I know i don't feel anything yet but I hope I won't go back to that same problem because my alarm bells are ringing with how close we are. Is there a way to avoid liking a close friend? He really messages me everyday and keeps on asking updates from my life. He also told me he enjoys my company. He is very transparent with me and told me he has commitment issues. I don't like to go back to the same trauma. Any advise?
This happened to me too. Only I was the guy hoping that friends would lead to more. I don’t know that he is but I do know that the key is in communication. You need to sit down and tell yourself what boundaries you want and you need to stick to those like a life line. I mean your best bet is possible to actualy end it. Toxic relationships are so easy to fall in to and if you are seeing red flags he will hurt you. But if you really want to keep it and try to work it out then boundaries is your only defense.
You said this was a close friend which leads me to the unfounded conclusion of a covert Bestie type relationship where in his mind he has been dating you from day one while you took him for friendship intentions. This sort of scenario is why I will not date a woman with male friends as there is some underlying attraction or they would not be friends to begin with. Who is friends with someone they do not like or who is not attractive.
I hate to say this darling but you will probably end up falling for him if you don't cut back on the communication. It happened to me and while I'm glad it did, it sounds like you wouldn't want that to happen where you two end up together.
He says he has commitment issues but to me it's just a front since you put him in the friend zone. He's probably looking for any chance in.
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Commitment issues? That's him trying to make you think he is the decider of what ends up happening. I don't know many guys who will message a woman every day, inquire how her day went everyday... And giving you all this attention. If sex is not currently involved, this proves even more that he wants you.
Wait what is the trauma? You dated a friend before and it ended badly?
Then stop or slow down the texting and get some distance
Well, if you don't like him then you should make it clear to him and stop messaging him.
Advice? Sure, just friendzone him. Give him The Speech if you have to. Men hate that by the way.
Just be clear with him
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