Do "lanes" in dating actually exist?

[Dreday906]

When I was younger, I used to think that the concept of "lanes" in dating was closer to myth than reality. I thought that as long as someone had confidence or a respectable character, he or she can land anyone regardless of level of attraction or social status. After years of dating and hearing the testimonies of others, I can't really say I believe that anymore. I do now see why people say you should stay in your "lane" if you truly want to be successful in the dating world. These "lanes" are generated by differences in status, attraction, style, occupation, culture, and even race (some people still shy away from interracial dating for reasons that go beyond racism itself).

Unfortunately, a man's less than appealing looks or nearly barron bank account will get him rejected no matter how well he presents himself. The sweetest woman in the world will get rejected because of her love handles. But, as long as they date people on their "level", they'll find love eventually. All of this is due to the superficial nature of human beings (and I say this knowing that people are entitled to the pursuit of their preferences). Perhaps my perspective on the dating game is wrong. Maybe it's more driven by cynicism than actual reality. What say you on this matter? Is the dating game truly an even playing field or can most people only truly succeed in their own "lanes"?

[FictionalCharacter]

I get what you’re saying and I do stay in my lane cause of race and culture differences. As I posted a question about it:Do you surround yourself with toxic people because you had a toxic upbringing/lifestyle?

[Starrisunset]

More often than not, I say you're right. I think there are rare circumstances when someone can date someone "out of their lane." But it doesn't come along often.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course they exist and it is up to us to enforce them. I have no problem spitting in a girls face if she approaches me without being attractive

[Anonymous]

Although there are some people who don’t discriminate, these lanes definitely do exist in general. Attractive people tend to gravitate towards other attractive people. Wealthy people towards other wealthy people, professional people to other professionals, etc. I think people do have to develop realistic expectations when dating to avoid disappointment. I think it’s human nature to divide into certain class structures based on looks, status, success, money, etc.

[iboobs]

Her body language is saying no though