Do you think you could handle a relationship with someone that has severe mental illness like Bi Polar or PTSD?

[Finchie40]

Being married to a girl that suffered from severe Bi polar depression and PTSD was one of the hardest relationships I was ever in , One minute they love you and then next they hate you , they start pointing fingers at all your little flaws to make themselves feel better about themselves , they viciously attack you verbally and sometimes physically and switch words around to make you feel like this horrible person when really they are this horrible person , they will constantly play a victim and try to get others to side with them so others believe that you are in the wrong over them so they side with them , I tolerated this abuse for a long time because i thought I could handle it , understanding it wasn’t her that was talking , it was her sickness that she really had no control over , part of me wanted to walk away and say fuck this I can’t live this way , but I felt that was selfish of me , but is it selfish? Never really knowing how someone feels about you? I felt like I was a constant punching bag to her when she had these episodes , when I would walk away she come chasing me back and she would be all loving and sweet to me again , the girl I fell in love with in the first place Things would be great for awhile and then bam another demon episode but sadly it was hard to see it coming , I was only able to walk away from her when I found out she cheated on me , that was my final straw I feel like the only way I can trust in love again is if a girl sweeps me off my feet for once, Cuz I look back at myself and I know I am not perfect but the things I did for her and til he abuse I put up with her you would think she would of have me an award for tolerating her shit but all I got was my heart destroyed

[DizzyDesii]

I tried to be with one military dude who turned out to have ptsd. I was friends with another military guy who had ptsd. My sisters dad was in the military and has ptsd. Personally, its too much for me. My sisters dad was so mean to me even before the ptsd. The military ex would jump up every other night after nightmares assuming he was being attacked. The friend guy tried to kill himself twice and i risked my job twice to talk him down. I wish these men the best and pray they’re still with us but i cannot put myself in that position again

[HollyK21]

If they could manage it and had it under control then sure, but your ex sounds like she just let it bring the worst out of her and that’s too bad.

[Finchie40]

Yea it was to much of never knowing what you were going to come home to , whether they were happy or mad, always felt like walking on egg shells and always having a constant question mark over your head , Her sickness was equivalent to Narcissism after reading all this shit on narcissists I can honestly say I was married to one ,

[HollyK21]

Gosh, that’s definitely way too much! I’m glad you got out of it for sure.

[Guy13]

I know I could not because they require time and attention as they are fragile and I do not have it.

[Redstang88]

Tried before, I could handle it, she couldn’t

[Emerald55346]

It’s very hard they have to be really working on themselves/self awareness otherwise it’s a big no, abuse should not be tolerated because of someone’s illness

[TheSimFans]

Nope couldn’t handle with people some mental illness. I didn’t date guy with ptsd or bi polar but did date one guy that did have a depression. Didn’t want to get into a relationship.

[Finchie40]

He did you a favor , trust me you don’t want to deal with that shit , it’s like being in a relationship with Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde , Things will go great for a while then all of a sudden you are a piece of shit and they don’t want anything to do with you , when you finally walk away they come chasing you back saying sorry leaving a constant question mark over your head making you question yourself if they really like You or not or just like the convenience of you , You become a walking punching bag , they can’t love you the same way they want you to love them unless you tolerate their abusive behavior , it puts you in a place that feels like they are just stringing you along until something better comes along , am not making excuses for Myself but I had 2 of these relationships and the first one I ended up cheating on her because of the way she switched on me , it was psychotic and this happened during a time they really didn’t have studies on mental illness , I know cheating is wrong in every aspect and I asked myself as to why I cheated , sadly I feel like I was somewhat justified for my actions us I was not receiving the same as I was giving , I know no relationship is perfect but being with someone with severe depression and anxiety is not easy , Once I started researching about it , I felt bad for cheating on the first girl so I apologized to her and told her
To move on , she wanted me back but I couldn’t live with the fact that I cheated on her , Eventually I met another girl that I find out later suffered from depression as well, but I thought to myself I can handle it now , She ended up becoming my wife and I stayed faithful to her and she started doing the same shit the first girl did but even worse , But I held on for
The sake of my marriage and children , to come to find out she was cheating on me , so I will never date a girl again that has severe depression or Bi polar or PTSD ever again , My ass is going to check her medicine cabinet lol ,

[TheSimFans]

My last ex boyfriend did have depression and the other issue didn't start when we started dating and started relationships was starting to blame game after year. talking about ex girlfriend and giving ex girlfriend that meant for his ex girlfriend and I said I wanted to break up but he didn't want to. So I did text for and blocked all social media accounts. I did delete one Facebook account to create a new account and saw a friendship request by my last ex boyfriend and didn't have a press ignore.

[Finchie40]

Yes!!! Don’t you love how they talk about their exes like they were these amazing people , I went through the same shit

[LazerBean]

Not at all, I wouldn't even be interested in casually hanging out with someone like that.

[Finchie40]

That’s the thing , they don’t shine right away, the suck you in first and as time goes on it gets worse and worse

[LazerBean]

Oh I know. And that's why I've always been super judgmental when it comes to picking friends and dating.

[Agape93]

Yeap, have and am

[Finchie40]

Good luck with that shit

[Agape93]

Thanks

[Wise4myage]

No, probably not.