How do I choose between 3 equally good men?

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zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

You might consider polyamory, aka ethical non-monogamy. The idea that a few other answers have that "you don't really love any of them" is a narrow minded perspective promoted by the monogamous paradigm. I think it's actually a sign of a greater ability to love that you see the goodness and beauty in more than one man. So the question is really why limit yourself to the mainstream notions of love and dating when you've found yourself three good men?

How do I choose between 3 equally good men?

That's like having the excellent luck to find three beautiful and valuable gems on a dive to the bottom of the ocean, but tossing two of them back in the ocean.

If you are insistent on monogamy, then go ahead and "throw away" two options either at random or through some series of tests, or just the test of time. But whatever path you choose, realize that the relationship isn't just going to be based on which man is "best", but also the time and energy you (and the man/men of your choosing) invest in the relationship.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Well only you can really answer the question..

I'd create a series of vital questions that are really important to you , and have it answered in the form of a resume submitted by all three , then begin an indepth interview process , everyone starts on 1 , then create your shortlist to 2 individuals , from there you move into the final sector from there , issue marks for appearance , intellect , financial ( or whatever topics you decide count - prospects etc ) then from there come out with a final choice , begin and tell him he will be reassessed at the end of 30 days. This method should produce the best possible result , the same way they select school captain.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You choose neither of them because if you really loved one of them this wouldn’t have been an issue. You wouldn’t need to think about it and certainly mot ask about it.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

If you have to think about it, then none of them. If you have the right one, you will know.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I love how questions like these are always focused on the selections, rather than the person who actually matters; the selector!

The answer to your question has nothing to do with your options. You’re going to have to start by looking inward. Forget about the men and ask yourself what you need to feel as a woman. Put differently; which of the men genuinely emotionally nourishes you and makes you feel like the kind of woman you want to be?

If you are painfully honest with yourself, you’ll find your answer there.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

How do they make you feel? Does one stand out more? Try weighing a list of the pros and cons of each of them. Figure out the one that's best for you. Whilst the other poster suggested ethical non monogamy or polyamory, might make them not be interested. I know if I were one of the three and that was brought up, I'd be out.

Adam1978 · Answer

Add more parameters until they aren't equally good. And you will know who is the better choice.

Adaeva · Answer

If they are truly equal, it makes no difference so select the first man that asks.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Get to know them better, because they're never equally good. But only as time passes will you be able to tell.

serious · Answer

It seems only you can answer your question.

Moose304 · Answer

Sometimes a choice is but an illusion. I don't think there is more I can add!

magiusX26 · Answer

so in other words you view each as an option. my opinion, that makes you unworthy of all 3.

lottiebannotie · Answer

The one you have known the shortest amount of time as the other two clearly didn't tick your boxes even subconsciously

David_Kek · Answer

You pick the one that's ok with being treated like some contestant on a quiz show.

Luopio27 · Answer

Lucky draw the names from a hat. One will win and others will loose.

weysally · Answer

keep them there with you

LiamJHayden · Answer

Eeny, meeny, miny, moe

EaterPeter · Answer

Ask them all to tell you a bed time story 😉

Staximus · Answer

What are you, the town bicycle?

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