Is it better to run the risk of losing the person by telling them exactly how you feel or keep them in your life and bottle up your feelings?

[Rautnaku]

Is it better to run the risk of losing the person by telling them exactly how you feel or keep them in your life and bottle up your feelings?

I fall in love with a really important friend that I don't want to lose...

[Aysen]

Since you're afraid with the fear of losing her by pouring out your feelings for her, why not get a better understanding of how she feels about you first, by creating a stronger bond with her?

Spend more quality time with her; see how comfortable she feels about being in your presence! Take the initiative to begin conversations, treat her out to lunch sometime, surprise her with something she loves/cares about, create a connection from sharing interests/topics together; anything like that! There's nothing more intimate than wanting to devote your time and attention to the people you love and care about the most ❤️

She may warm up to you, but there's also a possibility she may simply see you as a friend. You'll have to confess your feelings eventually if you don't want them to manifest you from within. Best case scenario, she feels the same way as you and you both can move forward! Worst case scenario, she rejects you and you can ask if you two still want to be friends afterwards if you're ok with accepting the reality that she may never love you romantically. Don't be afraid of rejection or losing her forever if this doesn't work out! It's worse to have never tried in the first place than to at least take a shot at what could be a very happy relationship! Hope this helps with what you're looking for 😊

[BrotherBane]

As someone who has gone through what you have... I told her how I felt about her.

I already knew she wasn't interested in me in a romantic way, but I still confessed to her anyway. She told me she only saw me as a brother, and subsequently... she didn't speak to me anymore...

She was my friend for 3 years before I had any feelings for her.

Does this mean you should not confess to her anymore? No, you should still tell her about it. Be comfortable with the fear of rejection/abandonment. Once you go through this experience, you won't be so afraid of confessing to other girls anymore.

[emmaa1]

She'd be expecting that, it shows. and you don't have to live with bottling up your feelings, does it ruin the friendship? yes, but let's be honest you are not there for the friendship any more you want her.

being honest and expressing what you feel is maybe not easy, but it is liberating. Take a chance and do that, if she says yes, good, if she understands but says no, then you were going to lose her anyway only a matter of time, but you would be free of that.

[Alessa13]

It cannot be a healthy relationship to bottle it up, I suggest telling them exactly and take a chance. You will never know if she feels the same way unless you do.

If she values you as a friend she will not end the friendship. Might be a bit awkward if she does not feel that way.

[AviatorTom]

Caring about someone and loving them is always a risk. It's better to tell them how you feel and risk losing them than them not knowing how you feel.

[Guy13]

Bottle up for short term until bond is established.

[sheenagwapa]

i can relate to this. and i just wanna tell him i'm not a peace negotiator. the second commandment from
God doesn't say toleratinh people who don't feel sorry for what they've done to you. now i'm really questioninh why do you want it soooo baf that i get chummy2 with my relatives


i've done everything in the name of love but it seems my effort is not enough or i am not enough

[FlatTech26]

Add tension tell her honestly how you feel and because of this you cannot meet with her unless it is a date. End it or get it don't be in middle and be salty about it because you choose it.

[Phoenix98]

To me personally I find it better to be honest and not have regrets. And always wondering in the back of my mind what if.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'd much rather keep my mouth shut. Just because I know from experience that honesty always backfires.

But it's a great question.

[sadgirl0210]

No u need to tell them how u feel u have rights to and ur feelings matter

[SteveSmith1985]

The risk. ALWAYS. 🙂

[driven159]

The truth will set you free. There is always something better right around the corner.

[Songomatic]

Be honest. Relationships out of love are not forced!!