If I was given a chance to change something about myself it would probably be how emotional I am, I get emotional so easily and I hate it. And also how clingy I am to my fiance he loves it but I don't really because I want to give him space and when I do try it those do not work if someone else is going through that please comment and tell me how you deal with it. 😔🥺
Emotional/maybe genetic/mental - probably the depression and social anxiety.
Maybe a bit more socially clued in, especially with women. I wish I was better with women. I don't know how to flirt or what to say... So if there's someone cute, I'm probably not hitting on them. I don't know how to approach it. And I assume that anything I would do to flirt would be considered "creepy." I'd like to think I know the basics, but it's always really looked down on.
I COULD talk to them if I figure there's no chance in hell of dating. I don't even know how to hint about a friend of a friend. And if they're working (and I'm a customer or something), or I'm working (and they're social), I'm in a "work mindset." Giving my card (when appropriate) is about as "forward" as I get.
I wish I was better at fashion, though I think I have the basics. I'm great at color coordination or working with a mood or personality... but sizes, branding, cuts (tailoring), or whatever tends to be beyond me. I mean, I think I look pretty good if I go "formal" - I dress up quite a bit... but I think they look at some of it and it doesn't work on the "cool" scale.
Physical: First thing - be taller - 6'1-6'4. Second: be better looking.
I wish I could be who I really am around other people. I try, but a switch flips in my brain and I become a totally different person.
(In some ways it's probably for the best, but still)
When I think about something impossible to change then probably the color of my eyes. I have brown eyes and I would like to make them something really interesting like a teal color. I could wear contacts but that's not for me.
If it's something feasible but I just have to put a ton of work into it, my anxiety related to dating. I get a ton of anxiety when I feel myself start getting closer to a guy.
It seems like it's always going too fast/I'm texting this guy too much/I need to slow this down because I can't breathe. Eventually I just end it because I can't deal with the horrible feelings inside myself.
I mean can't even tell a guy that's what I am going through he'll think I'm crazy. So I just act like I lost interest. Then the anxiety goes away. My anxiety gets really bad where I'm constantly full of stress.
I lose a bunch of weight and I am dreading and hating everything. I never relax and I feel uncomfortable always.
People who see me dating the guy are like, "Wow you act like you hate him why are you even with him?" It's like man I liked him at one point and I don't know what happened 😂.
I would like to overcome this. I don't know what's wrong with me.
Oh where to start? There's a lot I would change about myself: physically, mentally, and emotionally!
First starters: my body, specifically my weight. I'd love a hour glass figure and to be smaller than I am now... which yes, I'm actively working on by exercising and eating right! It's just hard getting there.
Next: I wish I was more photogenic and smiled on cue (people that can fake smiles in pictures and selfies). I am that person that actually looks worse in pictures than in person! Lol.
Even with filters, I look bad in pictures! But in person? I smile all the time! But ask me to take a picture? It looks like someone is torturing me!!! And when I try to smile in pictures, it looks fake and forced 😬 Which yes, it totally is, but that's besides the point...
Also I have atrocious self esteem. I wish I had more confidence in myself. I put myself down ALL the time! I think that's my way of keeping myself in check and not getting a big head.
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I overthink. That's one of my biggest concern about myself. I should worry less and just live life without complicating it by overthinking. I’m happy with myself and my family. But with overthinking I stress myself out for no reason
Mentally:
Excessive worrying about little things, which can impact performance and decision making.
I'd make it much easier for me to get over things.
Physically:
My hairline - it's too far back.
Hair texture - Straight from the front and curly from the back, as well as tangle-prone and frizzy.
Hair colour - too many white hairs, although but not the biggest deal.
Scapula winging - I'm muscular, but it's still there and needs to go.
Body hair - I don't want any growing anywhere below my neck, but I do manage it.
There's probably other things too, that I've missed out.
If you'd asked me this when I was a teenager I'd have come up with a bunch of things.
Boob size would have been on the list, as I'm tiny. But I'm now quite happy with that.
I also didn't like being tall, except that it was useful in netball. I wanted to be shorter, but I'm also happy with my height now.
The only thing that I'd change now is an annoying tendency my bladder has of needing to be emptied several times each night, and an even more annoying tendency once in a while of not waking me up first.
You can work on regulating and expressing your emotions, they are natural and exist for a reason. Our emotions are there to get our needs met so it is important that we address them.
That being said, if I could change something I'd possibly change the way I make eye contact. My eyes go everywhere and I'm bad at eye contact, it would be helpful to improve that.
I would increase my intelligence and my phyiscal performance.
I wonder how many guys are thinking 'I'd have a bigger dick' but are afraid to write it due to the 'dick question' police on here 😂 For the record I' perfectly happy with my junk :-)
Really big feet so I could freak people out when I went in the forest to walk around.
How I care about other people, and being emotional as a guy. If you are a guy like that, you will always get taken advantage of, by girls who see you as a homework help but never as an actual friend or more, your family will enslave you, and your friends will betray you even if you have saved them from gang beatings and much more. Glad I have learned finally and don't give fuck about any single human anymore even if they die in front of me. But I still volunteer at animal shelters.
Low self esteem and just feeling depressed I would change my hair, personality to be a bit more outgoing bc rn I feel closed off and not myself anymore. Can’t believe that a single guy can like me
My fate and the time opportunity enters my life. The best opportunities which are dreamy always enter in bad time.
Even if I could by choice I don't want to. I would rather the face of consequences of not changing.
Larger eyes, a more symmetrical face, I'm sure going up a bra cup size and losing 5lbs wouldn't offend anyone visually
My looks. My softhearted nature. Feeling emotional. I wish I could be beautiful, strong and close hearted.
I’m pretty emotional and I get kinda clingy too sometimes. If I could change one thing about myself it would be how moody I am.
I'd be more fake and dishonest. One thing life has taught me is most people would rather believe a pleasant fiction than an unpleasant truth. Which is why the fake and dishonest people get ahead the most.
I don't know, have purple eyes? Seems pretty cool for me
I would want to change myself for being an over emotional person, and my problem is falling in love too soon with a Girl.
I think if I could change something, it would be the way my parents / family communicated. I think that if we had talked more, I would I have felt less anxious today and more spontaneous. I tend to overthink in order to try to be accepted.
s nothing, I’ve grown past the insecurity stages of my life
Higher belief in myself. Confidence i guess, in every aspect of my life. Its ruined so much for me.
Oh there's so much I'd wanna change. I could write a thesis paper on the list of things I wanna change about myself.
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