Would you be ok with your partner having a girl best friend? why? why not?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It really depends. Like what is the nature of their friendship? Is she single or in a relationship? Have they ever hooked up or tried dating in the past? Over the years I’ve noticed that it’s pretty rare to see and male and female that from start to finish was a strictly platonic relationship. When it is there’s usually a catch, maybe either of them are gay/lesbian, one didn’t find the other attractive or and of the other possibilities I mentioned above. I’ve also dated a guy with a female best friend who was super clingy to him and it turned out he was in love with her but she never reciprocated. So it’s tricky, and not something I’m super comfortable with.

[Asker]

You asked all the serious questions
Yes i understand
Thank you

[Asker]

Where do you stand with this as of now? This year? A red flag for example for you or no?

[Opinion Owner]

As of now I wouldn’t be a fan of it, simply because I’ve seen the result and of course it’s shifted my views, whereas before I was much more open to my boyfriend having female friends. Still I think the nature of their friendship and where she stands would matter as well. Like if she is in a relationship currently or single and hanging around.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, I wouldn’t dictate who he can and can’t be friends with. My boyfriend now doesn’t have female friends and that stood out to me in the beginning.

[Asker]

That’s good honesty
Yes I do agree opposite gender friendship can work
Nowadays it seems more difficult
I’m glad you’re a happy girlfriend though

[Asker]

Plans on getting married one day?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean ideally I wouldn’t mind that sort of friendship if she were also in a relationship, even like a childhood friend or someone he doesn’t talk too often. My perspective is really based on like, a very close best friend sort of thing where she’s very clingy with him, jealous when he’s not giving her adequate attention and things like that which make it inappropriate to me. If it’s very casual then I don’t mind so much. Also thank you! This has been my healthiest, most mature relationship so if he wanted to get married one day I could see that potential with him☺️

[Asker]

What you said wasn’t wrong
It is tricky true
Let’s hope your partner never makes female friends because you will want to be his best friend and his girlfriend (soon to be wife someday) 😊

[Capricornunicorn92]

I'm not thrilled about it but as long as I meet her and get to know her and she seems cool then I don't mind it as much.

[Asker]

What if she’s the super protective girl over him? Would that worry you?

Or example what if she doesn’t like you?

[Capricornunicorn92]

No that wouldn't worry me but if she didn't like me then we would certainly have problems. I would try my hardest to get her to like me but at the end of the day, I'm not in a relationship with her, I'm in a relationship with him. I would just hope she wouldn't try to interfere with our relationship because then he would have to make a choice between me or her.

[Asker]

That’s true
Situations like that in opposite gender friendship is difficult

I do understand what you mean

[Nikki1989]

My husband has several female friends, and I have several male friends.

[Asker]

Glad you two are good