Are dating leagues real?

[Anonymous]

Like you see hot women dating normal guys. But I’m not sure as I’m not gay.

Dating leagues are real

They are not real

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6 mo

I’m talking about physical appearances not so much financial status

[dynamicyandere]

A person is valued for more than just their looks.


There’s like that superficial 1-10 scale that many people use to rate LOOKS and that’s all.


But, imagine a different 1-10 scale that is comprehensive.

That scale would include things like charisma, personality, values, chemistry, confidence, maturity — all these other things that are intangible but highly important.


People who are good at choosing partners use a more comprehensive scale.


So what you see, outwardly, when you see an attractive person with an average-looking person, is not the full picture.


You can’t see the comprehensive scale that the two of them were using to evaluate whether or not they were a good match.


Also, everyone’s comprehensive scale is different.


One person may value one trait more than another trait.


The fact is that a good match is when two people both see each other as a great match in each other’s eyes based on their unique comprehensive scales, that only they can see.


So dating leagues can be somewhat real in terms of these comprehensive scales, like a guy or a girl could be highly rated on most people’s scales (think perfect wife or husband material).


But, that comprehensive rating definitely goes far beyond just looks and outward appearances.

[zeitgeist057]

Dating leagues are not real.

However, you will notice there is a split in the opinion, roughly 50/50. Which means there are about half the planet (or at least half of GaG, not sure if it's a representative sample) that think that they are real.

Reality is in part made up of what people believe. What I'm saying is, if there is a girl who thinks dating leagues are real, and furthermore, she decides she is "out of your league" for whatever reason like you don't meet her financial, height, or physical appeal requirements, then technically, in a way, she really is "out of your league".

Though someone else could just put it in simpler terms and say she's not attracted to you.

But really, there is no such thing, other than in people's imaginations. Either someone finds you attractive, or doesn't. It doesn't put you into a league to have a greater or lesser percentage of people attracted to you, and it doesn't make you only eligible to other people with a similar percentage. Anyone can happen to fall for anyone else, it's just a combination of various factors.

I would also add that social status does play into how attractive you are to many people. We are social animals, and we tend to pay attention to what other people pay attention to.

[KC-Sunbeam]

They're real, despite the seeming split in opinion. And I can't understand why farmers & slaves are grouped together on the same rung in your ancient Egyptian hierarchy.

[zeitgeist057]

@KC-Sunbeam I don’t know about the Egyptian hierarchy, either. It was just an image that popped up when I was looking for social class images.

And yes, I understand that roughly 50% of users, including you, believe leagues are real. Your subjective belief does not make it an objective truth.

[zeitgeist057]

(I kind of cover that in my original answer already)

[4ngelic]

since you said lookwise, i think basically yea but there's a cheatcode. like you can get higher than you look if your a dude and you're popular (if you're a teen) or rich/famous (if you're an adult). you can date higher also if you embody like a physical fetish for someone even if your not conventionallu cute, provided your face and stuff isn't too bad usually (like how some fat girls can get a hot guy if he has a fetish for them). anyways i think usually its hot with hot, average with average, ugly with ugly

[silyt_ghoest]

eh. hot people do typically date hot people but at the same time all that matters is wether or not they’re funny and you can see yourself at 59 coming home from work to them with grey hair and still kissing and cuddling them and shit.

[coachTanthony]

beautiful people love beautiful people I should know because I am beautiful.

[XingQi]

Yes, here are plenty of examples:

• Suppose I am a 21 year old athlete, virgin male with a master's degree in engineering. Would I want to settle down with an uneducated woman, in debt, holding a high bodycount, and 20 years older than I? Of course not.
• Suppose I am an 18 year old female fashion model with millions of dollars on me. Would I settle for another 18 year old high school dropout male with a criminal history and tendency to cheat on his partners? Heck no.
• Suppose I am a single self-sufficient (financially and food-wise) 36 year old man with millions of dollars and an athletic body. Would I want to settle for an obese woman that's worked all her life working minimum wage jobs? No!!
• Suppose I am a 70 year old male tycoon with mansions and billions of dollars. Would I settle for an 18 year old girl that only wants to use me for inheritance? Heck no!
• Suppose I am a successful 30 year old woman with a PhD, working as a surgeon while running a business. Would I settle for some obese 36 year old man that holds a horrible credit score, fails to take care of himself, dresses shabby, and has an alcohol problem? Nope.

In my opinion, leagues are a combination of persona, work ethic, attitude, achievements, education, skillset, lifestyle, morals, and anything that contributes to one's character.

[Nikki1989]

You have a lot of growing up to do.

[XingQi]

@Nikki1989 Alright then, so explain how I am wrong. I would love to hear your reasoning otherwise.

[XingQi]

@Nikki1989 If you will answer, please respond to the following scenario:

Would you date a guy your age that dropped out of high school, holds no education, works a minimum wage job, has no incentive to get a better job despite being in debt, divorced 3 times, and is obese?

If I am wrong, please explain why.

[Nikki1989]

Minimum wage? When I met my husband, he was unemployed.

If anyone thinks they are in a league, that is something they invented for themselves.

[XingQi]

@Nikki1989 The question is, were you willing to date a guy like mentioned in this scenario? If so, did you hold a much higher education and occupation than him? Plus, I have no idea if your husband was willing to aim for a better education or job here.

Also, I never said I was in a league. I am defining "league" here as "standards." Everybody has their own.

[KC-Sunbeam]

Thumbs up to what you said. However, I'd make two corrections: Someone with a master's degree in engineering would be at least 24. And sadly, some women are drawn to men with a criminal history.

[XingQi]

@KC-Sunbeam You are right, but there are some who that just that talented. ;)

[genericname85]

Depends on what you mean when you say league. it's a vague word. bascially everyone has their own set of preferences and what they can bring to the table. and people differ by these things. so usually people individually determine a range for acceptable partners for themself that is not necessarily a hard classification with a clear cut off but more like a vague range of acceptable options. and different people have differnet ranges.

so if you mean that if you say "league", i'd say that's accurate.

[Jdodkfndosn]

Dude, let's get real here for a second, women can look at another woman and immediately know how hot she will be seen my the majority of men. Looks are not really in the eyes of the beholder to the majority. It only applies to on a personal level when someone lusting over another. So, just like women can identify the top looking other women, men can do the exact same thing. Want an example? If we're dating a girl you see her chatting and laughing with some dude and they seem totally engaged with each other, would you get jealous if the dude looks like Screech from Saved By the Bell? Probably not. But, what would, or would it be far more likely, that you'd experience jealous emotions seeing the Tom Cruise in Top Gun, Brad Pitt in Fight Club, or whoever the hell is the teenage girls heartthrob these days.

[Jdodkfndosn]

So prefacing your post with "I'm not gay" is silly and makes you seem as if you lacking in confidence

[ZackBan]

Nah it's not black and white enough to be real.

Your "league" is just the people who find you attractive and these people can be good looking themselves or bad looking.

There's no 1 to 1 relationship where the good looking only date the good looking

[Unit1]

Yup. Women avoid me much better than they avoid the COVID19 or the good single men. I have absolutely no idea why I am that low on a league. I ain't ugly and i ain't fat. It is a complete mystery. I may never know.

Oh wait. I don't have instagram 😁 and I'm broke and gambling with swing trading.

[Starrrboy]

Yeah leagues are real I don't know why people get so sensitive about it lol.. if they weren't then you can't reject anyone who ask you out and you don't even have to pick someone for a date / relationship.. and yeah you can see some blokes with hot girls and I also see really good looking guys are usually with a very mid girlfriend because well, it's not a like a rule or something lol.. You date who you're attracted to, period.

[normalice]

They are real in the same sense that money is: real to the extent we agree they are real. Usually, when people talk of leages they are talking about class. And yet the children of lords have been banging the servants for thousands of years.

[Anemone978]

They are very, very real if you don't notice leagues it is because you are on the high end of it.. When you are on the low end like me you will feel and see it HARD in your life.

[ZackBan]

In what universe are you "low end"?
You're living in a cage that you built for yourself.
Leagues aren't real, attraction is, and anyone can generate attraction.

[Nirmroth]

No maybe its bec I am a guy but I see a lot of pairs were the guy is arguably less attractive than her or even. That a guy is going out with a girl thats less attractive than him, I have never seen.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes they are real. For women, I’d say it is predominantly looks based as to what defines her league.
For men it’s a amalgam of looks, money/lifestyle, and personality.

[Adaeva]

Hot girls never date average guys. They may date average-looking guys but they have money or other factors that set them apart from average guys.

[Dela_99]

That’s not even remotely true

[exitseven]

Baseball leagues are real, bowling leagues are real, the Animal Rescue League is real. There are 20,000 leagues under the sea but dating leagues are not real.

[Jdodkfndosn]

Well as coach Anthony says, they ain't out of your league, just out of your price range

[exitseven]

@Jdodkfndosn yes, there are indeed price ranges. Money is the great equalizer

[Nefertity112]

@Jdodkfndosn looks matter to a certain extent to women too
Unless she has REALLY big money issues and would take any guy who has money, even if he looks like Gollum.
But let’s say a hot girl like Adriana Lima (just an example) who has the choice between an equally hot man with resources or an ugly man with just as much resources, she’d probably pick the hot one that matches her caliber.

[exitseven]

@Nefertity112 I think personality plays a bigger role than you think. I did not get such a sweet wife on my looks and certainly not my money.

[rienna888]

Yeah I believe to an extent. However My dad is good looking guy but my mom is short and kind of chubby, but he stayed with her for more than 40 years and never left her. Also supports her 100% financially.

[DaySpring]

No, not to me, if others want to buy into an idea that defines some as inferior to others that is fine but I won't.

[A_Bell]

Many young attractive people don't age well and awkward young people sometimes swan.

Basing worth on looks is stupid.

[Blueeyes81]

Generally speaking, yes. There are always exceptions and some body knows somebody who's cousin is dating a super model but looks like the 2nd guy from the left on the evolution scale. For everyone else it mostly applies.

[bornnoutisdee]

What you find ugly may not be to another person
Leagues are subjective.

[Fireguy17]

Many women are way less hung up on looks like many men are.
To them it is more about their personality.

[slatyb]

Statistics say yes. People tend to marry others similarly situated.