My boyfriend is living with me for 4 months, bu he doesn't help me financially. How can I ask him to pay for rent? (Page 2)
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Just like you asked total strangers for advise. Hey boy, you live here you will need to pay rent. Don’t be a push over. Tell him the terms for living with you. If you never made terms and just decided this was ok. Then it’s going to be hard to restructure the unwritten, non verbal rules. But that’s on you to do that.
HE DOESN'T HELP YOU AT ALL? WHAT ARE YOUR AGES? NUMBER ONE, NUMBER TWO DOES HE HAVE A JOB AT LEAST? A REAL MAN SHOULD BE PAYING AT LEAST HALF, (BUT OFFER TO PAY ALL) THE BILLS.. I'D BE REAL QUICK TO LEAVE THAT SITUATION GIRL... HE SHOULD HAVE OFFERED TO HELP YOU...
Ask, but you might have a tough situation depending upon the laws where you live. Where I am after 30 days a person technically has residency rights and you have to go through an eviction if you want him or her out if the person refuses to pay. While it is easier if the person lives in the same home you live in, it can still be costly and if you decide to do a lockout you could be running afoul of the law and get hit with harsh financial penalties.
Anybody living under the roof has to do their part. If this guy doesn’t understand that he isn’t worth your time.
I feel like it's time for you to start helping with the rent. Starting (name a date) you will need to pay half. I love you and I'm glad we had this talk!
Its simple, you simply tell him he needs to pay for half of the rent and produce a reciept.
If he refuses, tell him that he has to move out.
Thats how that works.
I mean definitely should have been mentioned before moving in. But at the same time , how is the guy mooching without a problem? I myself would have mentioned it, I would offer. I would never be able to not do or say anything. This "boyfriend" seems kinda like a jerk.
Being a guest stops after the first week or two. Just come out point blank ask for assistance with utilities and groceries. Food is quite expensive and so are some of the utilities. You're never ending guests should help contribute. The only place that nobody's going to say anything is if you're a parent to that person that's moving back in. It still doesn't hurt to ask for assistance with the groceries and some of the utilities that they may use.
You should have discussed this with him before you let him move in with you.
Start by having that discussion now. With him. If he's not willing to do that, then kick him out. If he starts harassing you, break up with him.
Honestly, I would not move in together without discussing it. If some exceptional case was the reason you all had to move in together, I would place a deadline on that situation. When the deadline comes, they either start helping pay or move out and maintain a distant relationship for the moment
Ask him? How?
Pay or bounce. like seriously?
He can be your man but he will have to live elsewhere.
Does he contribute in other ways to make up for his fiduciary deficiencies?
Like why do you feel wrong or bad about this? You need to address that within yourself.
Just give me your address. I can use someone to pay rent for me so I can freeload too. Reminds me of some case from Judge Judy as this seems to happen a lot.
If you are both on the rental agreement, then make the Landlord right him on the agreement with showing what he should be paying. He should not be living there scott free if you let him go on things won't get better.
I would recommend having an adult conversation highlighting the costs associated with having your own place and that since he has moved in (which I assume you want/appreciate) you would like to share the rent / costs….
This is a conversation that should've happened way before he moved. He should be ashamed of living under your roof without contributing. He needs to pay and you need to tell him from now on you want to share bills.
Is his name on the lease? If not, let him know that he has two options. Find his own place or get a job to contribute to rent, otherwise he will be removed from thr apartment
I mean, he can get out if he's not down to pay rent... This guy sounds like a scrub, and if he's not paying rent, then he needs to cook, clean, do your laundry, drive you to/from work, etc.
For sure, if she moved in I wouldn't expect her to pay half if she made less than me. I would work something out with her that it is proportionate to our pay cheques.
Does he work? Please tell me he pays for things other then rent if he doesn't work and he doesn't pay for anything at all then he's not your boyfriend he's using you for a place to crash and all the benefits that come with it I bet he makes excuses as to why he doesn't pay half the rent
You just want to say "this is not a discussion I want to have but I can't keep paying for everything, we need to discuss how we are going to split the household bills"