Do you believe this idea that ''a man can love a woman without sleeping with her''?
Not all men are the same, but I still get the opposite impression on most men. Do you think this idea is still possible in today's age?
Many decades ago a man would court a woman for marriage and if he was old fashioned and disciplined sex wouldn’t happen until the knot was tied. Given there were a lot of young mothers back in the day I am more than sure the young married couple had LOTS of sex which is a good thing. It was pure and probably more much enjoyable/satisfying given the anticipation and fewer distractions back then.
Now that doesn’t mean people never had sex outside of marriage 70+ years ago. Shotgun weddings existed for a reason. But no warmed blooded straight male now or back then would “fall in love” with a woman and not want to sleep with her at some point
But all these selfish women commenting on here saying “yes it’s possible” are only wanting the perfect friéndzone scenario. They would love to have a man shower them with attention while simultaneously banging some “bad boy” to get their sexual needs met. Absolute best of both worlds for them.
The vast majority of women have just as strong if not stronger sexual needs then men. They don’t openly talk about it but make no mistake that libido is there. Only time it’s not is if they were raised in an extremely strict household OR they were sexually abused/assaulted when they were younger and have an unfortunate fear of men. However when you take away those two scenarios then women are usually very sexual creatures.
But they also have another very strong innate need: they crave attention. Men like attention too but we don’t need it to survive. But a woman needs to feel validated so most women feel less (if any) guilt for friendzoning a man.
However there are rare but real scenarios when both the man and woman have no attraction to one another yet are good friends. This requires all the pieces to fall in place absolutely perfectly work. It’s not common.
I do have a long time friendship with one woman where it exactly that. We have respectful non erotic love for one another. But again it only works because neither one of us have any real sexual attraction. She doesn’t try to freeload off me either and if she says/does something bitchy she always apologized. But again this is not common. I value her very much but men don’t women as “just friends” to survive in this world. We are independent.
Yes, it is possible for a man to love a woman without sleeping with her. Love is a complex emotion that can be expressed in many ways, and sexual intimacy is just one aspect of a romantic relationship.
There are many reasons why a man might choose not to engage in sexual activity with a woman that he loves. He may have personal or religious beliefs that dictate that sex should be reserved for marriage or a committed relationship. He may also prioritize emotional intimacy, communication, and companionship over physical intimacy.
It's important to remember that every individual and relationship is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. However, it's certainly possible for a man to love a woman without sleeping with her, and for a romantic relationship to be based on emotional intimacy, respect, and mutual affection rather than sexual activity.
No.
Definitely not in today’s day and age and barely in the old days. A man’s ultimate goal is sleeping with a woman at all costs, even if he has to wait it out and pretend to be a gentleman, and pretend to love her to the point of marriage if need be. But once they do sleep together that ‘love’ that was never true in the first place, dissipates and out of greed, he searches for a new woman to ‘love’. Even in the old times where women had little to minimal rights and were practically slaves to their husbands and most of them brainwashed into being the perfect housewife, we’re cheated on, beaten, etc. I think the bigger question is, are men capable of love at all. Love without pain. Love without deception. No, I don’t believe that either. Maybe. However, I, and many other women don’t see it. Men are entirely too focused on sex when sex is only a fraction of what it means to have a romantic love. So focused on sleeping with everything moving to the point where they will ruin their marriage, family, even careers over their greed.
So, No, a man cannot love a woman without sleeping with her. He likely can’t love a woman at all. Or himself enough to have morals. It’s Honestly sad. Praying for them. 🙏😔
I refused to sleep with one of the women I loved, because I knew it would be risky for her. I feared she'd be injured further, and didn't want to be responsible. You clearly confuse love and lust. And lust will always be about only checking off that tick mark.
I believe you’ve experienced that, but there are many men who are not like that. There are even a fair number of asexual men who never want sex - to the dismay of their girlfriends
They exist. There is a site asexuality. org. If you are looking for a relationship without sex it’s a good resource to learn more
@ObscuredBeyond same here man. I broke up with a girl who was wanting to have sex but i didn't want to hurt her. That takes a ton of self control.
Why so so many people think all men want is sex?
My opinion is based on the understanding that this is true, mature love we are talking about, not casual romance or lust.
A man can love a woman without sleeping with her. He will want to sleep with her as a natural expression of love, and if for some reason she doesn't want to or cannot, he will still love her. He will respect her wishes as best he can.
However, love WITHIN A COMMITMENT AND IN CLOSE PROXIMITY will be hard to sustain over a long period of time under those circumstances. Plants have to be watered to flourish and grow. Love that is continually frustrated and kept from growing will eventually suffer and die.
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Sure, that would be called family, not all love is sexual in nature. Like something that happens in many relationships is having children. I would sincerely hope that that's a love that has no sexual components aside from making babies. Even if you don't have kids, or siblings, most everyone has a mother.
Yes it's possible. It's very possible. When you surround yourself with people who see value in you other than sex, it is.
One very good friend of mine is a girl who is very attractive. Like whenever I go out with her, guys give me the look all the time 😂.
Is that to say that I wouldn't bang if the right situation came along? Who knows. I don't really even think about her like that mostly because I know so much about her and I know what I'm looking for.
Guys are definitely programmed to have as much sex with as many different women as possible. But that doesn't mean that any woman who you don't plan on sleeping with has no value in your life, that's crazy haha
I'd yes if there is some form of intimacy both are willing to see as an adequate substitute. I think it's possible but it has become unlikely since many guys grow with the impression that having had sex is what completes them being a man. I think it can still work out if you find a guy that is either religious and or not that much interested in sex due to some other values of his that make him wait for sex or less being interested in sex. I think since modern day culture is deeply sexualised and porn can be found nearly everywhere it's harder to find such a guy.
Yes.
You can easily see that because a man can love their mother, their sister, and their daughter, without sleeping with them. Is that love? Of course it’s love. It’s just not erotic or romantic love.
In terms of erotic or romantic love, it’s still possible, but the man will just need to exercise a lot of self-control and self-restraint, like going on a strict diet. It will be hard on him, but it’s possible.
Yes. For a while. Eventually he'll want to be intimate. He'll even wait for marriage to have her if he loves her but I doubt a guy would just hang around knowing there 100% can never be sex.
I assume we are talking lust, passionate, romantic love.
Yes, of course, and not being able to have intercourse can often be the catalyst for a truly rewarding relationship for both of them, especially if she's having a sexual relationship with another guy while she's involved with the non sexual male partner.
Jeez some of y'all never saw an asexual or aromantic person in your life and it really shows. But even if you're not on the ace/aro spectrum, it could just be how you experience love that could make it easy for you to have sex without feelings or catch feelings without having sex. It is different for everyone and that's ok.
Yes but the question is "does that make for a good relationship?"
It's very easy to love all kinds of people. Love can be one-sided in a lot of cases. When you can't actually be with them though, it's not great for a relationship.
While many people do just want sex and nothing more, testing someone's love by not sleeping with them to see if they'll put up with it is manipulative.
Yes, I can. There are many circumstances in this world. Love is much more than a fuck. That said if I loved her I would love to sleep with her, but not sleeping with her or even never being able to sleep with her will not make me love her any less. Love is a thing of the soul , and the soul never needs sex. The Soul just needs love.
Depends on the man (or woman). Some men (and women) are asexual and can feel love and never even slightly desire sex. For other men (and women) sex, romance and love are so tightly tied together that they cannot feel any of them without having all of them.
Men love through emotion which is going to be affected in some way by the quality and consistency of sex. But it's possible In the absence of sex before it was introduced, for some men to develop emotional attraction.
Obviously if it's been introduced and is taken away and denied consistently, he could naturally see that as diminishing interest from you which would have an effect in him
I completely agree with you, but for completely different reasons.
Not only do women expect the guy to be a scumbag, yet if he isn't, he isn't serious.
If I tell you that I'm a virgin, what's the first thing that comes to your mind?
I feel like context is missing here, most men will love their partner regardless if they’ve slept with them yet or not but why haven’t they? Does she not want to? If so that’s cool but eventually unless there’s a more in depth reason than that a lot of men would start wondering if she’s getting it elsewhere because we all have needs and if your partner isn’t getting ot from you they’re getting it from someone or something else
Yea but what the point? and usually men give love for sex, while women give sex for love.
I think so, he can be attracted to all her other qualities which amount to more than sleeping with her.
I tend to put more emphasis on her character and if we get along well, then the sexual part.
Of course.. Love is based on emotional connection.
Being physically intimate, in theory, only heightens that love. That's why it's called "making love".
Yes many have loved me despite most never even getting to sleep with me. I respect those who put other things over going straight to sex
Ofc that is nessacary because if he can't there are a lot chances he just loves your body not you. When a man loves a woman he loves spending time with her and even just staring at her face is a lot for him he should be able to sustain without sleeping
Yep. Actually that's how it is "supposed" to happen.
Sleeping with someone is something called "lust", while the feeling of "loving" has other feelings attached to it.
u Yes, because to love someone is a conscious choice. A man can have an emotional connection with a woman, cherish her, and will her good. Sex is not necessary for this.
Depends on what you mean. Are you talking (no sex in a marriage) or (no sex before marriage) ? No sex in the first example is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship.
I was in a relationship for 4 years and we never had sex. We slept together before but she was saving it for marriage.
Yes, why not?
People keep saying 'today's men' when they mean 'African blacks'.
There is a girl I'm in love with, have not slept with. I hope to see her and do just that, and organise our lives together/for more of the same.
Earlier I believed so , I was too innocent but realised women sleep with the men they are attracted to or actually love , sometimes instantly. If they don't actually like you and keeping you as a seting material later for life they hesitate sleeping with you.
I believe so, women can love men without sex so why can't men? After all we are all human with the same emotions. We just display them differently.
It's very possible, yes. Men can absolutely fall in love with women without sleepig with them. That's how relationships are supposed to grow.
Possible, sure. There's more than one type of love. Platonic, friendship, familial, and so on.
Definitely I think that's usually how a lot of men fall in love. Because they actually get to know her first instead of just jumping into bed
@Puppystarfish23 I doubt it. A man can't really love a woman w/out sleeping with her because until he does, it's difficult for him to separate the feeling of love and lust.
@Vegasrunner maybe that's a you thing
@Puppystarfish23 Nah that's most men. The difference is I have options so I can more vocal about it. That's also why a lot of guys lose interest in women after they've had sex w/ them.
It can be done I did it in my in my 20s while I was dating. Didn't sleep with a woman until I got married to her. If I can do it so can younger men. This when you get to know your companion better without having sex.
If I feel love for a girl it gets me hard and I want to insert. I think it has always been like this.
Lol if you can’t love someone without sleeping with them chances are it’s not love lol your in lust not love
Absolutely! I have loved several women and I'm still a virgin.
I have several female friends whom I love and I have zero interest in having sex with any of them.
That's not what she meant.
@LiamJHayden I believe the context was romantic love. It's okay, though.
@Jamie05rhs Could be, but since she didn't specify I just answered as asked.
Certainly depends on the Individual, but can give a "tell" about His Love for Her.
I've been with my Girl for 3 years now... Love Her all to beans, yet still have my V-card.
Love is an emotion that only the person experiencing can say is real.
I would say you can’t KNOW a person until you sleep and live with them. Why are divorces so high? Religious puritan bullshit.
That is usually the type of love that lasts - one that is built on love and not on sex.
If he's asexual.
I'm not saying all men wanna get it on but yeah, even the nicest guys eventually wanna do the devil's tango.
Many heterosexual people can as well, but they must be strong to say no to sex.
Yes. The women i love most were the ones i didn't sleep with or was willing to wait forever.
Love does not need lust. A man who loves a woman respects her a lot, he never looks at her in such a way, the consent of the girl is important for him.
Yes of course. You guys are weird for thinking you have to sleep with the person first lol.
Of course he can, Just because you hardly ever see it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
We obviously want Sex, But that doesn't mean we don't want love aswell.
I do think so. And lovemaking will intensify that
Love? Sure. I love my friends. But I'm not gonna let them move in with me, pay all their bills, and protect and provide for them the rest of their lives.
Ofc. If you don't believe that then that is something in you making you not believe that. In fact, it's the beginning of self-sabotage
That's my preferred order of doing things. If I like you and want to date, sex isn't on my mind.
Yeah they do. The ones that have crush on you. But you don’t give it to them
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Men need sex to feel love
Ever hear a woman say she doesn’t want a virgin guy because they’re too clingy
It depends. If you’re talking about romantic love, then eventually, no. If someone is waiting until marriage then they will eventually have sex. If there’s no plan to have sex at all then, no, there is no romantic love.
Of course... But It is kinda hard nowadays like you said...
Of course! The idea that a man must sleep with a woman to love her is crazy
Its like paid sex if u don't love who u sex with...
I fell in love with a woman before so much as hugging her.
Yes. But can a woman love a man without sleeping together?
Oo! That is a good question.
I would probably say "no". If I'm in a committed, romantic relationship,... I do desire sex from my female partner.
Of course he can, and a woman can love a man without sleeping with him
Sure. I fell in love with my girlfriend before we slept together.
Definitely. Sleeping and loving have nothing to do with each other.
I assume you mean romantically. In my opinion no. The two go hand in hand. Even if sex isn't a man's primary goal or concern he still wants to have it with a woman he has feelings for.
Of course it is, it is so much about her energy and what she thinks, that love being first is more beautiful actually
Absolutely he can love gas nothing to do with sex if you think your in love because the sex was good that's not love it's lust
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