Can you give me a example of a red flag in a relationship?

[WowwGirl]

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Mass female "friends"

[Fireguy17]

always on her phone, way too many selfies, can't finish a sentence without having to look at her phone...

[worldscolide]

Dishonesty.. Hiding one's phone.. They suddenly become feminist.

[WowwGirl]

Lol...

[Guy13]

I see you made it to the table. Was he 6 foot or 5’9 when he stood up to greet you? Self-deluded

Feeling and first introduction words “I saw you from across the room and I was not sure if that was you. Now that I’m close, it certainly is not you.”

“oh yeah, nice abs or small waist” in my case.

Great, silky smooth texter is really intense quiet starer

Look 👀 at me in the eyes when you speak to me

My Mom and I are on the outs…

[Jdjfjcjj]

Sure, here are some you can pickup quickly from a female:

they say that all their previous ex's were narcissistic and they were all the source of the relationship failing,

they talk bad about everyone to you (theyll do the same to you)

daddy issues,

had little to no long-term relationships,

independent woman,

they tell you,

they say all their friends are guys because they get along with them better / women are bitches,

they smoke cigs and are a heavy drinker,

they go bar hopping constantly,

have excessive IG followers,

all their pictures are selfies of them in exotic countries,

tattoos in certain places,

chokers,

colored hair,

short hair,

admits to cheating in the past,

they druggies

they won't stop talking about an ex, still friends with them,

They ask for something everytime the contact you

[Bricealan]

Met a very pretty woman at a "Parents without Partners" meeting, and we hit it off right away. She had a 12 year old daughter that I never met. The GLARING red flag was that on the first date, she drank too much, and that eventually, after a few months, caused me to break off with her. I could not get her to join a 'program"
A year or so later, she called me in the middle of the night, and said, (she was living in Florida then) she had been involved in a drunk driving accident and nearly killed her daughter... She was then in a program... Saddest thing to happen in my early dating experience.

[Saarr]

- Jealousy, like the kind of jealousy where they want to know where you are 24/7
- Drinking/smoking excessively
- Love bombing
- Being narrow minded/ not accepting anything that's not strictly 'normal'
- Not listening to my physical boundaries / being pushy
- Running away from difficult talks/ avoiding heavy subjects

[Miristheiss]

Hiding phone, putting it down when you come in.

Wanting to go out drinking and clubbing while in a relationship.

Posting tons of revealing pics online and having tons of opposite sex followers they DM and talk to all the time.

They do not communicate well and get passive aggressive when something is bothering them and they punish or lash out instead of talking about what is on their mind.

[Grond21]

And unwillingness or inability to solve conflict, significant addiction that is not acknowledged, narcissism, manipulation, lack of acknowledgment and attempts to heal trauma, lack of honesty, no understanding of the different roles necessary to a healthy relationship, Etc

[admles]

Honestly, no respect for privacy ie demanding passwords etc

Don't trust me, don't date me.

So glad my wife (married almost 3 months) and I know how to trust and respect each other, and while we know each other's phone unlock code, we NEVER snoop.

Another MASSIVE red flag for me is religion - don't want it in my life, don't need it in my life, and won't date someone otherwise. Again, I'm lucky in that my wife was raised in a cult (Jehovas Witness) and rejected it and left as soon as she was old enough and is now an Atheist like myself.

[Tenebrae_mentis]

Rudeness to staff at restaurants or stores. If they usually treat people like crap, that's just a vision of how they'll treat you when the "new" feeling wears off in the relationship and they stop being on their best behavior.

[Effably]

Would you still love me if I was a worm?

No but in all due seriousness, any unwillingness to tackle problems together is probably a good umbrella rule for many red flags.

[Jennz6]

The guy is married and he didn’t let you know…. 🚩

[WowwGirl]

That's like a parade not a flag man

[zagor]

Needle marks. Angry outbursts towards TV commentators.

[WowwGirl]

Really good answer

[WowwGirl]

Holy crazy shit

[Alex8736]

someone who never answers their phone but only texts

[WowwGirl]

Huh.

[Alex8736]

meaning poor communication skills

[WowwGirl]

I see

[Heterosketero]

Anyone still working through a oast relationship. They will hurt you without even meaning to. Unless they mean to...

[Anpu23]

My biggest red flag is trying to move forward too quickly, just met and talking about the picket fence or our kids... <shudder>

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

When one lacks communication

[Pyrofox]

Failure to communicate when something goes wrong and only brings it up to drag that partner down a peg further when conflicts begin.

[LiamJHayden]

Being undeservedly rude to wait staff. I hate that and will dump her on the spot.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

If they tell you they'll kill themselves if you leave them. They actually might

[SnowedIn]

Only talks about sex or exes.

[Mangospacho]

She brings her parole officer to the date.

[In_Trance]

friends with their ex

[Agape93]

Controlling behavior

[strlb]

Too many to list. Anything specific?

[JesseJayNeak]

Promiscuity