Let's say this woman makes 4x her boyfriend's salary, has a job where she can connect to a lot of important people, she buys the house, the cars, she assumes a position of leadership in the relationship...could men really handle a woman like that without feeling emasculated?
Honestly a lot of men would be fine. I’d be happy staying home, probably try to work for myself. The issue is not that she makes more. The issue is that women like this usually act like a bitch. She’s very argumentative, very masculine. Like she has to push it in your face. Especially if they get into an argument. The traits you described are usually attributed to men. Men don’t want to deal w another “man,” meaning their wife when they come home from work if she’s that type. In reality women say they would take care of a man but no they won’t. They may for a short period of time but in reality women really want to be the ones who are taken care of. They may like this boss bitch life for a while but when they realize they have to go to this job for the rest of their life. He’s living on easy mode. They start to resent him. Women tend to thrive in the femininity,. Very rarely do they like living in masculinity where they’re always having to fight, to go after things, to get in the trenches w other masculine people. Women tend to want a man who makes as much as they do or more. When it comes to money, women look at it as her money is her money, but his money is our money. Very little relationship that workout where the female is the leader of the household. Plus you know for sure when they argue that’s the main thing she’s going to throw at him. Well wtf do I need you for I paid for the house, the cats, etc. I can just replace you, you’re of no need to me.
if the man is mature and secure, then yes.
lol... possibly me :D just I don't believe in lidership in a relationship.
why what he can or cannot afford by money should define his masculinity? like... money is only a tool. If his confidence lays only in the number on his paycheck, we wouldn't even be together lol
He, just like ech of us, must be aware of his strengths and accept himself as he is, so his self-esteem is not ruined when someone is better than him. Because there is always someone better, the one way or another. So he must take his confidence and self-esteem from inside not from comparing to others.
There are myriad of things I can't do... so myriads of things for him to show he can if it's something he has to do lol
He can also develop his skills and get better specialized and better paid with time. I'm not his enemy ffs... we can support each other and not compare who is better
If women were to leverage economic power in the same way they do sex, I’d imagine many men would be frustrated and confused.
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I don't think too many women who earn 4x what their boyfriend makes are going to want to stick with him. Or even date him in the first place.
Your money never benefits us. We don't care how much you make. There comes a point of diminishing returns, too. 4 times what I make doesn't change my lifestyle any. I also don't care who you connect to. A job's a job. You connect to people for your job and do it well? Good on you. I don't care if you know celebrities or senators, they all die the same. I already have a house (a couple actually). If you want to buy some more, go for it. Why would I stop you? I also have a car.
Maybe at the lower end of the economic ladder that means something. If the guy worked at McDonald's or something making 25k and his wife made 100k maybe he'd be bothered by it. I don't know I've never made 25k. I do know that I've dated people with two more digits in their annual income than me and I thought less about that than I think about what's for dinner tomorrow night.
Is that what's going on? Your man is complaining... or... something... about how much you make? Then he should have made better life choices. Or is this just a hypothetical or what have you? I ask because if it is NOT hypothetical, perhaps with some more details I could formulate a more tailored answer, but by and large, for the most part those just aren't things I can see myself ever caring about.
It's honestly kinda disgusting that woman would even think any of that makes a difference.
But not really surprising. Most woman don't understand any of that stuff anyway. I guess a lot of guys don't either if I really think about it.
If I met a woman like that, it would only make me respect her more. There's nothing emasculating about a woman making more money, having better connections, owning the house or even calling the shots more times than not.
Whats emasculating is being with a woman who doesn't respect you or worse, a woman you don't have any respect for.
I meet many woman who act bombastic and develop egos from promotions and chips on their shoulders from never feeling properly acknowledged.
And they say things like "Men are intimidated by strong women like me and I know it for sure" and they try to hide how uncomfortable saying so makes them feel.
If you want to emulate what a respected man has, you need to stop thinking of masculinity as being curt. It's not about putting on a show, it's about weilding the power you have with honor and respect.
That's what makes a man a real man and it's what splits the difference between a woman who is respected and one who is avoided past some nice words.
1) It doesn't matter what you make because no man is ever going to depend on you. It's not how our mind works. We're more independent than women. So we'll live within our means and make decisions on what we make not based on what you make.
2) Who you consider important, isn't who we consider important. Men have our own goals in life and we pursue them regardless of what you are doing. The path we walk isn't the path you walk, thus contacts in your industry aren't really useful to what we are doing. They are nobodies in our life narrative.
3) If you're buying extra houses and cars it just makes you look like a spendthrift.
4) You earning more money isn't going to earn you a leadership position in a relationship. Like I said, men are more independent and thus aren't dependent on your purse strings. Therefore men can't be controlled by any money you earn.
They could, but why would they ever want to? No man wants to come home to more competition and drama - men want to come home to peace. Most men would much prefer to live in a 600 sq ft apartment with a feminine woman who brings him peace than in a 20,000 sq ft mansion with a woman who destroys his peace. No amount of money is worth dealing with that, and it would be a constant fight.
Boss babes and "strong, independent women" are simply NOT attractive to most men. They are too masculine, too career focused, and they believe that their money makes them "better." To men, a woman's money means NOTHING. We don't want it or care about it. What we care about is all of the things such a woman will NOT be able to bring to a relationship, which is why such women are not desirable.
Feminism has taught you to BECOME the man you desire, which is exactly the opposite of what would make you attractive to those very same men.
A man absolutely could however no man will choose thar. A effeminate male could not and would be fine with it. The amount of money a woman earns means nothing. Her buying a car or house also means nothing. A leader is a leader. Women very rarely make good leaders because women very rarely can make good decisions under extreme pressure. Basic biology. Soon as shit hits the fan she will always look to the man to make the best choice. However and this is a big thing. No man wants a career woman. They make ungodly awful girlfriends and even worse wives. Career women or as you say "powerful" women generally end up single for a reason. That reason is no one wants a career woman
I personally don't care I've dated women with better prospects then myself before. doesn't bother me it doesn't take away from my place as the man of the relationship nor does it make me inferior or feel inferior.
I just simply don't care about a women's success or lack of it. It is completely irrelevant to me. So long as she can pay her bills that's really all I care about finically on her end.
And if a woman ever made the fact that they made more money an issue or they didn't respect me because of that or or anything of the sort I'd simply leave them. It's their loss not mine.
It's not what she makes or that she has more assets than me that would be the problem. The problem I would have would be if she tried to use that to manipulate me when we disagree.
For example, let's say she makes me upset about something and I bring it to her attention. I do not want to deal with the mentality of "Oh well I have all this so if you do not do what I say then you can kick rocks". I want us to be able to constructively talk about things without the threat of punishment. If she pulls a move like that, then it is more like a parent/child relationship than a true equal partnership.
I can do that just fine. I will not feel negatively in any way, shape or form imaginable or unimaginable.
I'm not gonna fuss about it unlike the other "pussy men coated as a tough guy" will.
That doesn't mean I will give up my own authority over myself. The last thing I want is someone to "dominate/control" me or certain aspects of my life.
But that's nothing I have to worry about. As long as there are healthy boundaries being respected.
If a man were to feel emasculated in this case it would be 100% understandable because it's like he's just dating another man. No man would want to be in a relationship where he feels emasculated, inferior and like he needs to fight to be a man.
Yes there are many men who have a fragile masculinity and they let anything make them feel like less of a man. But the woman you described wouldn't let the man feel like a man in fact it sounds like a challenge or something.
Also I want to add, it is great for a woman to have her own thing going on and to be independent and so on, but at the same time it's also important to learn how to be a woman in a relationship, relax and let the man be the man. I promise you this will save you from low quality experiences... you really don't want to be with an effeminate man.
Depends on the man. Some men do feel a bit emasculated because society always tells everyone that men are the ones that have to provide for their families (but if you ask me there’s nothing to feel emasculated about). Other men might not care.
Honestly, 9/10 times, it's not the man that can't handle that. It's the woman. The man probably won't put up much of a fuss about it... unless the woman rubs it in his face in some way. shape or form, then I can see why he would have a problem with it.
No not if she rubs it under his nose every time and tries to control him. A man can handle a woman making more than him as long as there is a healthy fundament for a relationship in that both have invest in the relationship. But only a submissive or not confident guy will stay in a relationship where she tries to control and be dominant over him.
As long as he can feel that his is bringing something irreplacable to the relationship, then, yes.
But I think knowing what is irreplacable to someone else is hard and THAT may not be a something tangeble, which can be hard to accept because then they need to also accept within themselves they they are enough as they are.
It's a hard thing for many geniune people, but there are plenty of takers and fakers out there that wouldn't mind having a sugarmommy. Be careful out there..
u my ex's business made x3 times mine did... but that's it, and that wasn't a problem
"buying everything and leading every thing" wasn't a thing though... we were in an adult relationship... not a parent/child one, lol...
Women couldn't even handle being in that position in the relationship.. Lmao.. Maybe having a better job is okay, but being a leader in the relationship? Only thing that would drive her is her extreme ego until she gets bored and cheats with a more dominant man..
That isn't powerful for one. If you think that is what power is or how power dynamics work you are in for a surpise. You are asking if a relationship works when gender roles are reversed. No, it doesn't work in the long run with two mentally healthy people.
I'd be fine because I can take care of myself and don't need someone financially. That said, it's only a matter of time for men to be more likely in these situations because women have been in the workforce for decades. We're not always going to make more than every woman.
That said I could handle it if we really loved each other. Money is important but not everything in a relationship.
The men i have dated have shown they can't handle that. They get intimidated and start competing.
Most guys can't handle a woman like this which is called an alpha female. The only guys that would be with this type of woman would be an alpha male.. someone who has his own money and life etc. He would be able to understand and respect her.
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