of situations, they’re made to protect and stuff. I’m small and not that strong, I wouldn’t stand a chance up against someone if there was someone down there. Plus I’m the biggest scardy cat haha

Cassie88 · Answer

Oh okay, I'll go! If I find a burglar I'll tackle him to the ground and sit on his face.

Red-Blaze · Answer

Both.. one with a phone one with a bat, and both with a gun... better a tazzer

exitseven · Answer

The man gets his gun and goes downstairs and takes care of business.,

CubsterShura · Answer

Depends on the sound and the place. If it were in a situation like that and it's at my place, I'd be going unless the sound is way too threatening that it would not be safe for me to go. But also, if it's way too dangerous for either of us to go I'd just stay back.

msmissydc · Answer

Honestly 99.99% of the time a loud noice is downstairs its our cat. So we kind of dont check anymore and try to remember beeing carefull in the morning. But lets say we hear voices that are clearly not our cat I guess I would be scared as hell but if he wouldlgo downstairs I would be scared about him even more. Try to lay a trap in the room we are in otherwise call police and try to stay quite ourselfes would hopefully be the plan.

HighValue · Answer

It depends. If she has ever claimed she wants equality or has any kind of feminist ideas then she should go down to check first while he doesn't help.

If they have a normal relationship where he is the leader and each person takes on their rightful roles, then the man is supposed to be the protector of his family.

Anonymous · Answer

This doesn't answer your question. But, I know a lady who had an arranged marriage in a different culture than is the standard culture in the US. On the first night of their marriage, she heard noise downstairs. She asked her husband what that noise was. He replied, "That is my parents moving in"... Imagine that being dumped on you when you were married less than a day...

RavVid · Answer

Typically in my experience if a girl hears a sound she wakes me and pushes me to go downstairs. Especially brave girls might follow me down behind me.

Phoenix98 · Answer

The man usually since in most cases he'd be the most well equipped to handle whatever may be found downstairs. Or in the more rarer cases if the woman is better equipped to handle it then by all means.

Or in my case I'd be the one to check since I'd be the best equipped to handle whatever could be down there.

lightbulb27 · Answer

The answer is obvious... the dog! The cat would be under the bed... cats are smart.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

He should check it for me. I'd be scared to even take a step downstairs. 😂 But if anything happens to him, I gotta run and help him.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Me. After all it will have been my dogs that already ate the intruder.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I have a single story house, so no one. Lol I've done this before. And grabbed a gun while investigating.

Anonymous · Answer

My husband does. He's a tall muscular military vetrean who owns guns snd knows how to use them, I'm 4ft10 and scream when I see a spider in the bathroom.

Anonymous · Answer

Neither it's probably just the house settling. See this is why I choose the side of the bed farthest from the door. If some maniac comes through it he's going to get to her first. Which gives me time to go out the window.😆😆😆

SexyRedd1966 · Answer

My dude because he is my warrior and he always stay strapped

supercutebutt · Answer

The less sexy one. It's always tragic when a hot person dies. :(

petitedollbabee · Answer

Whoever is the protector/dominant one in the relationship, which isn’t always the man. However my partner is a lot stronger than I am, and knows how to fight & disarm someone, so I’d be sending him down.

HuskyJ · Answer

Man - assuming he is bigger physically and it is his or both's place. If it is hers and he just stayed over/is visiting, probably both. She should know her own neighbourhood.

dolemite89 · Answer

girls are feminists until shit like that happens 😂

sheikalana · Answer

I never get out of bed when I hear loud noises.

GOOSEBOY78 · Answer

if she had karate training im kicking her ass outa the bed...

Coyote12 · Answer

I keep Kimber next to me. So I'll be with that and my German Shepard. Good luck lol

Lynnfriend · Answer

No I think you should both go together and see what it is. However my boyfriend would insist on doing it himself. However if it's something bad you could assist each other.

Agape93 · Answer

Me. I have the shotgun

cunnilinguist · Answer

Woman cuz if it's a ghost it's gonna come up through the ceiling and eat me and I will sacrifice myself while she runs away to find the ghost busters.

Apple1996 · Answer

Whoever is less tired

LegendaryDater · Answer

Hopefully she just hides under the bed and calls 911 If I tell her too.

Ghostykill3r · Answer

Whoever is stronger or better in a fight. Whoever could handle whatever the issue might be. Whoever has a gun and can use it.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Both, lol. Neither of us usually just wants to wait to see if the other is okay. Strength in numbers.

NathanDavis · Answer

I have better night vision than most...

purplepoppy · Answer

Neither, send the dog.

-Mad- · Answer

Its man vs man not man vs woman. the intruder would probably take advantage of the woman instead of her fighting him its a man’s world~ arms strong 💪

marish01 · Answer

The modern day independant strong empowered loud woman.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Go together. Strength in numbers.

LadyKitty · Answer

I say both should go together. Doesn't matter which one is first either.

sarahstar13 · Answer

Which ever one is more of a badass with a weapon ;)

thatshydork · Answer

Both. Work as a team to eliminate the threat if there is one.

DaisyM23 · Answer

i don't mind, both my parents do this and i've even done it too

Subglacial · Answer

The burglar downstairs should check. He's the closest one, so it makes sense.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Well I learned recently that in my house, it's me 😂

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

The man. As a man we are supposed to be the first line of defense in regards to protecting our woman and children at all cost even if our lives end.

Chthou95 · Answer

The comments are fucking hilarious. Men are going to be the ones going to check. And im going to say in general men will be the ones checking because a woman checking unless she's alone, will always be rare

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