Easy.
Deal breaker.
Just don't date them. Easy fix. If your girl gets dressed up all hot and says I'm going to the club and I'll be out drinking until 2 am with guys talking and flirting with me all night then just tell her flat out. That isn't going to work. If "hanging with friends" means going to clubs, going to sexual meat markets and drinking alcohol and talking with other men then this is over. Have a nice time and it was nice getting to know you but this is over and please don't call me anymore.
It is very simple. Just don't be in relationships with women who have this lifestyle and who want to be in a committed relationship and still act single and go out looking sexy and getting flirted with all night while drinking.
It doesn't sound like they are compatible anyway.
Now all the empowered women will freak out. Oh you are insecure. Just because she is out looking hot and drinking all night and talking to these strange guys all night doesn't mean she'll act on it. You should trust her. You are controlling. (as if going to clubs is the only things friends can do, they aren't going to the movies, coffee house, restaurant, shopping, park, art class... etc. they can only dress up tight and sexy and get 4 hours of male attention and flirtation while intoxicated). They think ANY relationship boundary a guy has is a crime and oppression of a girl. Controlling, non-trusting. Only women are allowed to have boundaries. Any male boundaries is oppression of women and her doing anything she feels like 24/7 always trumps any relationship or marriage.
To sum up. Any wise man looking for a serious partner or wife should avoid such a girl and/or tell her early on he won't make a girlfriend of anyone still participating in this lifestyle. She is free to do what she wants. If she keep clubbing and drinking and going out late just walk away.
Just walk away.
Fantastic comment, well described, I agree 100%.
Yeah... you deserve MHO because this is spot. The. Fucking. ON! Gawd, you even called out their most common gas-lighting tricks. You obviously know what's up.
That she is up to no good and doesn’t value or love her partner , she is seeking validation from other’s which is an insecurity that she has inside herself whether she cheats or not she is still cheating on the relationship , it’s a sign she only cares about herself, she doesn’t consider her partner’s feelings she just wants a man that can handle her selfishness , Most men that can handle a girl’s selfishness or either simps or they are up to no good themselves , Most girl’s don’t grasp the concept on selfishness , it’s her way or no way , the second a guy that comes into her life that she feels shows a lot more masculine energy then her partner does she will allow this other guy to sweep her off her feet cuz she feels no wrong in her doings because she is selfish and insecure and she already has a list of little flaws her current partner has so she is constantly playing a victim , I hate to say this but I honestly have slept with a handful of married women that were going out a lot with their girlfriends to the bars and being up to no good and lying saying they were single , she is single alright , just for that night , That’s why us men need to put your foot down when you get into a relationship and make it clear to her if she cheats she is best not to come back period , stay on the streets where you belong A girl that values and loves her man doesn’t need that shit on her life constantly
I think they lack imagination. I have never been to a club cause I do not have a car and my parents give me a curfew, so I don't even know what a night club is like. But there are many ways to entertain the self without going to a night club or going to parties or on dates. There are video games, craft projects, animal babysitting volunteerism, special socialization time at old folks centres, animal farms where you can socialize with barn animals for a fee, there are gyms and same gender public dance classes, there are healthy salad restaurants that serve nutritious meals, healthy recipes and gardens you could visit, there are beaches and swimming pools, you could contribute by volunteering for a charity or you could help out at a political event or watch a cool movie. So these girls need to find less damaging ways to entertain themselves. I used to wander around ice cream shops with other girls and it was a great experience. And I watched my friends dance DDR at arcades.
The need to go out is like an extrovert thing. I prefer my partner to be more of an introvert. So that is my opinion on people wanting to go out all the time.
Your girlfriend clubbing. Maybe that is all she does and knows for fun. I didn't go clubbing often but if someone does I don't think it's a problem if she doesn't get drunk. If you wear revealing clothing for the sake of being revealing and attracting attention, I think it's not okay. You're going to dance and you better wear something comfy and if it Happens to be revealing it's okay to me. But if it's for attention... no.
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That these women live experimentally and can not be trusted in areas where good judgment is required. That you will always have a spouse-child to monitor and entertain for the rest of your without then knowing you are doing it. It is definitely a downer to wake-up and realize their thinking and doing is without depth and consideration of long-term relational effects..
Question to me is why isn't he going with her, I always invite my SO to go with me. I also don't go constantly, just every couple of weeks.
Now if she says he can't come and he wants to, I see that as a problem because she probably doing stuff she doesn't want him to see.
Going out constantly would be a little much. Sometimes is okay tho
u Huge warning signs! Girl not really ready for commitment!
She’s not serious about her relationship if she does that
Sometimes single girls put pressure on partnered girls to go out clubbing with them and help them pick up. Also some single girls get jealous when a friend gets partnered. I've experienced that. They (single girls) still want your girlfriend all to themselves.
However couples do mate guarding. Girls do it, guys do it. i. e checking & showing that you aren't off with some other girl/guy. This might seem insecure but it is part of building a strong relationship initially - demonstrating trustworthiness on both sides. And if someone is serious about a relationship they are happy to demonstrate that trustworthiness. Typically something like
girlfriend rings "Hi watcha you doing. Can we talk?". "The boys wanted to go out for a couple of pints after work. I'm leaving in 30 mins. I'll call you back then. Too noisy here".
So I would say a girlfriend that still wants to go out clubbing without me is at least demonstrating she isn't serious about our relationship. She is certainly prioritizing her single girlfriend's over me her new partner. And possibly still shopping around for someone better than me to cheat on me with.
Dump her!
They're not really ready for a relationship... they still want to ride the carousel and if they try to make a partner while doing that, they'll drag their partner through the mud as they randomly do what they'll tell him "was just a mistake."
Don't get gaslighted... they're either attention whores or they're just straight-up whores. Both of which will cheat eventually. So an attention whore is not all that much better. Both will bring drama, both will have random dudes you don't even know trying to start a fight with you, and both will betray you in the long run.
If a woman is actually happy... she has no need to go to a place that is specifically designed to be a pussy trap for other dudes.
Maybe their partners are angry, controlling men, seemingly thriving on passing judgment upon women. So as a form of escape, they go out and have fun, away from the toxicity of their deeply sexist, misogynistic boyfriends and husbands. Those same guys seem to be swamping this thread…
My wife wants to go out dancing? Usually she asks if I can with her 1) we both like going out 2) I’m the DD so instead of paying for a ride share, I’ll drive everyone around 3) it gets us outside and brings us closer together.
Maybe some of you who are so upset that your partner enjoys going out without you should take a look at yourselves.. People like having fun. It’s weird hating on others when they’re not doing you any harm, fellas
I would avoid them because they show to me that they have a different understanding of a relationship. For me that´s a behavior where they want to have the benefits of being in a relationship and the benefits of being single.
But that´s not how a relationship should work in my view because to me a relationship should a change in the behavior of both partners signaling the other one that you´re not trying to attract the attention of anyone else or sleep around...
Being in a relationship that cost you nothing is probably also no worth to you.
I would not and do respect women and girls who do that. When you’re young, rambunctious and single I can understand. But in a relationship with a guy where your girlfriends are a bad influence on her, nah. It’s funny certain girls/women will label guys as pricks, players, cheats, assholes. That if he was living a life of screwing other women, partying, etc. naturally a girl or woman who cares will say stop it. If he doesn’t most likely a woman or girl will end the relationship because he didn’t listen to her. A guy shouldn’t stick around for women to do that. I like girls and women who are more introverts, home bodied. It’s fine if they are independent but again the party life will more then likely lead to her cheating on him.
Do not respect**
It sounds like she's doing it more for the attention and her ego, than because she truly enjoys it. I always ask myself, if you're in a happy and healthy relationship, what are you possibly getting a club that you cannot get at home? Clubs are filled with certain types of people. Lol but that's just my take on it.
First off I love that exchange. What show is that? I’ll try to image search.
But yeah that’s basically two sides bargaining on expectations. And not having those talks before marriage is why divorce is so high.
I wouldn’t care if my wife goes to a club with her friends, I’d be more concerned about her safety than her cheating. Going to a club should be like going to a bar or restaurant with friends. And if my wife talks to a guy who hits on her, I know she’ll say she’s married. That trust is there.
That guy in that video though…man, what he demands versus what he probably offers…
I think its very naive to think someone is going to change to be just how someone wants just because they get into a "relationship". If someone was a flirty hoe that dresses like a prostitute before getting involved with you, they're going to continue to be so while they are with you and long after you're inevitably gone.
LOL.
While I agree that applies to many women out there it probably doesn't apply to every woman that goes to a club. There are way too many weak man out there that put up with this behavior from girls they are seeing. Or they are clubbers themselves. Regardless, more men need to learn to just walk away. Don't get into long term relationships and marriages with women who want to keep clubbing. Let them know this is a boundary to be with them and if they want to be a girlfriend they can't keep acting single and going out to clubs.
Walk away any time they want to go clubbing. Just move on and date someone else.
They're not relationship material. That's something a single person does, but someone who is in a relationship should not be doing that. And it's even more impactful for women because guys hit them up every day when they are out in public. And if you go to places specifically designed to meet people of the opposite gender, where a lot of guys go to get laid, and where infidelity happens a lot, you're putting your relationship at risk.
I feel you should be able to have a night out without your partner sometimes. I am sure men want to have their guy time and I am all for separate activities. But if they are constantly leaving you out of their plans and going to clubs alone that may be an issue. They should want their partner to come with them most times.
When a woman likes you she wants to go out with you, not without you. Every once and a while is normal, but we all know what happens in clubs. So if its more than every so often, it simply means she's not into you, or she's for the streets. Either way when this is the case, the relationship is dead in the water. Best to simply move on and learn female nature so you're not deceived again.
Depends on the context, behaviors, and frequency. Are they neglecting our relationship in order to go out and party? That's a problem. Are they being respectful of our relationship while they're at the club and staying within our agreed upon boundaries? Then that's fine. Are they not? Then that's a problem.
As long as they don’t cheat I see no problem with it.
Go out clubbing is a fun activity and shouldn’t be stopped just cause you are in a relationship. Also dressing sexy and stuff like that… I want to look good when I go out even if I don’t plan on picking up girls.
Well considering the girl in the video doesn't even have a brain.. I doubt she will ever get married because god... annoying much...
As for clubbing I think its fine I would love to go clubbing with my partner just to have fun together since I never went clubbing before 😅 No need to dress like a prostitute tho 😂
what a narrow-minded lot you are, I go out most Friday evenings, and we have a lot of laughs, yes there are some that may cheat, but I don't have to, I get all the sex I want, why don't you say the same about men, when I go out my husband has a few friends around, they quite often go away in the winter months to football matches
It's highly questionable, I wouldn't want to see that. Add drinking to it, and it's a "no way".
I've seen women do this at church dances, whom are married. Why... they like to dance, they like the stimulation, and maybe they aren't getting that at home and husband doesn't want to. So it may say something about whom she is with as well and this is a way to have her needs met.
In general, would take a lot of effort to maintain security/trust of relationship.
I am engaged, go to bars (not constantly) and wear revealing clothes. I don’t see the problem. I was the same person before I got taken and I am still being me. It doesn’t affect how faithful I am to my guy.
I think them type of women (and men) are attention seekers with low self-esteem
I bet the club scene is still the same when I was in my 20s.
It had nothing to do with finding a date or love.
It was all about getting LAID AND BEING A FUCK TOY
That was the goal then and I bet it's still the same today
See it maybe a different generation in the clubs, but clubs have always been a human meat market for booty calls.
Well I’m not a woman but I’m married but I still go out to bars and stuff with friends here and there. I go to gay clubs where men are hitting on me. My husband trusts me enough to know I would never cheat or give these dudes attention. I just like having fun and dressing cute with my friends.
@JustinTheGreat When you are married to the King, you not only can not do anything wrong, but you also cannot ever give the appearance of wrongdoing.
Going to clubs creates suspicion in your partner and also in others.
@JustinTheGreat Has there ever been any guys in those clubs who walked up to you and asked you to "Party Hardy" ?
@msc545 I know myself. I know my intentions when I go out. I know I would never cheat.
And he trusts me enough, he knows I wouldn’t. He’s known that I liked clubbing and partying before we even got together. There’s no suspicion here.
And if you ever do have suspicion toward your partner for any reason, why are you even with them tbh?
It is not okay to engage in any behaviour that is harmful to one's relationship, such as flirting with other men or cheating. Relationships are built on trust and respect, and actions that violate those principles can cause serious harm to the relationship.
If clubbing without their partner, is to flirt or in any way have intimin relations with others, then it's a deal breaker for most men.
Constantly means continuously; all the time. If you're "constantly" going clubbing, you'd have no time for a relationship. What are the details? Do you live together and see her every night, but one night a week she goes clubbing? Two? Three? Do you not live with her?
honestly I never really got whats so fun about clubbing. I did it once and already wanted to go after 30min.
I mean whats so cool about it? I like music but in stuffy dark room, cramped in with tons of drunk people, can't talk or have convos since its loud as hell and the drinks are expensive.
if she wants to be social, why wouldn’t she wanna just hang out with her girls at home or go out to dinner with them or something? girls go out to bars and clubs for attention and to misbehave. Girls try to act all sneaky and deny it but it’s the truth.
It actually doesn't matter -
If you somehow make them stay home, they will get resentful and cheat on you.
If you let them go out to clubs, they will find a guy they like better and cheat on you.
Don't get married.
It would depend on the partner. In the past i've enjoyed going out with the guys for a few drinks without my partner aswell since you can't be joined at the hip constantly and I'd expect whoever I'm with to want those same freedoms too. There is a point where it'd be taking the piss but I feel that goes without saying
Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me. Someone is being played a fool.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/RguYq6-lOaA
Sometimes girls just wanna have fun with their girl friends. Guys have to be confident with themselves and their partners. My boyfriend enjoys the sex when I get home drunk more ! Lol
If a woman does this, she is a toy to be played with. Not relationship-grade. Pump and dump her, and double wrap to be sure. She will have a high notch count.
Go for it. If that's what works for them, enjoy. As long as, that is, the partners are in sync. Mrs Snow goes out once a month; I'm fine with it. Even if it were more often, I'd still be fine with it.
They are promiscuous cheaters of course.
Don't expect them to change though. Just never date anyone that does that. They are not relationship material.
Occasionally is not a problem for me but constantly doing it makes for an unstable relationship
She doesn't respect the relationship/her partner or doesn't see it as something worth her full commitment.
Women are in a constant state of looking for cheap male attention, they are hypergamous by nature, and are always looking for better than what they have.
men should stay out of relationships, they do not benefit us.
It's a shit test and you're failing. Women like to be either shown off ie with their man... or home safe with zero responsibilities. If a woman wants to go out by herself to show herself off she's looking for the next man already.
That was fucking cringe. You can see both are clueless and uncomfortable and why neither will marry,
She is dating a beta, she doesn't respect him
It simply means an unsatisfied relationship.
Oh you mean the ones that dress like sluts and go to a local hook up spot for a “girls night out?” Totally legit. Those girls aren’t looking to cheat.
It all depends is their partner there are they making them jealous like is it one of those things because that’s fun with your partner
I would allow her to do whatever she wants as long as it doesn't have any impact on her responsibilities.
this is the future of all relationships. Cuckolding will be the norm. Give a woman freedom of choice and male harems will be formed.
I dont see anything wrong with that.
Spending some time with friends os good balance for a relationship.
that that relationship is only a glorified "situationship"
If it'd constant maybe the commitment life isn't for them.
I like it. Their being without their partners indicates they may be looking for a man to sexually satisfy them.
They lack commitment. From my view, being in a relationship is just for show in that scenario
if they feel that way may be not all is ok at home with the partner?
Clubbing? That is hilarious. There is no real relationship if this is occurring.
I think that their stupid. And using their partner
Makes me wonder why they want the relationship, at all
I would like to slap those bitches in the face and spit on their disgusting face!
Not a woman for me I don't like clubbing.
But whats wrong in that huhh
Constantly without partner that's a no for me
Always looking for an upgrade.
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