Is online dating still real dating?

[Anonymous]

We are 7000 miles away. He’s in his early 40s.

Met through a dating app, have been talking for 2 months.
He’s been texting everyday. We have had 4 video calls, at least one every week, all initiated by him.

He has called me baby, tells me I am very cute.

Texts me every morning and always asks me about my day and plans. Has talked about things he wants to do with me in future.

Plans to see me in summer.

I don’t know what we are, or if we are anything yet, but I feel like we communicate a lot. Almost like we are in a relationship.

He has told me what he wants to do when we go on a date.

So, are we online dating or what are we?

[coachTanthony]

No such thing as real online dating. If two people can't see each other on a weekly or monthly basis than that isn't dating. I find it funny that all the people who want to date someone who lives 7k miles away are always broke. If they aren't broke then go jump on a plane once a week and properly date the person.

[Anonymous]

Online dating is not a real thing. Now if you meet someone online to date in real life with the mindset of getting married to that person, different story. I personally wouldn't do online dating, I need to be intimate and communicative. Now sure, things could change if you see him and you feel he's the one and move to his home country. Just factor in if you can find work in that country for yourself, a woman has to make sure she has all her priorities straight. You are an adult female so I won't bash you for talking to a man in his 40s. I hope it works out if you both love each other and feel a connection. All I ask, and this is from a guy's POV, do not drag it out where it leads to no where. Some people nowadays are so heartless they don't value or care about the other person's life or time spent and people won't get that time back. Beyond that I hope my post helps.

[Asker]

You mean, not to lead him on?

[Opinion Owner]

yeah basically, and vice versa. I was talking to a girl for 10 months and I was annoyed where she followed me on social media, she gave me her #, she suggested doing things outside, we live in the same city (20 mins away from each other), we are the same religion, oddly enough my brother inlaw's family are some what related to her side because of his last name, we did meet and have a nice date, we talked on the phone a lot, messaged on WhatsApp and social media, i'm a talkative guy who can make others laugh so i have a good personality I believe. Women and girls I feel like have to over think is he the right guy, does he have this and that but I can't change a girls mind if she's flip flopping and doesn't know what she wants or is stubborn. So with this person, both of you should be clear and direct on life goals, and other stuff.

[Asker]

I hope it won’t be him, who’s leading me on… Because honestly, he’s much more successful and good looking than I am. I can see he could have any models he wants.

I am just 5/10.

He has been very attentive to me and texts me everyday and we call weekly which is nice for a man this busy.

I just hope he won’t give me wrong hopes and he wants the same things as I do.

[DumbonitaAnna]

Oh my gosh, girls! So, like, is online dating still real dating? Like, I mean, it's like, super popular, right? I mean, everyone is doing it, right? But, like, is it really dating? I mean, like, when you meet someone online, is it like, really real, right? I guess, like, it's still dating, right? But, like, is it different? I mean, like, it's not like going to the movie theater or something, right? But, like, you can still get to know someone, right? I mean, it's like, kind of a new way of dating, right? But, like, is it still real dating? I don't know, girls! But, like, it's still dating, right? Oooh, I just found a new fashion idea on Instagram! Bye, girls!

[Anonymous]

there's online dating, to meet people and then meet up in real life and decide to start a real relationship... and then there's... texting someone 7000 miles away for months on end and having no real end goal and no real dates... i just don't see how they can progress because of how far away he is, etc... all things that you really need to talk to him about.

[Avicenna]

It's not real until he shows up and you see if you have personal chemistry.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes it is. I was in a 2 year relationship with a guy online, he was my first boyfriend he came to see me and then I went to see him for 6 months. Then later moved to where he lives. We were together 8 years.

[Rapport]

Yeah, it is, my girlfriend and I lived a thousand miles apart at one point and now we live together.


Met online and everything.

[Rapport]

in my opinion, online dating can work as long as there’s a realistic end goal of it not being online anymore.

[loveslongnails]

You're not dating, you're living in a fantasy world. The purpose of dating is either just to have fun enjoying each other's company without any desire for a serious relationship, OR, to determine if you WANT a serious, committed relationship with said person. What you're doing being 7,000 miles apart, is neither of those things.

[At3mis24]

No, because some men or women lie about their height or weight, their job or experiences, that's why I'm not on Tinder or others like that

[BoobMan]

No. "Online" is just how you meet. "Dating" is done in person. If you're not in person, you're not dating.

[douride2]

in my opinion online dating doesn't exist. It's not a real thing.

[dudeinohio]

Online dating is certainly not dating. There is no physical connection.

[whistlingwh0res]

Online is flooded by sugar babies both female and male sugar babies

[slatyb]

It's not real without a plan to meet.

[laly520]

not dating
u need to meet him irl

[sheikalana]

To me is only real when you see them in person.

[Nikki1989]

No, not even close.

[legalboxers]

my ex was in Fla

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[KrakenAttackin]

Laughable.